I think im developing a bad case of separation anxiety., This sucks. |
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 Mar 1 2008, 05:14 PM
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 Hablamos Español.  Group: Official Member Posts: 1,283 Joined: Jul 2007 Member No: 549,364  |
 I miss my significant other so bad. Weve never been apart more than a week and (that was the hardest week of my life)  but he's been working really hard lately, and i havent seen him for four days already and im starting to get fidgety.We live maybe like 45 minutes from each other and every day he usually drives over here but he's been so busy with work that he hasnt had a chance and who am i to complain? i miss him very much so, and im feeling unusually bad. Whats the cure for this?  *Oh and these slow songs are not helping. 
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Mar 1 2008, 05:55 PM
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 Resource Center Tyrant Group: Official Member Posts: 2,263 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 593,306 |
Keep yourself preoccupied with something else. I use CreateBlog to deal with the separation, and posting around here and reading keeps my mind off things. Can you talk to him on the phone, or is he always busy?
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Mar 1 2008, 06:01 PM
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 isketchaholic Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,977 Joined: Apr 2007 Member No: 516,154 |
watch movies, hang out with friends, there are plenty of enjoyable things out there you can do that don't require his presence that will also keep your mind off of him
the fact that you're completely aware that neither you nor he has any control over this is already a great start to dealing with this. |
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Mar 5 2008, 12:39 AM
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 We're in for one wild night. Group: Member Posts: 402 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 603,255 |
Just repeating with what they said.
Be proactiv, it works when being dumped, it can work when being temporaraly separated. 
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Mar 5 2008, 12:55 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 1,815 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 423,396 |
[offtopic]
I find myself coming back to this topic cause the topic title is cut off on the front page, and it looks like "I think im developing a bad cancer." |
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Mar 5 2008, 04:21 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,071 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 41,748 |
This is more a relationship question I think than a health thing, so moved.
And yeah, like others said, just keep yourself busy as hard as it may be. You'll get through it. |
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Mar 5 2008, 05:00 AM
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 Addict Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,918 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 538,522 |
I totally feel for you. My beau and myself attend separate universities and it's an hours train ride to see each other every two weeks for a weekend.
It's tough, but the trick is not to brood. If you've both got different hobbies you enjoy (web design, sports, gym, drinking!) make sure you take them up and tell each other about them when you do next see each other. Always try to "speak" at least once a day. Whether it's a quick text, an email, a phonecall, a letter or a big giggle-sesh on Skype. Hope things work out for you! |
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Mar 7 2008, 02:05 PM
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Hablamos Español. Group: Official Member Posts: 1,283 Joined: Jul 2007 Member No: 549,364 |
Hmm thanks for all the advice.
 yesterday morning he didn't call me, (which he usually does) i called him at work told me he forgot because he was being rushed. Then at like 12 he called me we barely talked said he was tired so we hung up, then again this morning he didn't call. It seems like i'm trying to keep it together but the more i try the more he "forget's". Im so scared of heartbreak, i mean after 3 years, i think my heart would just die. well thanks anyways. 
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Mar 7 2008, 02:25 PM
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Addict Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,918 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 538,522 |
Don't read too far into these things! Your guy would phone you if he could. With distance does come a certain degree of anxiety, but try to put your emotions on hold when you do speak, it's no good trying to have an in-depth conversation about your feelings over MSN. Save it for when you next see him
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Mar 7 2008, 02:32 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,349 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 455,274 |
QUOTE(shei @ Mar 1 2008, 05:14 PM)  I miss my significant other so bad. Weve never been apart more than a week and (that was the hardest week of my life) but he's been working really hard lately, and i havent seen him for four days already and im starting to get fidgety.We live maybe like 45 minutes from each other and every day he usually drives over here but he's been so busy with work that he hasnt had a chance and who am i to complain? i miss him very much so, and im feeling unusually bad. Whats the cure for this? *Oh and these slow songs are not helping. Keep your mind busy. Control your mind, don't let your mind control you. By that I mean that your mind is so powerful that'll make you feel like you need things when in reality you don't... Try not to repetitively think bout it. |
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Mar 7 2008, 03:30 PM
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Hablamos Español. Group: Official Member Posts: 1,283 Joined: Jul 2007 Member No: 549,364 |
^ its really not as easy as it sounds.
but i suppose its something that i have to do.. gracias. |
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Mar 7 2008, 04:23 PM
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Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,349 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 455,274 |
QUOTE(danceeNAKED @ Mar 7 2008, 03:30 PM) ^ its really not as easy as it sounds. but i suppose its something that i have to do.. gracias. Hobbies work... y no problema mama. |
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Mar 10 2008, 02:55 AM
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You guys are dumb. Group: Member Posts: 1,252 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,094 |
Solution
1. Get a job. 2. Get a car. 3. Drive. |
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