GIRLS... what movie n dinner mean to you.....? Options

[Tung]

GIRLS... what movie n dinner mean to you.....? DATE or just friend hanging out...

[tokyo-rose]

Tung, why are you trying to take over nquack's position now that he's suspended for two weeks? :P

[illriginal]

Tung, why are you trying to take over nquack's position now that he's suspended for two weeks? :P

He's either drunk... or needs a good swift kick in the balls.

[Tung]

I'm being serious lol. What does a movie and dinner means to girls? Like if a guy ask you out on a movie and a dinner, would you consider that a date, or a friendly hang out?

[karmakiller]

In a big dark room, with sticky floors (lol), just the two of you watching a movie. I'd consider it a date.

If it was you, her, and some other friends goin' to catch a movie that would be more like hanging.

[illriginal]

I'm being serious lol. What does a movie and dinner means to girls? Like if a guy ask you out on a movie and a dinner, would you consider that a date, or a friendly hang out?

Depends on your (guy's) intention when asking the female.

[Tung]

Depends on your (guy's) intention when asking the female.

How can it depend on his intention? His thoughts can't really be heard from the girl's perspective. I mean what if the guy truly just asked the girl on a friendly hang out to the movies and go eat out for dinner, but the girl doesn't see it that way. And she see's it more as a date.

[illriginal]

How can it depend on his intention? His thoughts can't really be heard from the girl's perspective. I mean what if the guy truly just asked the girl on a friendly hang out to the movies and go eat out for dinner, but the girl doesn't see it that way. And she see's it more as a date.

Because those words would have to have some sort of expression or emotion behind it. You can ask a question which seems innocent and friendly, or you could ask the same question with intentions beyond friendship.

[Tung]

Because those words would have to have some sort of expression or emotion behind it. You can ask a question which seems innocent and friendly, or you could ask the same question with intentions beyond friendship.

I know a guy can put on a fake tone and try to act innocent with his expressions and words, but I'm saying if his intentions really are just for hanging out as a friendly thing, but girls seem to always think more into things, and they think it's a date, when the guy isn't interested in her like that. Just want to hang out have a good time you know.

Plus, this is more for girls to answer. So you're not really helping much on this case.

[illriginal]

I know a guy can put on a fake tone and try to act innocent with his expressions and words, but I'm saying if his intentions really are just for hanging out as a friendly thing, but girls seem to always think more into things, and they think it's a date, when the guy isn't interested in her like that. Just want to hang out have a good time you know.

Plus, this is more for girls to answer. So you're not really helping much on this case.

Oh that's cuz of their pride.
But you're right... I'll shut up now.

[lovescream]

Uhh, from personal experience, I now think they're all just friendly hangouts. Haha. xD Unless a guy actually asks "will you go out with me?" and then "dinner and a movie?" that is a date for me. I'm cautious now rofl D:

[queen]

i usually ask to confirm if it's a friend-date or an "i'm interested"-date.

[Tung]

i usually ask to confirm if it's a friend-date or an "i'm interested"-date.

Wouldn't that just awkward things out. I mean here he is trying to just hang out and have a good time with you, and bam, you ask him this question to confirm it, then he starts to wonder if you are getting wrong intentions, and he doesn't feel like hanging out anymore. I don't know, seems really awkward if you ask that.

[tokyo-rose]

I'm being serious lol. What does a movie and dinner means to girls? Like if a guy ask you out on a movie and a dinner, would you consider that a date, or a friendly hang out?

Haha, sorry. It's just that you were typing kind of like him.

I think it depends on how you say it and where you take her. If you ask her about dinner and a movie in a casual tone, and you bring her to a relaxed eatery afterward, then it's more like a hangout. If you bring her to a fancier place, then that's definitely more date-like.

Anyway, I think I know why you're asking, so just keep it fairly casual.

[illriginal]

-.- tung, don't tell me you asked out a girl via internet... that is ultimately un-alpha. Unless you were myspace-ho-huntin, then that's different.

[Tung]

-.- tung, don't tell me you asked out a girl via internet... that is ultimately un-alpha. Unless you were myspace-ho-huntin, then that's different.

LOL. Sorry bro, but I don't date online, or ask ONLINE like some bitches here do on cB. Who the hell dates online? LOL. That's a joke in itself already.

And this isn't about me. I'm just curious that's all.

[queen]

Wouldn't that just awkward things out. I mean here he is trying to just hang out and have a good time with you, and bam, you ask him this question to confirm it, then he starts to wonder if you are getting wrong intentions, and he doesn't feel like hanging out anymore. I don't know, seems really awkward if you ask that.

i don't think so. besides, i'd rather do away with the beating around the bush bullshit. if a guy wants to have a date as more than friends, i believe he should make it clear. if it gets awkward for him, then it just makes it easier for me, since the guys i wouldn't want to be with would be pruned out for me.

also, i wouldn't need to ask friends 'cause i'd just assume it's a friend-date. if a friend one day decides he wants to be something more, i'll leave it up to him to let me know. and then there's the dating of acquaintances, or people you don't know as deeply as you know your friends. in this case, i'd consider it a date date, even if down the line we'd end up as nothing more than friends.

lastly, there's more than one way to ask the question. i'd usually just ask in a joking manner, "so is this a date date?" the way the guy would respond would let me know. but this is just me ;o

[marielamuneka]

Movie & Dinner with a friend doesnt really happen to me
usually its movie and subway or food at home lol thats what friends do(unless your in a group, then you have dinner at a resturant it's str8) but if you go to a resturant or something for dinner with just 1 friend its probably a date you just dont know it yet lol.

I'd think it was a date, and probably wouldnt go. lol

[aaayotiffany]

i've always thought of dinner and a movie to be hangouts. with my friends, we do dinner and a movie a lot. its our way of "bonding" or we hang out at someone's house and play ddr, guitar hero, rock band and watch movies instead of spending $9. unless the guy likes you and he really wants to take you out, lol. my first date with my current guy was a movie - four brothers. it was like the perfect date, everything went great.

i wouldn't think its a date unless i know for a fact that the guy likes me.

[firescorpy]

I had dinner and movie with female friends before... just hanging out.

[Glamourouz]

It depends on who the guy is...but usually it's specified whether it's a date or not...having to guess & figure out is kind of childish

[dustbunny]

it definitely depends on the relationship you have between the guy. as synrko said, the best way is to just ask. to hell with awkwardness, if a guy takes you out to dinner with intentions of dating but you treat it as hanging out, that's just going to cause even more awkwardness later on, or the situation vice versa. i'm straightforward with all guys so i have no problem asking if the situation is ambiguous.

as for the "general" movie + dinner thing, I've done it as a hanging out thing and I've done it as a more date-like thing. I've actually done both with one guy before actually rofl.

also, if a girl does this movie+dinner thing thinking it's just a normal hangout and doesn't ask questions, she HAS to keep her guard up and pick up hints to see if the guy is behaving a little differently than he usually is. if the girl feels the guy's treating her more affectionately etc etc she needs to just come right out and ask what his intentions are before things get meeeessy.

[Melissa]

It depends on how he asks. I usually try not to assume anything. If I'm confused, I'll ask. Or if I really don't want to date this person and feel like he wants a date, I usually mention a few people who can tag along.

[illriginal]

I had dinner and movie with female friends before... just hanging out.

same here...

[misoshiru]

depends on what kind of dinner. if it's a nice dinner, and they tell me it's a date, then yeah, it'll be a date. but if it's some crap mcdonalds shit, then it'll never be a date.