How can I overcome my shyness and talk to this girl? Options

[fever1]

There's this girl that I just moved my locker next to at school, and I really want to talk to her, but I'm way too shy. I think her and I talked once back in freshman year, but I could barely talk to her and I was embarrassed because I thought she thought I was weird. She's a beautiful, sweet, and cool person from what I know of her, but I'm still too shy to even say "Hi" because I think she will be freaked out.

How can I overcome my shyness and talk to the girl, and any advice on how I can keep the conversation going (such as stuff I can talk to her about, and transitioning different topics, etc.)?
I'm like this with most other people, but it's pretty much this girl that I have to most trouble with.
Thanks for the help.

[Reidar]

Wear clashing clothes and plenty of face paint. The males of many animal species are brilliantly colored to impress a mate in courtship, so that's a cue to take. As you're approaching her, scuttle from side to side and make squawking noises to stimulate the mating ritual. Make sure that you haven't showered recently so that the musty scent of your body drives her into heat.

Next, be direct. Once you've reached her, try saying, "GOOD AFTERNOON. WOULD YOU BE INTERESTED IN GOING ON A DATE AND POTENTIALLY BEARING MY CHILDREN AND QUITTING YOUR JOB TO RAISE THEM?" It's also important to speak as loud as you can in order to signify what her attention needs to be directed at for the moment. If your volume isn't at that level, she may become distracted by other noises, like crowd sounds, nearby construction, etc.

Let's say she responds with, "Hey." You should correct her with, "HAY IS FOR HORSES", and then smack her on the back while throwing your head back in laughter at such witty banter. Girls like a good sense of humor. At this point, she'll probably fall in love with you, but don't give away your strategy.

Refrain from doing all the talking. That's rude. Do two-thirds of the talking. Keep a stopwatch on you to time yourself. Make sure you express the transitions with hand signals to cut her off when it's your turn.

[missDanish]

* As you're approaching her, scuttle from side to side and make squawking noises to stimulate the mating ritual. Make sure that you haven't showered recently so that the musty scent of your body drives her into heat.

* try saying, "GOOD AFTERNOON. WOULD YOU BE INTERESTED IN GOING ON A DATE AND POTENTIALLY BEARING MY CHILDREN AND QUITTING YOUR JOB TO RAISE THEM?"

* Make sure you express the transitions with hand signals to cut her off when it's your turn.

lol I really hope you're kidding Reidar


Ok fever1, apart from this girl being sweet + cool, do you know anything else about what she likes or is interested in? If there's anything you have in common you can lead off with that and if that fails stick to general topics like crappy teachers/classes/etc... You could always include a compliment but only if you're sincere and it's not something creepy like "I like the way you smell...*heavy breathing*"

and to try and destroy those nerves just remember that there's no way you can be worse off from talking with her... IMO bottom-line-worst-case-scenario is that she ends up being a cow and thinks you're weird just for being shy, but you've already said she seems nice so that doesn't seem like a real possibilty.

good luck :)

[Reidar]

I never kid.

[missDanish]

sure you dont...

*rereads 2nd post in this thread*
*rereads fight scene story*


sure.....

[S-Majere]

Reidar, you crack me up.

But being all serious for the moment; shyness is a terrible infliction and should be overcome immediately. If you can't bring yourself to talk to this girl yet;

Practise on a few others.

Get a job in retail or customer service (works a treat).

Sit down in front of a mirror and run through scenarios with yourself.

Get to know her friends, what she likes, what her tastes are.

Ask her on a date to the cinema. It's corny, but it works.

Suck it up and go for it. If the Super Volcano beneath Yellowstone doesn't kill you, the resurgence of Bubonic Plague might - so live without shyness and go for it.

[love-issosweet]

Wear clashing clothes and plenty of face paint. The males of many animal species are brilliantly colored to impress a mate in courtship, so that's a cue to take. As you're approaching her, scuttle from side to side and make squawking noises to stimulate the mating ritual. Make sure that you haven't showered recently so that the musty scent of your body drives her into heat.

^

Anyways, ahah. If you say this girl is sweet and cool, then she should be a good person and be able to accept who you are. Only people who make assumptions so quickly tend to be not as open minded. Honestly, I make judgments of people too so don't try to act too clingy. Just try to say "Hi" whenever you see her and gradually get into a simple conversation with her. Talk about school events, yours plans for the weekend, movies. Don't be too reserved because I think girls like guys who are somewhat open. Seriously, I think you should try to slowly break apart from your shyness. Live your day like it is your last. (:

[fameONE]

I'm a realist. I'm not going to give you a step by step, or any detailed advice other than; suck it up, be a man and grow a pair.

[Find confidence within yourself]

[illriginal]

Wear clashing clothes and plenty of face paint. The males of many animal species are brilliantly colored to impress a mate in courtship, so that's a cue to take. As you're approaching her, scuttle from side to side and make squawking noises to stimulate the mating ritual. Make sure that you haven't showered recently so that the musty scent of your body drives her into heat.

Next, be direct. Once you've reached her, try saying, "GOOD AFTERNOON. WOULD YOU BE INTERESTED IN GOING ON A DATE AND POTENTIALLY BEARING MY CHILDREN AND QUITTING YOUR JOB TO RAISE THEM?" It's also important to speak as loud as you can in order to signify what her attention needs to be directed at for the moment. If your volume isn't at that level, she may become distracted by other noises, like crowd sounds, nearby construction, etc.

Let's say she responds with, "Hey." You should correct her with, "HAY IS FOR HORSES", and then smack her on the back while throwing your head back in laughter at such witty banter. Girls like a good sense of humor. At this point, she'll probably fall in love with you, but don't give away your strategy.

Refrain from doing all the talking. That's rude. Do two-thirds of the talking. Keep a stopwatch on you to time yourself. Make sure you express the transitions with hand signals to cut her off when it's your turn.

roflmao



I would say, just act like you wanna be her friend and just talk to her =\

[melodyus]

i used to be shy and i still am a little bit. but i never had a problem talking to the person i liked or had a crush or who i thought was cute. i let them know and if they didn't like me or want to talk to me, i moved on with my life and went to the next guy.

but think negative about a persons reaction unless u know that they will freak out. because they may want u to talk to them but are waiting for u to make the first move. u never know until u try.

[karmakiller]

Confidence is sexy. Go for it, the worst thing that could happen is that you get rejected. And if you're going to get rejected it's probably best to just get it over with rather than keep your feelings for her going and just falling for her more. Just don't start stuttering, haha. Start up some conversations next time you're around her. If you're having trouble keeping it interesting at least you have the excuse that you have to get to class.