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 Jan 14 2008, 01:00 AM
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i love both my best mate and my boyfriend they're both the most important things in my life but theres just one problem.. my best mate really really hates my boyfried. how can i try ad fix this?
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Jan 14 2008, 01:07 AM
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 We're in for one wild night. Group: Member Posts: 402 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 603,255 |
Does he say why he hates your boyfriend?
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Jan 14 2008, 01:11 AM
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 sang loves hayden. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,373 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 5,687 |
Let's see, I was in that situation except I was the friend who hated the best friend's boyfriend.
lol "boyfried". Haha. I wish my best friend's boyfriend can be named/labeled that. LOL. Apparently, I didn't like the way my best friend being treated by that idiotic boyfriend. I still don't like him and I don't have time to chill with her since she's always with her boyfriend who is a druggie and such. IMO, I'm not sure if there is a way to fix that. I mean seriously, it usually depends on your friend on how she adapts to you're boyfriend. Why don't you guys all try to hang out somewhere and stuff. Your friend might get use to your boyfriend. |
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Jan 14 2008, 01:26 AM
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my best mate is a girl =] who is so tottally opposites to me as we like all the different kinds of things
and true.. hmm i mean what you said did really sound like what's happening with me.. on saturday i was hanging out with my best mate and then my boyfriend came and hang with us then she gets all pissed off and all of a sudden she just cry.. iv been friends with her for so many years that iv never see her cry before! and that was the first time she met him in person.. after that.. she has been trying to make me dump him |
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Jan 14 2008, 01:34 AM
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What does he do that makes her not like him?
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Jan 14 2008, 03:33 AM
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he cheated on me once
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Jan 14 2008, 03:57 AM
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 in a matter of time Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 7,151 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 191,357 |
^ I don't know about you, but I think your friend is onto something...
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Jan 14 2008, 06:15 AM
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He's a druggie, he cheats, does he steal cars too? Does he kill people?
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Jan 14 2008, 06:37 AM
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 (′ ･ω･｀) Group: Official Designer Posts: 6,179 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 72,477 |
^that doesnt mean he doesnt deserved to be loved. try to make your friend understand why you love him?
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Jan 14 2008, 08:28 AM
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 That's what she said. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,559 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 130,200 |
Maybe they just need some time to get to know each other.
 Shes probably just trying to look out for you and doesn't want you to get hurt because of what he did.
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Jan 14 2008, 01:35 PM
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your friend care bout you n dont want u hurt. she dont want to lose you.
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Jan 14 2008, 03:32 PM
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 Resource Center Tyrant Group: Official Member Posts: 2,263 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 593,306 |
In this situation: CHICKS BEFORE DICKS.
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Jan 14 2008, 03:44 PM
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Yeah. I have to agree with your friend here.
She probably won't ever like him and it's pretty selfish of you to try and make her if he is a douche bag. |
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Jan 14 2008, 03:45 PM
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 hello : ) Group: Official Member Posts: 4,227 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,139 |
I think that even if you try to fix the problem, you gotta realize that if worst comes to worst, your boyfriend and friend may never get along. That's how it is for me. And honestly, I had to pretty much make a choice between him (boyfriend) or her (good friend), and you might have to do the same. Either way, the best thing I think to do, is let it kind of solve itself. You've gotta talk it through with both of them and it might just be that your best friend doesn't know him well enough, or maybe your best friend is just trying to protect you.
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Jan 14 2008, 03:59 PM
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Your friend met your boyfriend for the first time...so you two haven't been dating too long, correct? And he's already cheated on you?
...If my best friend's boyfriend cheated on her I would hate him too. |
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Jan 14 2008, 04:11 PM
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QUOTE(Silly--x @ Jan 14 2008, 03:33 AM)  he cheated on me once Odds are he'll do it again. I've been in both situations. I've been the best mate that "hates" a boy - but with good reason I might add, and I've also had a best mate resent what my boyfriend and I had - and still have! Both situations were completely different. I felt I had a right to resent this lad because of what he had said and done in the past. I knew he would only break up with my friend, and he did. Smug mode on. Now, this "friend" that resented me only did so because she was no longer the centre of attention. I'm glad I chose to ignore her whinging and ditch her over my boyfriend. All very involved, but make sure you know why your friend "hates" before you make a decision based on her actions. |
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Jan 14 2008, 07:49 PM
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We're in for one wild night. Group: Member Posts: 402 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 603,255 |
Weigh your pros and cons.
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Jan 14 2008, 08:11 PM
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Friends are more important than boyfriends. Never lose a good friendship because of a guy.
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Jan 15 2008, 06:35 AM
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QUOTE(MissHygienic @ Jan 15 2008, 05:32 AM) In this situation: CHICKS BEFORE DICKS. Word. |
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Jan 15 2008, 07:00 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 273 Joined: Jul 2007 Member No: 547,099 |
More like "friends before drug dealing criminals with tattoos on their testicles"
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