how close are you to your bf/gf's parents? Options

[Heathasm]

i wouldn't say that i have a good relationship with my bf's mom . . . i wouldn't even say that i like her very much at all. i guess i dont have much respect for someone that acts like a child and expects her son to do everything for her besides goto her shitty job at the truck stop.

since she has lost her car because she's an irritational idiot, she's been trying to get me to drive an hour all the way to longview to take her to run errands and it feels so good just saying "nah, i dont feel like it"-although sometimes i cave in just to keep appearances up.

so, what are your feelings towards your significant other's parental figures?

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i wouldn't say that i have a good relationship with my bf's mom . . . i wouldn't even say that i like her very much at all.

Well, i was never really "good enough" for their only son. It wasnt until recently that they came around and actually made an effor to get to know me. 3 years after me and their son started dating

So i'm not all that fond of them at all. They have done some pretty f**ked up things and have gone completely out of their way to make our relationship sink, but in the end i suppose they realized they couldn't get to us so they stopped.

[mizzkewl06]

Well, i was never really "good enough" for their only son. It wasnt until recently that they came around and actually made an effor to get to know me. 3 years after me and their son started dating

So i'm not all that fond of them at all. They have done some pretty f**ked up things and have gone completely out of their way to make our relationship sink, but in the end i suppose they realized they couldn't get to us so they stopped.

same situation here. not until recently (after many problems & set backs) have they made any effort to get to know me. im not very fond of them (and im sure theyre not fond of me)... but i love my boyfriend and am trying to atleast be able to be in the same place as them without having any problems.

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... but i love my boyfriend and i am trying to at least be able to be in the same place as them without having any problems.

Thats all i ever wanted. You know i always tried so hard to impress them and i always went out of my way doing them favors and getting everyone gifts on birthdays, christmas, valentines day, easter, etc. I just eventually got sick of trying to pretty much be what they wanted me to.

[illriginal]

My lady's mom loves me cuz I always bring her and my lady flowers/roses (assorted ones). And her father loves me for the fact that I'm not some lil 160 pound pussy ass metro sexual f****t who's scared to get his hands dirty. Every time my girl needed work on her car, her dad was there to work on it, and I was there to help him. Apparently her other boyfriends were pussy ass skinny boys who were metro sexuals and would never lend a hand for any sort of physical work. Nor were they sweet enough to give flowers, nor did they ever come over to say hi or hang out with her family.

[stephinika]

Um, pretty good. They like me and they're always nice to me and let me come over anytime, so its kinda nice. His mom doesn't really speak English though so I can't talk to her much.

[mizzkewl06]

Thats all i ever wanted. You know i always tried so hard to impress them and i always went out of my way doing them favors and getting everyone gifts on birthdays, christmas, valentines day, easter, etc. I just eventually got sick of trying to pretty much be what they wanted me to.

wow... reminds me of all the crap i did to feel validated by them. it got to the point where i just gave up. and ive come to realize its not worth it. the only person i want/need to be validated by is my b.f. aslong as him & i both know that i tried [try] i think we'll be ok. you shouldn't feel bad about it either. it's not you. eventually they'll see that you make their son happy and that's all that matters.

[austinoutloud]

I haven't met them yet

[DeviantShadows]

They love me, haha. His parents remind me a lot of my family; they're the type of people that you can easily joke around with.

[LovableGullible]

my bf parents love me until me and my bf get fighting because all hell breaks lose. but yeah I love his mom especially she makes me call her mom or she gets mad at me. His dad is sometimes eh with me but sometimes he's really nice to me and jokes around with me.

[Heathasm]

my bf parents love me until me and my bf get fighting because all hell breaks lose. but yeah I love his mom especially she makes me call her mom or she gets mad at me. His dad is sometimes eh with me but sometimes he's really nice to me and jokes around with me.

do you guys fight in front of his parents? o.o

[Becks539]

His dad loves me and his mom is finally coming around to accept me. well actually she practically does now. His dad always tells him how nice and sweet of a girl I am and his dad also tells him he's proud that kevin is dating such a nice girl and all this stuff. His mom was "unsure" of me until a few months ago. Now she's super nice and talks to me and invites me to stay for dinner (she's an amazingg cook). But yeah they always invite me to family events and his dad says "I'm part of the familyy" haha.

[Glamourouz]

I don't have any negative feelings towards my boyfriend's parents but we aren't close...I don't feel comfortable yet around them. His parents are divorced; I've spoken with his dad when he came over & we talked about dancing with the stars & when I come by the house & spent the night a couple of times his mom & I talked a little, but I'm shy so I didn't really have much to say...my boyfriend's in the Navy so now I really have no reason to go over or anything & so I just keep to myself...it would be nice to have a nice relationship with his fam but at this point i dont know how to go about doing that especially when no one's really taking any initiative

[Comptine]

I'm not particularly close with my bf's parents. I'm polite and they're nice enough to me.

Now, I'm really close with my bf's paternal grandparents and his cousins' family. They all live in a big house a few blocks my and my bf's houses. His grandma really likes me and she referred to me as part of the family a few times. =) And his baby cousin is the cutest thing.

[Just_Dream]

Eh.. my boyfriend's Vietnamese, so yea I understand what they're saying half the time, lol. Anyways, I don't particularly like to be around them that much, but they don't ask much of me. I think they think I'm scared of it. It's just that I don't like to be around his family that much.

My boyfriend's sister pretty much controls the household -- whatever she says, usually goes her way. She's like.. 38 nor or something. Anyways, she is pretty judgmental at times, so yea I usually say hi and smile, and say hi to the parents. The brothers whatever so I say wassup and then that's it. I usually stay in my boyfriend's room unless Tony tells me I have to go to eat with them or something.

I don't know.. I can't get used to his family's lifestyle and expectations of a girlfriend, I guess. I mean, I don't even drive and it's not like I'm rich or anything. His family's weird. He knows that.

[Nugget]

well, my boyfriend tells me that his family likes me, but i'm always thinking negative and think that they don't.

his mom talks to me in vietnamese with a little bit of english for me to understand since she's from the south and i'm from the north. i feel bad because i don't understand her sometimes, so i look at my boyfriend when he's in the room to get him to translate. i am horrible at vietnamese, so i don't know how to answer back correctly and whatnot. and i think she only likes me because everyone in his household hates his ex-girlfriend because she lied to his whole family about shit. his mom calls her a monster and asked why i haven't gone out with him before that girl did and told me to beat her up. when she picks us up from school, she asks if that "monster" saw us holding hands or anything, haha. she's cute, but scary. then again, i think every asian parents are scary.

his dad isn't home much, so i don't see much of him. when i do, it's just a friendly hello and we go on with what we were doing.

with his sisters, it's the same "hi." his one younger sister (but older than him) is pretty chill. she's like, 20 or 21, and i have more conversations with her then i do with any other sisters, but we still don't talk that much.

with his brother, i barely talk to him, lol. after scrimming in counter-strike with his brother, him, my cousin, our friend, etc., he was talking shit about how i played & crap while i was on the phone with him, but i didn't really care. lol, he can't even look at me anymore, really.

all in all, his family is nice. i just get nervous of what they think of me. his mom totally called me fat, and i admit, i am fat. my boyfriend is like a skinny stick. but, whatever, haha. i play with his nieces and nephew and his mom said something about calling me aunt because they call him uncle. crazyyy. but yeah, that's how it goes.

[Melie]

i get along great with my hubby's family. his mom and sister stayed with me at my folks house for a few days on x-mas. i think it was great. his dad is really nice and he'll call sometimes just to check up on us.

my hubby gets along great with my family too. everytime we visit my family, he has so much fun because my family can be crazy. my dad always asks about him and my mom loves him. my uncles and aunts love him too. (we're a very close knit family).

[aaayotiffany]

i can say i'm pretty close with my boyfriend's parents. my boyfriend's told me that they adore me and they think that we'll last forever. and everytime i go to his house to visit them, they always welcome me with open arms. i think its because i changed my boyfriend, for the better. like before his mom told me that he was really into bad things and he didn't focus in school and blah blah. but when he got with me, i got him to go to college and stay out of the bad things. so i think thats probably why. he tells me that his mom threatens to tell me the things he does if he acts bad, lmao. his dad just thinks i'm sweet, he calls me tiffy and my boyfriend calls me chin chin, so sometimes his dad calls me chin chin to mess with me, haha.

he has two older sisters. and i'm pretty cool with them, we call each other sister-in-laws. i do feel special because he's their baby brother and for them to accept me as his girlfriend, it really puts a smile on my face.

i love his nephew and his nieces. they're the cutest; they call me aunt tiffany. and i barely see them, so when i do, i get happy. his uncles and his aunts like me too, they tell him i'm really nice and that he better treat me right and not lose me.

overall, i love his family. they're sweet and they care a lot about our relationship. and i care a lot about them, i don't know what i'd do if they didn't like me. :\

i wouldn't be okay with my boyfriend's family not liking me. it'd be too awkward. especially when he's really close to them. but so far, i've had a good history with their families liking me; i don't think i've ever dated someone with their family not liking me.
but for those who do have their families not liking you, you shouldn't go past a line where you're not yourself just to impress them. just be yourself and don't try too hard, because they can tell when you are and they'll think that you're just putting up a facade just to impress them.

[Sandraaa]

My boyfriend's mom is in Spain and his dad is in Chile. While I'm in Belgium. LOL. Anyway, so far they want to meet me >< I might go to Spain this summer. But his brother likes me. We met few months ago. He was on a visit from Chile.

[pkbabe]

My bf's parents are ok I suppose. They used to not like me because I wasn't Korean but they got over it cuz I "look" Korean.

His lil bro is alright. I don't really say much to him cuz hes the quiet type

All & all, his family sees marraige in our future ...yea strange

[Insurmountable]

I would say I have a pretty good relationship with my boyfriends parents. Well his mom anyway. Usually when I go up there I'll stay at his mom's house and she'll talk to me about almost anything. His Dad on the other hand I'll still getting use to. He's very strict about like no sex before marriage, and things of that sort. I've been waiting for him to give us a good talk about things but he hasn't yet surprisingly. But anywayyyyy. I wouldn't say I have the greatest relationship with his dad, but I mean its not bad. Its not like he hates me or anything xD

[Sprague]

I have a semi-okay relationship with my boyfriend's family. However, I only met them once so I can't really base anything off of that. I try being as polite as I possibly can in front of them, and in the future do things like wash the dishes and help out around their house (which is what my mom suggested me to do). I'm a very shy person so we didn't talk much when I was there -- they just asked me questions and I answered them.

I personally really like his mom. Totally different than my own mom and easy to relate to. His sister, however, intimidates the hell out of me, haha. But we'll see how it goes in the future. ^^

Being shy sucks.

[Flaunted]

Since I'm i'm his house almost everyday, his mother likes me a lot. He tells me that whenever i'm not around she asks "When is she comming, over? Oh where is she? What time are you picking her up?" It's really cute, and we have conversations sometimes and she even calls me to ask if I can watch her youngest son sometimes, or to see where my bf is at if he doesn't pick up his phone XDD

I don't see his dad often because him and the mom are divorced but he shows up every few days to watch the kids while she is at her night shifts. He's clever but I don't really talk to him much. It seems like he always has something life moral to say in any conversation and i guess it's hard to listen sometimes because it becomes repetitive. He's alright, no beef.

His sister is pretty cool, she liked me from the beginning of the relationship. We talk about how big of a nerd he is sometimes and it's chill. Oh and we love watching hannah montana.

His bro is a late bloomer o_o; He looks like he's 7 and basically asks me the strangest things but he's okay with me too. We play videogames together and he likes how i draw pokemon XDD hahaha.

[ersatz]

I love my boyfriend's parents and they love me too. His mom treats me like I'm her daughter. His dad is awesome and he says how we're a good match all the time. It's great.

But my boyfriend never talks to my parents...they don't have a problem with him, they just don't really have anything in common. I don't blame him.

[Rachel]

His parents like me a hell of a lot more than his ex-girlfriend, or any of his brothers girlfriends but we don't really have a close relationship. When I stay with him, I have conversations with them but we aren't too comfortable with each other yet. We sometimes hang out with his brothers, but usually are holed up in his room.

I guess it's different if you are dating someone in college and live in different states. My last boyfriends parents absolutely loved me. I was their 3rd daughter, I was over there probably more than I was at my house. His mother and I stayed close for a while after we broke up and she likes me more than his current slut. :)