Emotional Cheating Options

[AimeeLynn]

I wouldn't say i have Emotionally Cheated, but I do get attracted to other girls.
But at the time i usually like my girlfriend more, but if i ever have thoughts about another girl, its mainly because there pretty, and i don't have fantasies, i just imagine what it would be like to be with that girl.
I don't find it cheating.

YES! exactly what I say. I get attracted to other guys but not to a point that I am having sex with them.

[NoSex]

According to Seventeen magazine, yes.

Well, I mean... Seventeen magazine is a clear authority.

[illriginal]

The western ideal of romance is so unrealistic and oppressive. That a single person could entirely fulfill another's intellectual, sexual, and emotional satisfaction is absurd. By suggesting that even the mere emotional outlets one has from a relationship constitutes cheating is inflammatory bullshit.

If people weren't so stupid, insecure, and superstitious, maybe this bullshit could end. But, instead, they write this sort of shit in teen magazines and suddenly... if he isn't talking to you, he's cheating and hates your guts. Psychic death, anyone?

I fully agree.

[misoshiru]

The western ideal of romance is so unrealistic and oppressive. That a single person could entirely fulfill another's intellectual, sexual, and emotional satisfaction is absurd. By suggesting that even the mere emotional outlets one has from a relationship constitutes cheating is inflammatory bullshit.

If people weren't so stupid, insecure, and superstitious, maybe this bullshit could end. But, instead, they write this sort of shit in teen magazines and suddenly... if he isn't talking to you, he's cheating and hates your guts. Psychic death, anyone?

so you and tama are into polygamy yes?

[illriginal]

so you and tama are into polygamy yes?

No. At least not I, that just doesn't make sense. Where did you get this idea from, if you don't mind me asking?

[pandora]

Well I would consider emotional cheating like... telling someone who isnt your bf that you love them romantically. You might not be physically/sexually cheating on them but yes that is a form of cheating to me, and sometimes it can really drive a wedge in your relationship. On the other hand, I don't consider just talking to someone more than you talk to your bf emotional cheating. It's okay to have friends that you might confide in more than you feel you can with your bf. I guess the question really is "where do you cross the line?"

[NoSex]

so you and tama are into polygamy yes?

I'm into polyamory, not polygamy.
Free, consensual, acknowledged, understood, and conductive love.

[queen]

^ how's that been working out for you?

i've never known someone who was willing to be in multiple serious relationships at a time.

[illriginal]

I'm into polyamory, not polygamy.
Free, consensual, acknowledged, understood, and conductive love.

[Tweeti]

most of that is just flirting, but if it's to the point where you are getting excited about another man's text then you need to re-evaluate your relationship

[NoSex]

^ how's that been working out for you?

I've never actually been in multiple sexual or romantic relationships (at one given time), and don't exactly care to (I have a hard enough time having any sort of feeling for a single person, let alone more than one).

i've never known someone who was willing to be in multiple serious relationships at a time.

I have. A good number of people. They're doing fine.

[superstitious]

I guess I would have to say no, I haven't "emotionally cheated." I know my limits, emotionally. I don't commit and as such, I don't feel like an emotional cheater. I have a hard time with the idea of settling down with one person. I'm sure that there's several reasons for that, but I don't find having one mate a necessity.

I get a lot of crap for my state of mind, especially because I am a mom and often, because I'm a woman and people have it embedded in their mind that women should long for exclusive commitment, sexually and emotionally.

[queen]

I have. A good number of people. They're doing fine.

wow, kudos to them. i wouldn't be able to do that, but then again my perspective of an intimate relationship may be different; the only way i'd be able to engage in multiple relationships were if they were very casual, not intimate.

so my next question: do these people that you know who practice polyamory ever break up? haha

[ersatz]

I think I'm emotionally cheating right now, but it's not so much that I like this new person, they just perk my interests...they're very cool and they sort of think like me, which makes me really, really excited because not a lot of people think like me or understand me...most of my friendships (mostly at school) are me performing sociology experiments and just wanting to understand everyone I know. I don't like a lot of people, really. So I'm not sure if I'm just excited that I met a boy with a similar mind or if I actually like him. I'll have to talk to him more and see.

[fagget]

I am a strict follower of the rules of Seventeen magazine. I mean, I AM a 15-year-old.

Those are some bullshit "guidelines" of "emotional cheating".

[illriginal]

You guys shouldn't depend on a magazine for guidelines. I think I'm gonna commit a terrorist act on all media outlets in America.



JK

[Tweeti]

You guys shouldn't depend on a magazine for guidelines. I think I'm gonna commit a terrorist act on all media outlets in America.



JK

... not funny after everything that's happened.

[illriginal]

... not funny after everything that's happened.

Blame Bush and the Neo-Templar Knights wwwwwww

[NoSex]

so my next question: do these people that you know who practice polyamory ever break up? haha

Can't really "break up" in a polyamorous relationship; you aren't actually "going out," in the first place (or at least, most of the time).

... not funny after everything that's happened.

I thought it was funny.

[Joss-eh-lime]

nahh its not "cheating" b/c they are just your friend.
if you start to like this other person more than your current bf/gf than its time to break up, simple as that.

i have experienced this though...i felt kind of bad, but i got over it.