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 Jan 3 2008, 01:54 AM
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 Kimberly  Group: Member Posts: 1,961 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 121,599  |
I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a month now, and I'm very shy. This is only my second relationship, and he's been in several. I've done plenty of kissing before... and while it took me awhile to get used to at first, I felt alot from it and felt comfortable. But now with my new boyfriend, I feel awkward when do anything more than just a peck on the lips. I can tell he's always really into it, but I'm always paying way too much attention to what I'm doing.
I'm still shy around him, so could that be it? Could he be a bad kisser? Or could there just not be enough chemistry between us? I feel like we're really compatible, and I know without a doubt that I really like him. I'm just worried now that this isnt something I'll get over. There's probably not a magical answer to this though. |
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Jan 3 2008, 02:08 AM
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 Resource Center Tyrant Group: Official Member Posts: 2,263 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 593,306 |
If you're still shy around him, then that's probably why you're not comfortable kissing him yet? No, there is no magical answer, and your problem won't be solved until you loosen up around your boyfriend.
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Jan 3 2008, 03:22 AM
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QUOTE(MissHygienic @ Jan 3 2008, 04:08 PM)  If you're still shy around him, then that's probably why you're not comfortable kissing him yet? No, there is no magical answer, and your problem won't be solved until you loosen up around your boyfriend. You've got to open up to him first, as stated already. |
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Jan 3 2008, 06:21 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 273 Joined: Jul 2007 Member No: 547,099 |
You'd better open up FAST too or else he'll take your "shyness" as "disinterest", and that could turn out fairly bad.
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Jan 3 2008, 11:59 AM
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Kimberly Group: Member Posts: 1,961 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 121,599 |
QUOTE(Call911Quick @ Jan 3 2008, 06:21 AM) You'd better open up FAST too or else he'll take your "shyness" as "disinterest", and that could turn out fairly bad. We've already discussed it several times, and he seems to be very understanding. I'm just worried that maybe I'll never be able to open up to kissing him, maybe it isnt shyness? Because we constantly hold hands, hug, and lay up against each other. I'm fine with everything else, its just kissing that makes me feel awkward. |
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Jan 4 2008, 12:05 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 273 Joined: Jul 2007 Member No: 547,099 |
Wait for him to make the first move. Maybe it won't be awkward when you actually do it, it's only awkward when you think about it.
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Jan 4 2008, 06:26 AM
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Kimberly Group: Member Posts: 1,961 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 121,599 |
... the move has already been made, as far as kissing goes. We've already kissed plenty of times. Not just pecks, but actual kissing.
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Jan 4 2008, 07:50 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 273 Joined: Jul 2007 Member No: 547,099 |
Oh. Well if there's no chemistry, and you talked about it, what'd he have to say?
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Jan 4 2008, 09:10 AM
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i think if you're still too shy about it, most probably you need more time.
to trust him, maybe? i don't know, haha. but only move forward when you're ready. talk to him about it, i think that's the best thing =) |
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