girlfriend's cheating on me, and its soo obvious |
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 Mar 20 2008, 01:17 PM
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 <-[RaWR]->  Group: Member Posts: 180 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,133  |
yup. she did everything she could to keep us together. she constantly asks me if i trust her and she constantly gets angry over the dumbest things. im not sure what to do at this point, im practically brain washed by her promises. so should i just let go or try to talk to her. keep in mind she has a nonnegotiable attitude. and yet im so attached.
sigh...  a little help please...
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Mar 20 2008, 01:36 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,349 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 455,274 |
QUOTE(guessewho @ Mar 20 2008, 02:17 PM)  yup. she did everything she could to keep us together. she constantly asks me if i trust her and she constantly gets angry over the dumbest things. im not sure what to do at this point, im practically brain washed by her promises. so should i just let go or try to talk to her. keep in mind she has a nonnegotiable attitude. and yet im so attached. sigh... a little help please...Walk away. I don't like when a female asks me if I trust her repeatedly. That's a small indication that something is goin on. Listen... you're gonna go through about 30 girlfriends before you find the perfect girl. If you're lucky, you'll find her within the first 10 girls you ever dated or less. If a person stresses you out, makes you upset, makes you negative in any sort of way... repeatedly, then walk the heck away. It's not worthy, trust me. |
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Mar 20 2008, 01:44 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 84 Joined: Jul 2007 Member No: 553,667 |
Dump her; she isn't worth it. Noboby deserves to be cheated on.
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Mar 20 2008, 01:50 PM
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Custom Member Title Group: Member Posts: 655 Joined: Feb 2008 Member No: 619,464 |
if you GF cheated on yo so dont post your life here and leave her alone
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Mar 20 2008, 03:06 PM
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<-[RaWR]-> Group: Member Posts: 180 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,133 |
QUOTE(Tamacracker @ Mar 20 2008, 01:36 PM) Walk away. I don't like when a female asks me if I trust her repeatedly. That's a small indication that something is goin on. Listen... you're gonna go through about 30 girlfriends before you find the perfect girl. If you're lucky, you'll find her within the first 10 girls you ever dated or less. If a person stresses you out, makes you upset, makes you negative in any sort of way... repeatedly, then walk the heck away. It's not worthy, trust me. thanks for the advice.. i guess the only hard part about this is letting go cause we've been together for a while. so much for forever thanks again |
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Mar 20 2008, 03:10 PM
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<-[RaWR]-> Group: Member Posts: 180 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,133 |
QUOTE(DeviantShadows @ Mar 20 2008, 01:44 PM) Dump her; she isn't worth it. Noboby deserves to be cheated on. true, but people make mistakes. im not really the jealous type, or the type that holds grudges and im not very protective. but i do what i have to do when it all comes down to it. i forgive easy but its really hard to forget. i know shes not worth it, but i cant help but want to make her happy. if she doesnt admit that shes cheating on me any time soon then im just going to block her out and let her think that i just didnt have feelings for her. after all it is my fault cause i saw this coming before we even went out thanks though. much 
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Mar 20 2008, 06:03 PM
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 DDR \\ I'm Dee :) Group: Mentor Posts: 8,662 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 384,020 |
Well, it's true people make mistakes... but a lot of times people only learn from their mistakes when they look back on a situation and if she's still in the situation she won't be able to look back and learn anything. You know how she is. You know that you don't want to deal with her crap, so just don't. You're going to make it harder on yourself if you keep sticking around... she knows what buttons to push... so not even letting her near them is going to help a lot.
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Mar 23 2008, 09:00 PM
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You guys are dumb. Group: Member Posts: 1,252 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,094 |
Start emotionally detaching yourself and just have sex with her. Keep her. As a sex toy.
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Mar 25 2008, 11:40 PM
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 Melieized Group: Official Designer Posts: 1,372 Joined: Nov 2006 Member No: 478,715 |
sounds to me like you're afraid that there isn't going to be anyone out there that's gonna be better than her. i'm just making an observation so don't take it as fact...unless it is
if you want to continue to live in that kind of drama for awhile then continue on with the relationship and be prepared for "i told you so" comments from everyone. but if you want to finally free yourself of an obsessive, controlling, lying bitch then by all means look for all of those other fishes. because that guppy you got, ain't gonna last forever and my 2nd favorite saying in the world is: QUOTE WHAT GOES AROUND, COMES AROUND!!!!!
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Apr 1 2008, 08:42 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 235 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 148,772 |
umm ever heard of.... "if she does it once, shes going to do it again"? and if she have cheated on you before, then i would just let her go even though i know its hard to... trust me... ive had 2 guys cheated on me before, one behind my back and the other, i found out by one of his friends, that he almost f**ked this other girl while he's with me.... it aint worth a shiit
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Apr 1 2008, 08:58 PM
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 na-nancy Group: Member Posts: 212 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 538,179 |
just let her go.
i think that'd be the best for you. and yes, we all get so attached, but you just have to know when to stop, or you're just going to hurt yourself more and more. it's gonna kill you inside. trust me=) |
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Apr 1 2008, 09:59 PM
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 yo yo yiggidy yo. Group: Official Member Posts: 1,606 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,591 |
QUOTE(na-nancy @ Apr 1 2008, 09:58 PM) just let her go. i think that'd be the best for you. and yes, we all get so attached, but you just have to know when to stop, or you're just going to hurt yourself more and more. it's gonna kill you inside. trust me =) i don't think advice gets better than that. lol. :] if you break up with her and stop talking to her for awhile, you'll get over her. you'll be able to see that there's a lot of girls out there that actually deserve you. |
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Apr 1 2008, 10:23 PM
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 JABBAWOCKEEZfan Group: Member Posts: 108 Joined: Mar 2008 Member No: 635,309 |
omg juss leave her. maybe she's bipolar lol. well u'r still young, dnt feel like she's the one for u juss coz u dnt seem to be interested in anyone else. my friend went through the same situation. the girl keeps askin if he trusts her. the more she asked it was like the more he did. then he got hooked and it's like that's wat she wanted then she juss didnt really care and it was obvious. u deserve better.
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Apr 2 2008, 12:04 PM
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 drama is so intising i might just bite a mothaf**ka like tyson Group: Member Posts: 266 Joined: Mar 2008 Member No: 636,361 |
QUOTE(Tamacracker @ Mar 20 2008, 02:36 PM) Walk away. I don't like when a female asks me if I trust her repeatedly. That's a small indication that something is goin on. Listen... you're gonna go through about 30 girlfriends before you find the perfect girl. If you're lucky, you'll find her within the first 10 girls you ever dated or less. If a person stresses you out, makes you upset, makes you negative in any sort of way... repeatedly, then walk the heck away. It's not worthy, trust me. ^ he's right.. took the words right out of my damn mouth. im a girl, and hell yeah somethin probably is goin on or will go on.. |
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Apr 2 2008, 02:45 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 5,166 Joined: Oct 2007 Member No: 585,858 |
QUOTE(guessewho @ Mar 20 2008, 02:17 PM) yup. she did everything she could to keep us together. she constantly asks me if i trust her and she constantly gets angry over the dumbest things. im not sure what to do at this point, im practically brain washed by her promises. so should i just let go or try to talk to her. keep in mind she has a nonnegotiable attitude. and yet im so attached. sigh... a little help please...LIT C u gurllfriendd PIX... QUOTE(Be-Faithful @ Mar 20 2008, 02:50 PM) if you GF cheated on yo so dont post your life here and leave her alone   ...u adviicee allwayy goood... |
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Apr 8 2008, 05:38 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 138 Joined: Dec 2006 Member No: 489,625 |
Kick her to the CURBB Yoo. Okay that was stupid. Tell her if she trusts you she won't ask you anymore. I remember I did that to my boyfriend once. o.o After when I asked if he trusted me he'll be like I'll trust you if you stop asking. XD If she doesn't listen then maybe you're not meant to be together. I mean relationship involves understanding and trust. I don't see how you guys have any of it. o.o
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Apr 8 2008, 05:43 PM
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 creepy heather Group: Official Member Posts: 4,208 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 41,580 |
QUOTE Listen... you're gonna go through about 30 girlfriends before you find the perfect girl. If you're lucky, you'll find her within the first 10 girls you ever dated or less. If a person stresses you out, makes you upset, makes you negative in any sort of way... repeatedly, then walk the heck away. It's not worthy, trust me. the thing is, its really hard to walk away from a relationship when it turns sort of sour like that. if you put alot of work and time into something. even if you really want to end it, its hard to let go because there is always that "what if" my suggestion would be to find some solid facts that you can back up if she is cheating on you, and talk to her about it. but i guess if her attitude doesnt change from any of that u might just not be meant to be and get her opinion on the matter |
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Apr 8 2008, 05:43 PM
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 <(^_^<) DANCE!(>^_^)> Group: Official Member Posts: 1,304 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 586,621 |
you should definately keep away from her. as hard as that may seem. obviously she's no good for you and you deserve better. a girl who makes promises and can't keep them isn't worth your troubles. chances are she will do it again anyway, if you decide to stay with her.
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Apr 8 2008, 05:54 PM
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Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,349 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 455,274 |
QUOTE(Heathasm @ Apr 8 2008, 06:43 PM) the thing is, its really hard to walk away from a relationship when it turns sort of sour like that. if you put alot of work and time into something. even if you really want to end it, its hard to let go because there is always that "what if" my suggestion would be to find some solid facts that you can back up if she is cheating on you, and talk to her about it. but i guess if her attitude doesnt change from any of that u might just not be meant to be and get her opinion on the matter And all of that could be avoided if people could just stop rushing into things, get to know each other... hell get to know yourselves first then get into a relationship. Knowledge of self and the one you like is more powerful in a relationship than any other element in the relationship. I swear to you the two years (almost) that I have been with my lady, we have NOT fought ONCE. Never ever have we been sour... never ever have we gotten into the smallest argument. Our relationship is gorgeous, elegant, superb... I can't even explain it. But what I can say is... a beautiful relationship starts with knowledge, knowledge of self and significant other, without it.... it's like getting into a relationship blindfully... not knowing what type of person they can become later on... not knowing if they're playing you, or playin mind games. |
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Apr 8 2008, 05:55 PM
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<(^_^<) DANCE!(>^_^)> Group: Official Member Posts: 1,304 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 586,621 |
QUOTE(Tamacracker @ Apr 8 2008, 06:54 PM) And all of that could be avoided if people could just stop rushing into things, get to know each other... hell get to know yourselves first then get into a relationship. Knowledge of self and the one you life is more powerful in a relationship than any other element in the relationship. i agree with that 100%. |
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Apr 8 2008, 05:57 PM
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creepy heather Group: Official Member Posts: 4,208 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 41,580 |
yeah that actually makes alot of since
i think thats where i f**ked up in MY relationship LOL |
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Apr 8 2008, 06:12 PM
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Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,349 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 455,274 |
QUOTE(Heathasm @ Apr 8 2008, 06:57 PM) yeah that actually makes alot of since i think thats where i f**ked up in MY relationship LOL It took me 11 girlfriends to finally realize what the main mistake I was makin 
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Apr 8 2008, 06:14 PM
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<(^_^<) DANCE!(>^_^)> Group: Official Member Posts: 1,304 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 586,621 |
QUOTE(Tamacracker @ Apr 8 2008, 07:12 PM) It took me 11 girlfriends to finally realize what the main mistake I was makin  wow...
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Apr 8 2008, 06:20 PM
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 ٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
QUOTE(Tamacracker @ Apr 8 2008, 04:12 PM) It took me 11 girlfriends to finally realize what the main mistake I was makin And what was that mistake? |
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Apr 8 2008, 06:22 PM
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Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,349 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 455,274 |
QUOTE(mizzkewl06 @ Apr 8 2008, 07:14 PM) wow...Heh... I'm also 24, started dating at 15.  QUOTE(Tungster @ Apr 8 2008, 07:20 PM) And what was that mistake? Lookin at the physical aspect of females and only caring about fornicating and not caring to actually learn from each other and build with each other. =\ Why do you think I'm so against premarital sex and ish? I'm tryin to prevent generations of youth from makin the same mistakes I made... for whatever that's worth. |
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