Performance In the Bedroom?, Discuss Options

[fameONE]

How would you, personally, describe how someone is "good" in bed? What is bad to you?

This has been irking me for about a week because my sex life is bland right now. Its been feeling like a chore this weekend. I know we all have different standards and expectations, so I'm just curious to hear some input from the forum.

[icecreamisyummy]

hahahahahahhah ill be back to edit this

[MissHygienic]

Anything that's sincere, with additional strength and being man-handled. Nothing overtly forceful, though, that's borderlining rape. I'm not into that. But I don't like guys who aren't into what they're doing and going at some slow-assed pace. If he wants sex, he had better act like he f**king wants it.

Also, scenarios in which the other party completely wants me gets me hot, too, after a lot of teasing, and then some.

If you want something new, maybe you should try anal sex.

[Tung]

Someone who truly wants to have sex with you. Physically they may be there with you while having sex, but are they there emotionally? I wouldn't want to have sex with someone who just do it to please me and go through the motion. A girl have to know how to move her hips and spread her legs nicely and know how to play sex talk. Talking dirty while having sex is one of my turn ons.

Whitney: Anal sex is my favorite position. Why? Because you get to bang her vagina, while having a nice view at her sweet ass, especially then you can grab on her two breasts. Sometimes she would have her head turned back and we make out while I bang her from behind.

[MissHygienic]

Someone who truly wants to have sex with you. Physically they may be there with you while having sex, but are they there emotionally? I wouldn't want to have sex with someone who just do it to please me and go through the motion. A girl have to know how to move her hips and spread her legs nicely and know how to play sex talk. Talking dirty while having sex is one of my turn ons.

Whitney: Anal sex is my favorite position. Why? Because you get to bang her vagina, while having a nice view at her sweet ass, especially then you can grab on her two breasts. Sometimes she would have her head turned back and we make out while I bang her from behind.

Tung, anal sex is the penis in the a-hole, not doggy style.

And, oh yeah, sexual noises (moans and groans) during sex is hot, too. People who are cold fish or aren't noisy in the bedroom are a little boring, suffice it to say. It's more enjoyable when you can blatantly hear that the person with whom you're having sex is liking it as much as you do. Good sex is when all of your five senses, to include emotions, are constantly stimulated and all you want after it is to pass out in pleasure.

[LoveToMySilas]

If someone is creativity and brings variety to the table, thats always fun. Its good to be a little musical or make a little noise once in a while too.

[Tung]

Tung, anal sex is the penis in the a-hole, not doggy style.

My mind was off where when I read your post. When I read anal sex, all I could think of was me penetrating a girl doggy style. But yes I meant I like doggy style. I've never had anal sex, as I think it's kinda weird having my penis up a rectum.

[DoubleJ]

I think if a girl can blow my mind good then I am happy. I hate girl that just lay there and do nothing. I like the girls that bite and scratch and what not. When I am f**king a girl, I like to pull her hair and blow her back out. If you about that soft man shit, go see KC.

[demolished]

rectum ...

dam, so technical.

[MissHygienic]

My mind was off where when I read your post. When I read anal sex, all I could think of was me penetrating a girl doggy style. But yes I meant I like doggy style. I've never had anal sex, as I think it's kinda weird having my penis up a rectum.

Doggy-style is a common position, so I figured it might be something new. It's certainly not for everyone. Sex toys might work, too, or a new environment. Discover each other's turn-ons, do some more foreplay, role-play (?). The best sex is with creative people, for sure. You would have to be extremely unimaginative to be bored of sex.

[DoubleJ]

Yo, one of my biggest turn ons is watching a girl pleasure herself. TMI? I don't give a f**k.

[icecreamisyummy]

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[wayne]

good sex is when afterwards, all you wanna do is lay there for about 10 minutes...

get up, make some tacos, then have sex again.


if you have sex, and can get right up and go play DDR or some shit... that was bad sex... either that or you're a rabbit.

[Tung]

I'll admit I'll huff and puff and moan quietly, not loud like a girl's orgasm, but you know what I mean. I'll say things like "yeah, you like that?" And when I'm doing a drunk chick, I'll ask her if she wants it faster. Yeah toooo much information huh? Sorry.

[fameONE]

edit: Joselyn, you owe me for this.

I rarely get down on the cunnilingus tip.

[DoubleJ]

I'll admit I'll huff and puff and moan quietly, not loud like a girl's orgasm, but you know what I mean. I'll say things like "yeah, you like that?" And when I'm doing a drunk chick, I'll ask her if she wants it faster. Yeah toooo much information huh? Sorry.

Definitely not TMI! Joselyn, my my aren't we breaking out of our shell.

[icecreamisyummy]

imma have to edit that

[DoubleJ]

I rarely get down on the cunnilingus tip.

What's that?

[fameONE]

What's that?

Eatin' pussy.

[transcendentalis...]

be vocal for pete's sake, unless the parents are next door.

be fun, don't just do the same three things over and over again.

try new things.

HAVE FUN. enjoy it. if you're not enjoying it, tell me why and we'll get it fixed... if you're just going to be totally emotionless the whole time, i'll just get off and leave.

cuddle afterwards, or at least stay near me. if you must sleep, at least don't just leave me in the freezing cold because i get cold stupid-easy.

say my name. it assures me that you know who i am ;d
there's a lot.

[DoubleJ]

Eatin' pussy.

Oh ok. My brain doesn't work after nine.

be vocal for pete's sake, unless the parents are next door.

be fun, don't just do the same three things over and over again.

try new things.

HAVE FUN. enjoy it. if you're not enjoying it, tell me why and we'll get it fixed... if you're just going to be totally emotionless the whole time, i'll just get off and leave.

cuddle afterwards, or at least stay near me. if you must sleep, at least don't just leave me in the freezing cold because i get cold stupid-easy.

say my name. it assures me that you know who i am ;d
there's a lot.

Ruth, a n***a who is not satisfying you, is stupid. You are crazy fresh. No pedo or anything. Just a compliment.

[MissHygienic]

Oh, and guy who doesn't just stop after he's done. Motherf**ker.

[transcendentalis...]

i didn't mean to imply that i wasn't happy with who i'm with :P but thank youu

[fameONE]

Anything that's sincere, with additional strength and being man-handled. Nothing overtly forceful, though, that's borderlining rape. I'm not into that. But I don't like guys who aren't into what they're doing and going at some slow-assed pace. If he wants sex, he had better act like he f**king wants it.

Also, scenarios in which the other party completely wants me gets me hot, too, after a lot of teasing, and then some.

If you want something new, maybe you should try anal sex.

Anal is risky with me. Most females I've tried it with can't handle it and just attempting anal ruins the mood entirely. The only women that didn't complain had a certain fetish for it. So I had no problems getting in there.

I'm very selective about who I get involved with for a long list of reasons. The most obvious; I like being clean, I don't want kids, and that specific sexual encounter doesn't have to mean anything per se, but I don't want to just run through a bunch of skeezers. Thats what college was for.

I have no middle ground, I'm either making love and being the hopeless romantic I am at heart, or I'm blowing backs out and listening to Jeezy. I'll f**k while wearing a fitted. West Coast Productions style.

[pandora]

yeah i dont do anal. i tried it twice with my bf because he's always asking but then i finally told him i dont wanna do it anymore haha. it totally ruins the mood for me, and therefore it's not enjoyable for him either.


Pull my hair. Dirty talk is a huge turn on for me. im always sayin "talk to me" when we're having sex. i like a guy to take charge - i HATE a submissive guy. Be a man. I like to be the submissive. (probably cuz outside of the bedroom im pretty much in charge of everyone haha).

i dont really like it when most guys try and go down on me. most of the time they dont do it right, or they do but they havent shaved in two days and all i feel is their stubble. god that really sucks.

i actually like giving head if im really in the mood.