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[dustbunny]

k after I figured out why names are being thrown around, GREAT JOB PEOPPLE for trying to make things as difficult for everyone as possible.

[Edwinbarkhordari...]

I think you guys should just take a break and tell him to gather all of his thoughts and then go from there...it seems like your bf is indecisive heh...and I thought that was a female characteristic :P

[dustbunny]

lol, tama probably looked at her profile, which says she's 18.

and I'm sorry, besides the fact that her profile shows she's 18, what, in her topic, informs you that she is a "teen?"

that was the entire point. he can SEE her age. if there was no way he could see her age, he would NOT have even brought up the teenage relationship shit, because he wouldn't even KNOW that she was a teen.

[Tung]

I think you guys should just take a break and tell him to gather all of his thoughts and then go from there...it seems like your bf is indecisive heh...and I thought that was a female characteristic :P

you're stupid in thinking that men can't be indecisive. give me two choices of two hot equally hot girls with great personality, and I would have a hard time choosing who.

[Heathasm]

i still have feelings for my ex . . . but my bf knows we have history and that we still talk to each other . . .

if this is a ~new~ relationship i would get out of it while i could if you can't trust him not to fool around with his ex if the opportunity presented itself.

[dustbunny]

you're stupid in thinking that men can't be indecisive. give me two choices of two hot equally hot girls with great personality, and I would have a hard time choosing who.

the person isn't stupid in "thinking" that way because they WEREN'T. if you couldn't pick up the cues from that comment I'll spell it out for you. IT WAS A JOKE. A LITTLE QUIRKY COMMENT MEANT FOR AMUSEMENT.

BIG HINT

:P

[Tung]

the person isn't stupid in "thinking" that way because they WEREN'T. if you couldn't pick up the cues from that comment I'll spell it out for you. IT WAS A JOKE. A LITTLE QUIRKY COMMENT MEANT FOR AMUSEMENT.

BIG HINT

hard to tell whether that was a joke or not honestly. the only thing that would left a "i wasn't being serious" was the ":p" at the end of comment.

[Edwinbarkhordari...]

the person isn't stupid in "thinking" that way because they WEREN'T. if you couldn't pick up the cues from that comment I'll spell it out for you. IT WAS A JOKE. A LITTLE QUIRKY COMMENT MEANT FOR AMUSEMENT.

BIG HINT

^^ what he said Jesus Christ calm down and take a joke lol...like I said before take some time off until he clears his mind and go from there..

[libertie]

if the opportunity presented itself.

It won't. Ever again.

[dustbunny]

okay although I hate to go off topic continuously here, I must answer tung.

irl, the " and I thought " is commonly/usually/often said in a sarcastic manner.

[Melissa]

that was the entire point. he can SEE her age. if there was no way he could see her age, he would NOT have even brought up the teenage relationship shit, because he wouldn't even KNOW that she was a teen.

Look. There's no need to get all hyper. Obviously, he saw her age (or assumed she was a teen, given the demography of the cB population in general) and made a comment towards teen relationships. Is there a problem with that? He's entitled to his opinion, as are you and everyone else. Why are you going on and on about an age? Are we not allowed to look at the OP's profile page?

[Tung]

^^ what he said Jesus Christ calm down and take a joke lol...like I said before take some time off until he clears his mind and go from there..

lol it's a she

but yeah, my fault. thought you were being serious there.


as for the situation, like i said. shouldn't let online people get involved in your relationship. they tend to try to f**k it up for you, especially since alot of people here online heavily favor the ex. just saying.

[dustbunny]

hm sorry, I guess I'm getting all hyper because my point doesn't seem to be getting across to people.

I felt that his "advice" was biased/unnecessary and only stemmed from his already biased opinion on teen relationships. there is nothing indicative of a teen relationship situation in the topic to begin with, so his generalization that "teens are wasting their times etc etc" doesn't really have anything to do with this topic.

[Tung]

hm sorry, I guess I'm getting all hyper because my point doesn't seem to be getting across to people.

i actually understand what you're saying. he wouldn't have the same reply as "f**k you, you're a f**ken teen, you're stupid, you don't know anything" it might have been different had he not knew her age.

right? or am i also totally off here.

[iDecay]

Honestly, haven't you realized that he's just never really going to get over her for good? I know she's not going to let him do it again, but I'm pretty sure the feelings are still there and will still remain there. It's not like it's the first time he still has had feelings for her. Julie and I have tried helping before, but obviously nothing works.

Sorry, Keil.

[dustbunny]

i actually understand what you're saying. he wouldn't have the same reply as "f**k you, you're a f**ken teen, you're stupid, you don't know anything" it might have been different had he not knew her age.

right? or am i also totally off here.

you're right on.

[Melissa]

No, I definitely get what you're saying. The topic isn't something typical in a teen relationship so there really shouldn't be a reason why he's giving her a "teen relationship" bullshit lecture, right?

The thing is, when you read a topic, you can take what you read as is or try to put it in context of something. If a 12 or 13 year old told you that her boyfriend's still hung up over his ex-girlfriend and she doesn't know what to do, you'd probably tell him or her to stop worrying about her boyfriend and that she's too young to think about a relationship (well, that's what I would do). If an 18 year old said the same thing, I'd probably tell her to be a little more patient until her boyfriend figures things out or works things through.

I guess Tama's idea of what's acceptable and what's not acceptable for people to be doing at what age is just a little bit different.

[aaayotiffany]

well, if he says he won't do it anymore, do you believe him?
i mean, if you really think he's worth it, you can stay with him but only if he agrees to stops talking to her because he won't get over her if he keeps talking to her.

have you ever thought maybe you rushed into the relationship?

[dustbunny]

Heartquasm: I know and agree for the most part with what you said, I just didn't expect to have to drag along that subject for so long. It was meant for Tama to answer and have that issue resolved quick and easy, but I ended up having to keep saying what I meant over and over again since no one was getting it...

[Melissa]

boo.

tama's just gonna give you an answer that'll just further irritate you.

[dustbunny]

I'M TOO IMPULSIVE FOR MY OWN GOOD I KNOW.

/end off topic

[libertie]

Let me explain something to the people who don't know what's going on.

I am the ex her boyfriend had been talking to. I was lied to in this situation as well and believe me, there is no chance of him ever being involved with me again.

However, being that I am the person on the other side of this story, I can tell you based on what he's said to me in the past, staying with him is not a good idea. Not now, at least. Maybe in the future, but that's a long shot. In fact, I'm almost begging you not to give him another chance if it is requested from you.

Keil.. Kristina, I'm not sure what to call you. I'm sorry. I trusted him, too. I feel awful that this happened and I wish it had gone much differently.

If it makes you feel any better, I am not saying that there's not a chance simply because I'm upset over any of this. I am upset, but the truth is I am over him. 100%. I have moved on. He needs to move on as well.

[Tung]

I have a question. How long have you two been together? If it's just for a few weeks, I say break it off right now, and just talk about it before going any further.

Take the time to address the issue at hand. If he's not over his Dani then you need to give him time to think about what he really wants. As Dani said, no hell will they ever be together.

[Sprague]

Woow. So much publicity. :3

To all of those who are wondering, I figured this out myself, with Jose's help too, of course.

lol it's a she

but yeah, my fault. thought you were being serious there.
as for the situation, like i said. shouldn't let online people get involved in your relationship. they tend to try to f**k it up for you, especially since alot of people here online heavily favor the ex. just saying.

That's okay. I don't really care who any of you favor, as long as I know who the person we're speaking of favors. And I do. ;)

have you ever thought maybe you rushed into the relationship?

I have thought about this quite a lot of times. I know Jose's reasons for rushing into them, and he knows mine, and we've both sorted them out equally.

I have a question. How long have you two been together? If it's just for a few weeks, I say break it off right now, and just talk about it before going any further.

We've been together since him and Dani broke up. Actually, I'm 1/4th the reason they broke up, because he started having feelings for me during their relationship.

Anyways. I've dealt with it, and everything is okay now. :) Thanks for talking to me Dani. Btw, call me Kristina. Only you and Tina know of me as Keil. xP And thank you doiink. xD I'm gonna give Jose a good kick in the balls when he comes over to my house. ^^

[Elba]

Are you proud that you're 1/4 part of the reason they broke up?