I don't know what to say., A friend isn't talking to me, even though I've said sorry. Options

[PaintMyFace]

(I apologise for the length of this post!)

Me and my friend have fallen out... over what exactly, I don't know.

I think it's because I talked to someone during a 'year book' meeting that I'm not friends with, and apparently she was talking to me and I didn't hear her. (If she wanted to talk to me and I wasn't talking back, couldn't she have tapped me on the shoulder or something?)

And now she's got all stressy... so I asked her if she wanted to talk during school break (which goes on for 15 minutes) and she said 'whatever' in a way that made me think that she didn't really care if we talked or not... so from there, I didn't know what to do.

I didn't talk to her, in the end. I didn't have enough courage/confidence... so I text her after school. Bad move, I know, but I didn't know what else to do.

Basically, the text said 'look, I know I should have talked to you today, but when I asked you if we could talk it seemed as if you didn't care if we did or didn't. So I didn't know what to do... I'm sorry for whatever I've done and to be honest, I didn't realise talking to someone I'm not really friends with is a big deal.'

??? Was that a good way to go about things?

She's online (MSN) at the moment, and I'm not sure if I should speak to her. She hasn't texted back to my text, which I know if she said she didn't have enough credit is bull, cus she's on contract and usually has like quite a lot of credit on there anyway.

I'm not sure if I should talk to her or not. (On MSN, I mean.)

I think I've totally blew my chance of getting this all sorted out, but I was really confused as to why she was angry at me and so didn't really know what to do.

I've apologised to her twice now (both through text... coward, I know(!)) and she hasn't replied. Well, she replied to the first one, and said 'I'll talk to you later'. She never did.

I'm not sure if I should think that she doesn't want our friendship to go on any longer... but if that happens, I'll probably fall out with my other friends (the other 2 that hang around with us... we're like all best friends) too, and don't want that to happen. One of them is my bestest friend, and I don't know what I'd do without one friend... I'd be a total loner at school... I don't have any other friends to fall back on... I'm worried about what will happen.

What should I do/say to her?

Please help. >.<

[1angel3]

Hey don't worry about it, just lay off for awhile and trust me she will come back around. She will realize how stupid this is. You already made an attempt twice; don't stress it. Ignore her for a couple days. That will make her realize that you love her companionship but you don't NEED her. But she'll come around.

[*jeanna*]

you're 15. you'll meet other people in like a week..

[S-Majere]

I've had similar experiences with a particularly clingy ex-friend. Usually I'm far too arrogant and conceited to apologise (I hate doing that. Hate it!) so I just move on. I want friends that understand me, and heck if I don't pay attention to them - they won't sulk about it!

[datass]

maybe she's pms-ing?

i dont know, but im sure you two will be fine soon. if she thinks youre an important friend and being too proud isnt an issue, you two will be talking again in no time.

or you can act like everything is normal and talk to her tomorrow. casually say hello or something

[moorepocket]

just let her cool down, and talk to her rationally. Tell her what bothering you, and let her tell her side of the story. Don't play the blame game (she's being a bitch, so you're bitchy back, etc).

[Silly--x]

shes obviously not somebody you can trust or be good friends with then.. she doesnt care about anything even thou you have said sorry a million times already so why keep trying to chase around her? let her be wateva i know yooh're better than her! just dont talk to her! she's not worth it! you can other new people you dont need her

[HeroesAndVillian...]

Try apologizing once more (this time IN PERSON!!!) and if she still ignores you, let it go. She's obviously throwing a tantrum. If she really values you friendship, she'll realize how childish she's being and forgive you.

[Kontroll]

Some little faggot I used to be friends with called it quits when I blurted out, "Nick, you're gay!" infront of his mother and on the phone with his girlfriend. Guess some guys feel the need to wear a James Dean mask infront of certain crowd just to compensate for his trite boy band badassness.

Give me a f**king samich, MAH!

[JCLore]

i personally think you should grab her attention at any oppurtunity
and then be straight forward with her about everything
tell her the stuff you told us
be forceful but not like your angry or anything
after that if she still does it, she not a very good friend
find another person to fill her postition as a friend
if she changes her mind....
you end up with 2 friends where you started with 1

another thing you could do is send her the link to your post
might help her see what she's doing

Goodluck!

[Joss-eh-lime]

gawsh. friends suck sometimes.

and you wonder if they were ever really your friend, to get pissed over something so seemingly unimportant.

just keep trying to talk to them, and then you'll have to give them time.