he's myy best & i love him., i'm in love with myy best friend!!!=/ Options

[jayybee]

okayy.
i met him the summer before myy junior year
[ima senior now, we in the same grade]
& we hit it off from the get go.
like we are soo much alike its freaky deeky weird.
anyway, when we met i was going out with this other boy
who wasn't exactly the best thing for me.
well my best friend was there through it all,
i mean he helped me realize that myy boyfriend
at that time was just playn me
&& that he kept coming back for me
because he knew i would let him.
Anyway, i broke it off with myy boyfriend & it was cool.
after about 6mnths of knowing him
i noticed that this guy is perfect for me.
i mean, perfect!!
he was another race [which i've always wanted to date]
he's great dresser, he makes me laugh, he a dancer!!!
[go figure!!??] && he stole myy heart.
throughout then && now i've just been attached to him.
texting him, calling him, little games
we've played with one another.
but one night last year it got serious, he started
hitting on me. like really hitting on me,
but im a chicken && i dont make the first move so i just went along with it like it was a joke or something.
well we continue to do it today but in a more intimate wayy
&& we are just like a real couple.
we argue, then make up, we have nicknames,
private jokes, private meetings.
the thing is i want to tell him but im scared &&
ive been hiding this secret for over a year now.
i think he knows because one night we were talking
&& he said that somethingg was different about me [after some heavy flirting].i asked how he said i dont know, you just
seem different.
since that happened i been stuckk on it.
i just need to know what to do.
help!!!

[Insurmountable]

Holy cow, that was the weirdest set up for a help post I've ever seen. LOL I thought you were making us read a poem XD

Get over your fear of rejection and go for it! Yes I do know its hard, your handing yourself over to someone. Your heart and they can either take it or reject it, life is full of chances and risks and you should go for it if you've been waiting for over a year now. If he's been flirting with you openly and going on with how this friendship is going I think he wouldn't mind being in a relationship with you. Just go for it, don't always wait for him to make the first move

[transcendentalis...]

dude, i like the color purple too!

i'm guessing you're a chick, but grow some balls, in the most friendly way possible. just confront him and see what's up. communication is something you're going to have to get down sometime in your life.

&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&

[jayybee]

you guys really dont know.
like its easy to sayy "go for it chip!"
but think about it if it was you?
i drive myself crazyy at night tryna
figure out ways to tell him
&& ive tried & when i did he didnt answer the fone.
so i chalked it up to fate.
i dont know.
im just chicken.=/

[transcendentalis...]

but he's your best friend... it can't be that hard, can it? :(

i guess the first time you really confront someone, it's unnerving. but you have to start somewhere right? i'm not championing excessive consumption of alcohol by any means, but if it gets you to relax, .. :)

or you can pop a random game of truth or dare on him!

[MissFits]

OH MY GOD!
My fiance and I were just like this, we were best friends before we dated and now we are engaged and neither of us could be happier.

I just told John, I gathered all the courage I could got him alone and told him how I felt. It was SO scary, but I just couldn't keep it bottled up anymore.
That was an awesome night

So, do it!! Right now!!

[jayybee]

yeah the truth or dare idea isnt bad
but i only get to see him on the weekends
because he lives in the cityy [San Francisco]
&& i live in pittsburg [40min. drive, 1 1/2 bart ride]omg, he's so amazingg.
like i told myy friend && she said to just tell him
[she's known him longer than me]
but its soooo hard!
im so scared!
like shitless scared!

[*Steven*]

I THINK I LOVE YOU, SO WHAT AM I SO AFRAID OF?

[jayybee]

OMG! misfits
that is a beautiful story!
really!
it could damn near be
myy inspiration.
thank you.=)
i always daydream
about me & him
ending up like that.
*tear

[jayybee]

not funny steven!
lol.=)

[MissFits]

I know how you feel!
But, you will look back on it and laugh. I swear.

I can look back on how nervous I was to tell John and think about how hilarious it is.
While I was telling him, he was tying my shoelaces together.

But, your relationship can't start if one of you don't make a move.

EDIT:
I just read your post to me, thank you
We are both very happy, and I hope that it does inspire you to talk to your friend.

[jayybee]

yeah i guess your right misfit
but this could all just be 'play flirting'
&& i would be really hurt &
bruised for god knows how long
if he turns me down.
i'm truly, madly, deeply in love with this boy
to the point where when i think about
how much im in love with im
tears come to my eyes.i just need a sign to let me know that this is it.
this is the real thingg this time.
no flakking.
i've had too much of that in myy life.

[MissFits]

But, wouldn't it be better to have experienced it even if it's not the real thing?

If John and I had a terrible break up and I could go back in time I would choose to be with him every time. He has made me a better person, and love is the most beautiful thing in the world.
I am so lucky to experience it.

I'm sure if you gave it a shot, swallowed your pride, and told him it would be fine. Everyone has gotten their heart broken, but you can't let that stop you from finding someone to love you.

[transcendentalis...]

chances are, you're never going to totally get away from rejection and disappointment in your life. i'm sure most of us on cb have been let down at one time or another, and some, a lot more than others. it's just a part of life, and everything you go through is really just a growing experience.

no matter what happens between you and this boy, or you and some other boy later, or you and anyone in the world, try and learn something out of it. there are some events in life that seem to have no meaning whatsoever, and sometimes when people pass away it seems random and totally unfair... but i promise you that if you search, you can find a reason for anything. it'll keep you going :)

you're going to be fine!

[malimars]

does he have the net?? cause if so just play around and confess it all and see what he has to say and if things good thats great but if he starts getting weirded out just say ahh sorry that was my friend shes being a loser kiddin around or something lmao it really does work try it out!!

[MissFits]

^ Ha ha ha ha.
That's funny.

It's better to do it in person, in my opinion.

[Insurmountable]

From the looks of it, we all have experience with this and were telling you to go out and tell him.

Call him up right now and tell him! Of course its nice to do it in person but if you can't stand it do it over the phone.

^Yea in person I would say its better, you can see his reaction and what not.

Also don't sit there and try to come up with the right words, I do it with everything and I'm always to late or I take to long and it makes people mad.. so just get on the phone with him or next time you see him and just tell you like you. Don't say "we need to talk" because it puts more pressure on you as well.

[jayybee]

well thanks to everyone.
im going to see him this weekend
[i take dance classes in the city]
&& im telling him then.
anyone else have any "advice"
just post & i'll reply.

[MissHygienic]

Coincidentally, my story is very much like MissFits' except my boyfriend was the one who admitted it. I was in love with him for forever, so that was, like, a religious moment when he told me. My thinking is that if you both consider each other "best friends," chances are that not a lot can go wrong. You're already compatible as friends, what would be different in a relationship? Best of luck.

[jayybee]

yeah but your friendship emotions
can entirely differentiate
from your relationship emotions.
i mean he could be an ass, a woman beater,
a druggie, or stupid.
but you wouldnt have never known that
as his friend.
because some things
people keep private.

[MissFits]

If you are really best friends he wouldn't keep that private.
Best friends implies you know most everything about that person.
I do, however, agree that friendship and relationship emotions are different.

[MissHygienic]

True. Certain circumstances could arise, but for the most part, it seems like you've been friends for a while. You've gotten to know each other for a while from the "get go," and certainly how you both react to bad things (?) so take your chances and tell him. People can't wait forever; his desires might be the same, and I guess it rests on you to tell him.

However, both MissFits and I have success stories with male best friends, and I think you will, too.

[Uronacid]

^yep yep... listen to them.

[Sandraaa]

OMG. I couldn't read that but goodluck.

[jayybee]

so im the topic starter jayybee

&& i talked to him last night...


&& i didnt tell him.=/
i just chickened out again i guess but,
i will tell him this weekend for sure.
i can't dragg this on anymore.