HELP!! WHY, I KINDA MESSED UP |
 Apr 21 2008, 10:55 PM
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So I have a girlfriend we have been going out for about 3 weeks now well this weekend i had sex with another girl it just kinda happened i think i might be a sex addict if i don't like every 1-2 months at least i kinda like have to call a friend well anyway we did this and i didn't feel bad at all no remorse or guilt afterwards nothing still like it was just sex to me nothing else i don't like the girl i mean shes pretty but thats it and i was wondering if this is weird i didn't tell my girlfriend and probably not going to i just was wondering why i don't care ?? any suggestions also her birthday is coming up and i want to get her a hoodie but i don't know what size she is like 5'6 normal weight for a girl not fat but not anorexic skinny any ideas??
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Apr 21 2008, 10:59 PM
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 sleep now, moon Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,540 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 526,212 |
Wow. all right. Punctuation is good.
You need to reevaluate your relationship with your girlfriend. If you're having sex with someone else that you also don't particularly care for, and feel that nothing's wrong, then I'm not sure you're ready to be in a relationship at this moment in time. As for the birthday deal, get your relationship straightened out before you buy her an actual gift... I can't tell if you're kidding or not x_x |
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Apr 21 2008, 11:07 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Head Staff Posts: 18,173 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,478 |
Yeah, you really should have just asked your girlfriend to sleep with you if you wanted sex that badly, although I don't think three weeks is long enough to be dating before sleeping with each other. And as for not feeling remorse, there's definitely something wrong there -- like a lack of commitment and loyalty to your girlfriend. I find it hard to believe you could do something like this without feeling at least a little bad about it. If you don't care, maybe you don't like your girlfriend enough to be dating her.
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Apr 21 2008, 11:16 PM
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Well I am 16 and I kinda think the reason why is because we have only been going out for about 3 weeks i like her but like i don't love her i mean if shed come out and dump me id be kinda upset but not really but isnt that normal when u first start out in a relationship you start out kinda together then grow stronger as time goes on ?? And there is no way shed have sex with me right now the farthest she will go is some foreplay.
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Apr 21 2008, 11:21 PM
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Senior Member Group: Head Staff Posts: 18,173 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,478 |
Still, you shouldn't have gone and slept with that other girl. I think you should tell your girlfriend what you did soon instead of waiting till after her birthday to do it. The longer you put it off, the worse it will look when you finally tell her. You need to come clean about this.
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Apr 21 2008, 11:23 PM
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sleep now, moon Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,540 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 526,212 |
I think you're just raging with way too many hormones right now. Put things on pause for now and think about what a relationship really means (and it's not all sex).
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Apr 21 2008, 11:25 PM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 18 Joined: Apr 2008 Member No: 643,077 |
I mean you think it would bad if i just kinda didn't say anything at all i mean never Like gurenteed shed never talk to me again ever and in 2 months or so im sure we will be havening sex at least she seems to think so
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Apr 21 2008, 11:29 PM
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sleep now, moon Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,540 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 526,212 |
Are you noticing how all your posts somehow mention sex?
This is madly immature. It's not all about sexual gratification. You're supposed to grow up someday, and figure out how real relationships - including friendships - work. Why do you like this chick in the first place anyway? |
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Apr 21 2008, 11:35 PM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 18 Joined: Apr 2008 Member No: 643,077 |
Welll why i Like her Well when im with her i have tons of fun like we are always laughing and haveing a good time no matter what She has these beautiful green eyes that when u look into you get lost in your thoughts When she has her arms around me i feel like on top of the world and when im holding her close or shes laying on me watching a movie it feels like nothing wrong could happend and all around she makes me happy
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Apr 21 2008, 11:38 PM
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Senior Member Group: Head Staff Posts: 18,173 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,478 |
Okay, well it's good that you can appreciate those aspects of your relationship. Is sex really that important to you? The way your relationship is now, it seems like it's developing well. If you really like and care about this girl, you can wait longer till she'll sleep with you... Although, as Ruth said, a relationship isn't all about just that.
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Apr 21 2008, 11:42 PM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 18 Joined: Apr 2008 Member No: 643,077 |
Yea i Know i Can thanks for all the Help GUYS an GIRLS you've enlightened me
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Apr 22 2008, 02:21 AM
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 durian Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,124 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,860 |
That's just shady that you're not even telling her that you've slept with someone else. I mean, there is a possibility that she might someday meet one of the girls you've slept with and you'll be busted pretty bad.
Think about it -- how would you like it if she slept with another guy behind your back, and she told you? Wouldn't you be pissed? If you aren't, then maybe you don't care enough about her. If you really wanted sex that bad AND this girl means so much to you (as you've mentioned all that romantic cheesy stuff in a previous post, lol), you should wait. ... You're only 16? Woah. |
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Apr 22 2008, 08:58 AM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 18 Joined: Apr 2008 Member No: 643,077 |
Well yea i would be mad if she told but i guess if she didn't tell me i would never no so i couldn't be mad ( even if they do meet the girl i did that with said she wouldn't say anything cause she doesn't wanna get her ass beat by my girlfriend ) but yea its kinda shady I guess Maybe in A few months i look back at how stupid i was for doing that but who knows
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Apr 22 2008, 09:17 AM
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 (′ ･ω･｀) Group: Official Designer Posts: 6,179 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 72,477 |
wow
you irresponsible person. you should definitely go tel your girlfriend what you did. QUOTE but isnt that normal when u first start out in a relationship you start out kinda together then grow stronger as time goes on ?? BIG problem there, how do you expect anything to be growing stronger if you've slept with another girl THREE weeks into dating? that is some serious issue. |
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Apr 22 2008, 11:38 AM
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Well what id like to know is there anyone who has done the same thing i mean it was wrong but it was still only 3 weeks not 3 months 3 weeks and it wasn't like i expected it to happen I was just out with a buddy one night and we invited some girls over and well we all got trashed and stoned out of are minds and i woke up beside this girl no clothes....... First time this has ever happened to me i new the girl and everything and she was kol and said no big that she does birth control so i guess i kinda set myself up for this to happen but idk
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Apr 22 2008, 11:42 AM
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 That's what she said. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,559 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 130,200 |
Hm...looks like you're in a pickle there, buddy. Well, we're still young, dude, and to me it kinda looks like you're not really ready to be in a relationship with someone.
 Its the raging hormones, you have to figure out what you really want. I say you put the birthday gift to the side until you figure out this puppy first. I mean, you say you like her but you don't love her but when you banged the brains out of some other girl, you didn't feel anything?
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Apr 22 2008, 07:55 PM
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 i've never wanted anything rationale. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,449 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 19,045 |
you're an ass.
ps- and you did more than "kinda" messed up. pps- wtf does her height and weight have to do with this? ppss- you're still an ass. |
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Apr 22 2008, 08:36 PM
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Yea your right i am an ass id agree with you there i mean what i did was wrong but who hasnt done something behind there girlfriend or boyfriends back and just kinda never said anything im sure alot of people have it just kinda happend i dont see it happening again and that I think in some ways i kinda appreciate haveing her more now and kinda do feel bad about what i did cause everytime we hang at one point that does pop in my mind
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Apr 22 2008, 08:46 PM
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 ‹(. .)› Group: Official Member Posts: 2,367 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,089 |
uh your gf deserves someone better than you. therefore you should tell her so she could break up with your sorry ass.
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Apr 22 2008, 09:44 PM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 18 Joined: Apr 2008 Member No: 643,077 |
yea u could be right or who knows maybe not But i think this relationship could turn out very good for some reason
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Apr 22 2008, 09:53 PM
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QUOTE(jerk112 @ Apr 22 2008, 09:36 PM)  Yea your right i am an ass id agree with you there i mean what i did was wrong but who hasnt done something behind there girlfriend or boyfriends back and just kinda never said anything im sure alot of people have it just kinda happend i dont see it happening again and that I think in some ways i kinda appreciate haveing her more now and kinda do feel bad about what i did cause everytime we hang at one point that does pop in my mind You slept with another female, thats just unexeptible, yes i have dont things behind a girls back, but nothing more than flirt or say "i love you" [to ex's], but that doesn't make up for sleeping with another girl, damn if you have to rub one out, but don't sleep with another girl. |
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Apr 22 2008, 10:26 PM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
wow. you make a shit boyfriend. if you wanted to have fun, you wouldn't be dating anyone in the first place. uh...who hasn't cheated you mean? a lot of people haven't cheated. i really hope that she finds out and dumps your sorry ass.
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Apr 23 2008, 02:30 AM
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durian Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,124 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,860 |
QUOTE(jerk112 @ Apr 22 2008, 09:38 AM) First time this has ever happened to me i new the girl and everything and she was kol and said no big that she does birth control Dude, even though this is the first time that this kind of incident happened, you need to consider your original post. You need to have sex at least once a month? QUOTE i think i might be a sex addict if i don't like every 1-2 months at least i kinda like have to call a friend WTF so before this incident, you had sex with another girl behind her back too? Eh?! Anyways, if having sex with some other chick makes you appreciate her more, then you are one fucked up guy. Also, the only thing I've ever done that might even be considered cheating is probably dancing with another guy. Of course I told my bf that but he said he doesn't like me doing that too much, but my boyfriend doesn't really like to dance. Eh. But I tell him all the time and I've only danced with guys that my bf knows (except one other guy, but he was chill and I told Tony about it anyway). Usually he's okay with it. Of course my situation is difference because I'd never do something so horrible like you would (even if it's just an accident -- you admitted that you set yourself up for it). I feel so sorry for her. I concur with synkro - tell her so she can break up with you.
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Apr 23 2008, 04:35 AM
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(′ ･ω･｀) Group: Official Designer Posts: 6,179 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 72,477 |
how the FUCK do you think it'll get better if you've cheated on her already? you expect her to trust you? god damn, she doesn't even know you. three weeks, you probably know her name and what color hair she has. you are so irresponsible, "its okay because the girl i cheated with is on birth control, ya know, no babies!" wow. just how messed up can you get? you have some serious issue. i hope you figure your big fat problem soon, or live a life of shittiness.
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Apr 23 2008, 05:34 AM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 18 Joined: Apr 2008 Member No: 643,077 |
hmmm well ill let you all know how we are doing in the next few weeks
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