Oral Sex? Is it wrong for me to not give head? |
 Apr 15 2008, 09:59 PM
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In my personal opinion, I really don't want to give head/oral sex to ANY guy. I think it's disgusting but no offense to other girls who do it. I just don't like, I don't want to do it, and i've been with my boyfriend for 10 months already and we've talked about this. He said he understands me and that he respects me far too much to ever let me do that. But some people and "friends" pressure me to do it. And just the other day this guy told me "All girls will blow a guy. You'll do it someday." It made me feel really uncomfortable and the thought of myself ever doing it is even more uncomfortable. I don't know what to do. I just don't like and I also want to know if there's older girls out there from ages 19 and up to tell me if they don't like it either. I need to know if i'm alone on this.
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Apr 15 2008, 10:01 PM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
if you don't want to, then don't.
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Apr 15 2008, 10:01 PM
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 ٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
don't blow him if you don't want to. simple as that.
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Apr 15 2008, 10:01 PM
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 /人◕‿‿◕人\ Group: Official Member Posts: 8,283 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 602,927 |
Its not wrong, but its not right either.
Its all about personal preference. If you like to blow, you like to blow. If you like celibacy, thats your choice. |
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Apr 15 2008, 10:02 PM
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 Tick tock, Bill Group: Administrator Posts: 8,764 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 333,948 |
QUOTE(misoshiru @ Apr 15 2008, 10:01 PM)  if you don't want to, then don't. QUOTE(Tungster @ Apr 15 2008, 10:01 PM) don't blow him if you don't want to. simple as that. Exactly. See, that little thing called choice? Use it. It's all yours. ;) |
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Apr 15 2008, 10:04 PM
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 DDR \\ I'm Dee :) Group: Mentor Posts: 8,662 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 384,020 |
Well, since your boyfriend is okay with you not wanting to do it than don't let what anyone else says bother you. Your sex life is your own personal business and it shouldn't matter to any friend of yours whether you do or do not do it.
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Apr 15 2008, 10:05 PM
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I see that. But some people tell me "Ya know. Your still young and you don't know what you want." And it bothers me that nobody really understands.
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Apr 15 2008, 10:09 PM
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well just don't give head...
Well I didn't like it at first but it's ok now I guess. For me it's doing a favor for the guy. |
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Apr 15 2008, 10:20 PM
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QUOTE(SAMANTHAfamous @ Apr 15 2008, 11:05 PM) I see that. But some people tell me "Ya know. Your still young and you don't know what you want." And it bothers me that nobody really understands. Well...you know what you want right now. That's what counts. Who cares whether your opinion may change in the future. |
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Apr 15 2008, 10:31 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 75 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 602,719 |
QUOTE(aimeesayswhat @ Apr 15 2008, 10:09 PM) well just don't give head... Well I didn't like it at first but it's ok now I guess. For me it's doing a favor for the guy. Favor or not, I don't believe in doing it to prove you love him. That's what many people say. "If you love a guy you'll blow him. If you don't want to do it your stupid." Wtf??? I agree what many of you say about not doing it because it's MY decision and MY body. And i'm happy I found someone who understands me and isn't like other people. He' s saying he's NOT going to let me do it. And I know that's my answer. But how do I get rid of the peer pressure? I suck in too many lies and it gets in my head and I hate that dreadful feeling. I want to know if there's other girls out there mature and older than me that agree so I can prove them wrong. I'm 14 1/2 by the way and I know I still have growing up to do. SOME girls think it's disgusting and then they change their mind later on. But do some girls keep their word and not do it? I have this strong feeling that even when i'm married, I still won't do it. |
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Apr 15 2008, 10:37 PM
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DDR \\ I'm Dee :) Group: Mentor Posts: 8,662 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 384,020 |
Honestly, I think you're smart for not doing anything like that, esspecially at you're age. You're mature and above all, you've stuck to what you believe in. I'm not too sure how you feel pressure from your friends, but I remember when I was your age and girls were doing things like that. I wasn't. And now that years have passed, a lot of them regret some of the things they've done. You seem very mature and very aware of yourself. You've found a guy who isn't pressuring you... I think it would be harder for you if he was the source of this pressure. Just stick to your guns, and never be ashamed of what you believe and what you haven't done.
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Apr 15 2008, 10:37 PM
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 tell me more. Group: Official Member Posts: 2,798 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 35,640 |
don't let your friends pressure you.
make a choice and stick with it, all the way. |
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Apr 15 2008, 10:42 PM
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what's the whole point in pleasuring a guy by doing something you don't like doing or aren't comfortable with it? i know your boyfriend isn't like that and he doesn't want you to which is good for the both of you. but think about it. what do you have to worry about? if he doesn't want it and you don't want it, isn't that your answer then? some girls do it cuz they love it, others do it to please their man. but there's other ways to please a guy then just sucking that part...
ALOT of guys don't wanna go down on a girl cuz that's where girls have their periods and pee from. shouldn't guys understand that girls feel the same way? |
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Apr 15 2008, 10:54 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 75 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 602,719 |
QUOTE(karmakiller @ Apr 15 2008, 10:37 PM) Honestly, I think you're smart for not doing anything like that, esspecially at you're age. You're mature and above all, you've stuck to what you believe in. I'm not too sure how you feel pressure from your friends, but I remember when I was your age and girls were doing things like that. I wasn't. And now that years have passed, a lot of them regret some of the things they've done. You seem very mature and very aware of yourself. You've found a guy who isn't pressuring you... I think it would be harder for you if he was the source of this pressure. Just stick to your guns, and never be ashamed of what you believe and what you haven't done. I know someone understands me and believes in what I say.  Thank you.
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Apr 15 2008, 10:59 PM
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٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
removed.
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Apr 15 2008, 11:00 PM
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QUOTE(Tungster @ Apr 15 2008, 10:59 PM) removed. that was unnessasary. |
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Apr 15 2008, 11:04 PM
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 cB Assassin Group: Official Member Posts: 10,147 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 7,672 |
Do it. Or else he'll break up with you.
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Apr 15 2008, 11:11 PM
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QUOTE(Sulfur @ Apr 15 2008, 11:04 PM) Do it. Or else he'll break up with you.  blech |
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Apr 15 2008, 11:23 PM
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QUOTE(Sulfur @ Apr 15 2008, 11:04 PM) Do it. Or else he'll break up with you. If you like it so much why dont you do it? |
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Apr 16 2008, 12:12 AM
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QUOTE(SAMANTHAfamous @ Apr 15 2008, 10:31 PM) Favor or not, I don't believe in doing it to prove you love him. That's what many people say. "If you love a guy you'll blow him. If you don't want to do it your stupid." Wtf?? That guy is stupid. He'll never fall in love with a girl because all he'll want to do is have sex, sex, sex and more sex. Geez, tell him to get with a whore, one that will blow him all night. Tell it to him straight up that he's immature and stupid for thinking that. Let's see what he feels. Like you said once, if not all guys respect girls. They can at lease respect their morals. >:( And if he starts talking more mess and pressuring you again, tell him to grow a dick and shove something in his mouth. Let's see how much he'll enjoy that. |
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Apr 16 2008, 12:39 AM
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٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
QUOTE(tilaaaaa @ Apr 15 2008, 09:00 PM) that was unnessasary. Whoa, is that your picture in your profile there. 
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Apr 16 2008, 12:46 AM
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QUOTE(Tungster @ Apr 16 2008, 12:39 AM) Whoa, is that your picture in your profile there. Yessir. 
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Apr 16 2008, 12:50 AM
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٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
QUOTE(tilaaaaa @ Apr 15 2008, 10:46 PM) Yessir. You're smoking hot. 
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Apr 16 2008, 12:52 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 32 Joined: Jan 2008 Member No: 608,008 |
QUOTE(Tungster @ Apr 16 2008, 12:50 AM) You're smoking hot. Well I do model. I'm not that attractive in my point of view. I think Samantha is way prettier than me. Then again, most girls have their low self-esteem. |
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Apr 16 2008, 12:59 AM
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٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
I just saw Samantha's picture and she is pretty cute, but I won't go any further, since I just notice she's only 14.
 Oh yeah? Where do you model at? |
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