Movies Alone @ 12? Options

[Joss-eh-lime]

Not sure if this is the right place for this..

It really my sisters problem. She was invited to a birthday for twin boys at the movies and she's supposed to go, and buy her own ticket and meet the other kids there. The problem is there is not one older person there, just a bunch of 12 and 13 year olds.

My mom didn't let my sister go, but I don't fully agree with her.

what do you think?

[NYCin2009]

My mom didn't me go alone until I was about 14 and even then she was a bit hesitant. I'm her oldest so she is very protective of me though. I guess it'd depends on your sister (her maturity level, etc), the kids (the familiarity of them), and the location. How did she deal with this type of situation with you when you were that age?

[Joss-eh-lime]

Yeah, I'm the oldest too
When I was her age I never hung out with boys outside of school, so this is new for my mom.

[transcendentalis...]

i spent the longest time wondering if you meant 12 noon or midnight. then i was like ohh, 12 years old!

/punches self in face

i can see where your mom's coming from. a group of 7th graders (i think?) don't always have the best judgment and these days anything could happen... unless i knew for sure that my 7th grade kid, assuming i had one, could hold herself in a fight with someone much larger than her, i wouldn't be too keen on letting her places alone with other dumb kids that could just get in the way.

as an older sister though, i'd give sissy a phone, then take my mister and go see the same movie.. while sitting on the opposite side of the theatre so she doesn't feel too crowded.

i carry mace almost everywhere i go, and keys are exceptionally effective weapons if you use them right.

[NYCin2009]

So will this be an ongoing thing or is it just for now? My brother is 13 and my mom asks me to go to the movies with him she doesn't know his friends. I go with him but not to see the same movie. Him and his friends see whatever movie they want and we see ours, unless we all want to see the same thing. If your mother is uncomfortable with letting her go alone maybe you could all go. Once she feels that your sister is used to the environment and she feels it is one that is safe, she'd probably be okay with letting her go alone.

[Jennifer]

^ Ouch, I just imagined how much damage you could do with a key..

Anyway, yeah I think your mum was right for not letting her go, but she should've kept her options open. As said above, you could've gone as well just to keep an eye on them, but keep your distance as well. Your sister probably wouldn't have wanted big sis to tag along, I assume, though if you weren't too in her face and bossing them around it may have been good :)
These days I guess it is quite unsafe for 12 - 13 year olds to be going to the movies alone. Especially if she has to go and buy her own ticket, then meet them there.

[transcendentalis...]

keys are great, especially if it's a guy you need to take down. it's pretty simple...

keys between fingers, make a fist, and punch into the crotch - or anywhere really. keys are just blunt knives..

[Joss-eh-lime]

I think if my younger sister was a younger brother they would have let her go.
Boys are given more freedoms.

[LoveToMySilas]

Well, when I was around that age we used to do that all the time. We had my sister buy us the tickets if it was a PG - 13 or a rated R movie and she would just walk us into the theater and leave afterwards. I think everything should be fine if shes paying for her own ticket. But maybe its the way I was raised up....my parents aren't exactly the strictest people in the world.

[jaeman]

I wasn't let loose until 11, but I'm a good boy.

[sugalove1215]

i was allowed to go when i was like 10...
my parent's never really cared. neither did my friend's parents...but i guess it's because we live in a community where nothing bad ever happens. haha.

[AskAlice]

Ask your mom what exactly she's afraid will happen if your sister goes without an adult. Remind her that it's a birthday party, and she won't be the only kid there. Maybe if you and your sister reason with your mother, she will be allowed to go to the movies with her friends as long as there is a certain number of kids with them.

[ReggieM]

how many movies can you actually go to at age 12? I doubt many tell her to stay home and read a book and come back when shes in hs it builds character.

[AimeeLynn]

I don't think it's right. They are 12 and 13 and they want to "experience" things since they think that they are old enough...but to me they aren't so I think she shouldn't go.

[Joss-eh-lime]

my mom is mainly afraid she'll make out with some boy.

but im like "that could happen anywhere!" not that i'd say that to my mom.

[transcendentalis...]

it'll all be part of growing up.

i made out with a guy between a wall and a vending machine once...

[ReggieM]

^ was it good?

[Castaway]

midnight may be a bit dangerous for kids at that age..

(oh nvm you meant the age..)
that sounds fine.. i don't think the boys owuld do anything.

[livwho]

I started going to movies with friends around twelve or thirteen, so I guess I'm with you.

I have a friend that's fourteen (a freshman), and she still isn't allowed to go to movies with friends if there are boys there. It all depends on how mature you are.