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 Dec 6 2007, 05:26 PM
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How do you tell someone you really care about that you're no longer happy in the relationship?
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Dec 6 2007, 05:59 PM
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 Cornflakes :D Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,541 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 322,923 |
You sit down with them and talk to them. It's going to be hard to sit there in the silence and bring yourself to say what needs to be said, but keep in mind that staying in this relationship is only hurting them more. So if you really care about them then you should just come out and tell them that you no longer want to be in the relationship anymore because your not happy.
Why is that your not happy anymore? If you confronted them and were willing to try and fix the problems would you want to stay in the relationship? |
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Dec 6 2007, 06:13 PM
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 Resource Center Tyrant Group: Official Member Posts: 2,263 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 593,306 |
QUOTE(Insurmountable @ Dec 6 2007, 05:59 PM)  You sit down with them and talk to them. That and then you say, "I'm not happy being in this relationship." Don't try to be tacky and hint at it, and don't intentionally act unhappy to show him that you don't care about him. That'll only cause tension, and if he cares about you, he'll do all that he can to make you happy again. Take matters into your own hands. |
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Dec 6 2007, 06:43 PM
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You say exactly that.
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Dec 6 2007, 09:52 PM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 17 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 596,977 |
QUOTE(Insurmountable @ Dec 6 2007, 04:59 PM) You sit down with them and talk to them. It's going to be hard to sit there in the silence and bring yourself to say what needs to be said, but keep in mind that staying in this relationship is only hurting them more. So if you really care about them then you should just come out and tell them that you no longer want to be in the relationship anymore because your not happy. Why is that your not happy anymore? If you confronted them and were willing to try and fix the problems would you want to stay in the relationship? The thing is, I don't think he will ever be willing to fix his problems. |
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Dec 6 2007, 10:48 PM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
oh, so this is the guy you just moved in with? and let me guess, you're no longer interested in keeping the relationship alive because of the other guy you've been flirting with huh? well then, i hope that karma bites you in the ass.
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Dec 7 2007, 12:02 AM
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QUOTE(brestar @ Dec 6 2007, 02:26 PM) How do you tell someone you really care about that you're no longer happy in the relationship? care but no likey no mo../ EASY.. FRIENDZONE.. but that gonna hurt the guy if he like u though.. y dont u like him no mo/ |
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Dec 7 2007, 02:03 PM
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 The Fire Element. Group: Member Posts: 57 Joined: Oct 2007 Member No: 586,191 |
Just sit him down and talk through your problems and if he doesn't want to better himself by fixing those problems then just tell him up front that you are no longer happy and that if he doesn't care about your feelings as to not fix his problems or the problems in the relationship that it is just best to let it go.
In a relationship each party has to be happy if you are not happy tell him he should understand no one wants to make a choice they will regret. |
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Dec 7 2007, 03:11 PM
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 RyanIsCoolerThanYou<3 Group: Member Posts: 514 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 525,502 |
QUOTE(brestar @ Dec 6 2007, 09:52 PM) The thing is, I don't think he will ever be willing to fix his problems. Just by you saying that tells me that you still want to be with him, and there's still that chance he could change, just remember, if you leave him, be prepared to never see or talk to him again. There are ways to work things out, it just takes more work than saying,"It's over" and regretting it later. It's just so easy to walk away, why do you think divorce rates are so high? |
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Dec 7 2007, 03:22 PM
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Phst drop his ass get with someone who will work for it and not be a bum.
You see you must tell it like it is never be afriad that is a sign of weakness. |
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Dec 7 2007, 03:26 PM
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RyanIsCoolerThanYou<3 Group: Member Posts: 514 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 525,502 |
QUOTE(TheGreenGoblin @ Dec 7 2007, 03:22 PM) Phst drop his ass get with someone who will work for it and not be a bum. You see you must tell it like it is never be afriad that is a sign of weakness. Having a fear of adverse affects that you really may not want to happen doesn't make you weak, it makes you human. |
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Dec 7 2007, 04:16 PM
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 speak without words Group: Member Posts: 395 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 15,622 |
Telling him how you feel is showing him that you care too.
You have to say how you feel, you can't put yourself in a position where you feel obligated to be with him. You can't stay with him because you "have to." Seeing you miserable is going to make him feel miserable. You just have to be straightforward...no matter how difficult that may seem. He'll get over things in the end. He has to. |
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