Why are they doing this to me..? Options

[SummerSwt1527]

so i have had these 2 friends that i have had for 2 yrs and it was fun in the begining and everything, but i have grew up alot since then. i mean ima senior about to go into college and they seriously act like they are 12yrs old. I cant hang out w. them any more bcuz i just want to scream at them all the time because they are so childish. Well lately they have been getting mad at me and being mean to me. I think its because i click better w. my other friends then them. but its not my fault.. i dont kno what is up.. ?

[illriginal]

Maybe you're treatin them bad... and you're not realizing it. Now they're reacting the same way you've been reacting to them. Sit down and have a talk like a human being, if not... it'll only get worst, or you'll lose their friendship. Up to you.

[Tweeti]

Maybe you're treatin them bad... and you're not realizing it. Now they're reacting the same way you've been reacting to them. Sit down and have a talk like a human being, if not... it'll only get worst, or you'll lose their friendship. Up to you.

yeah, i think you should talk to them too

[cassidy26]

you really need to loosen up. just because you are going to college does not mean you can't act like a 12 year old. i know people in their fifties who act like they are 12 years old sometimes. You really need to get over yourself. It sounds like you think you are better then them. i guess that is why they are being mean to you.

[queen]

^it's a good thing to remain a child at heart, but there's a difference between joking around and just being plain immature. i could understand why one would not want to associate with annoying juveniles.

to SummerSwt1527: you've probably outgrown them. if you decide the friendship is worth it, talk it out with them. if not, f**k it and move on. friends are expendable, and you'll meet new ones in college.

[DoubleJ]

I agree with trying to talk to them, but I also agree, that you may have outgrown them. As I have gotten older, I have outgrown a lot of my friends. A wise person told me, that as you get older, you will have less friends.

[illriginal]

I agree with trying to talk to them, but I also agree, that you may have outgrown them. As I have gotten older, I have outgrown a lot of my friends. A wise person told me, that as you get older, you will have less friends.

Aint that the damn truth. Went from havin 60+ friends all from my neighborhood, down to like 22 friends (just counted in my head, feel like I'm missin a few people). Kinda sucks but oh well.

[misoshiru]

you've grown apart. there's nothing to do about it. it's impossible to be friends with everyone forever.

[transcendentalis...]

I think you've just grown out of them. It's difficult to be good friends with people with half the maturity that you have.

All the same though, take a good look at how you've treated them since day one and see if that answers any questions.

[SummerSwt1527]

yea. i think that i have out grown them. and i dont think that i am better then them. i hate people who think they are better then everyone else. so thats def. not it. and i have tried to talk to them. i ask them all the time. i am even like "do u guys have a problem w. me bcuz if u do u need to talk to me about it bcuz if not then its just going to get worse" and they say there is nothing wrong. but yet they still treat me horribly. i am still a child at heart but yea there is a diff. btwn that and being plain immature. let me tell u how immature thsy are so that u can get an idea.. we are driving down the road right and they see some one jogging or something, then they will yell penis at them.. or they draw penis's and hang them in school. or from true expirence. yesturday actually they took my full name and phone number on little peices of paper and threw them in the hallway. i had so many people come up to me and give the paper to me. and it was in my friends handwritting. that should give u a better understanding on how immature they are. i dont want to loose them as friends. but i also dont want them to be mean to me. its so hard to try to be kind of friends but not be talked about.

[LoveToMySilas]

Perhaps you have outgrown them, I mean, friends will always come and go. If you wanna compromise, then you'll find a way but if not, its time to move on.

[Glamourouz]

Yea, more than likely you've grown out of them so just let the friendship take it's course; if they want to be mean to you, put them in their place & keep it movin, you click better with your new friends anyway so deal with them...Ok yea, it doesn't mean older people can't act childish but I know me, I can only take so much immaturity & it's certain things I don't & won't act childish about & if people do then they just irk me & I just don't deal with them much because of their immaturity I can't stand...so just make your own judgement, if you're tired of them, then take a break...it's cool to take breaks from friends every now & then, if they're your real friends they'd understand

[cassidy26]

it sounds like your the one with the problem. why did you start being friends with them in the first place if you dont like how they act? If they are your friends then they should be able to act however they want around you. Maybe they are mean to you because you are mean to them in the first place? think about it, if they were good friends before, maybe the way you act caused them to be mean towards you. are you really as mature as you say you are?