kissed a friend Options

[yaamakoh]

i kissed a friend of mine about a month ago... now i'm starting to feel too attached when i shouldn't be.
the kiss turned into a heated "discussion" and it wasn't just once, it was maybe a few times.
we still act as friends, and now it seems that i care about her more than i should. i was about to pop the question to engage into a relationship, but i'm still suffering from my last relationship that i had.
i'm still debating whether this is going to work out, or will it be a failure like the other past relationships i had. i don't want to get into any more drama than i should, but at the same time this girl has something to her that keeps me interested.
i'm not sure if i should wait, remain the same, or if i should start giving hints to start a relationship.
also we playfully flirt like, "did you miss me?", "why didn't you call?"
granted friends could say that to each other too, but now it seems like we are talking a bit more and more than before.

[S-Majere]

If it weren't for your having come out of a relationship beforehand, I would advise you to grab this opportunity with both hands!

As it is, give yourself another month or so to assess how you - and she - really feel.

[nothin]

Weren't you the guy who said you were at your prime lol..
are you going to give it all up for this girl?
had to ask myself that too

[toxicity584]

If she is worth it then go for it. You must make sure that she has the same feelings for you though because that will make the situation very bad.

[DisOriental85]

i dont ever think that there should be a time limit before you start to date someone else... if anyone else has said this before, sorry for being redundant. But if you feel that you really like her, then go ahead, its an opportunity and we as humans shouldn't give up on.

Thats sorta how my last one started... she was always there for me and i've liked her. then we had our first kiss, (it was lightly raining, at her house, in the garage looking at the sky and the stars...)
we talked about it a few times and we tried to chalk it up as "in the heat of the moment thing" but the more I thought about it, the more i liked the idea... then it happened again, the kiss... we were both shocked and at the same time happy... we started to joke around, saying "i love you" and she'll reply, "yeah, yeah" and she would never say "i love you" back only "yeah, yeah"
Something happened to me and i was down alot, and she was the one i talked to... one night, right before we got off the phone, I told her that i loved her, which I truly did, and this time, instead of "yeah, yeah," she replied back with "i love you" also... a couple of days later, we were together!
hope all goes well and sorry about the long post... just shedding my 3 cents and my experiences!

[LoveToMySilas]

Seems like you guys are just messing around. You're probably getting attached because you like being in a "relationship". I mean, everyone likes to be loved. Don't let the past get in the way of your future. If you like her, go for it!

[yaamakoh]

it is true that i like to be in relationships. as i grew up my parents were never home, and my brothers were in college at that time. i relied on my friends most of my life, and relied on past relationships as well.
we are starting to get closer, i just met her again recently and we hung out for two days.
we danced together at a party, and kept her distance from guys she didn't know... which kind of gave me a sigh of relief.
i'm seeing her again to fix her laptop, but i'm going to wait it out... until the feelings are both mutal and definite.

[rosemary27]

i kissed a friend of mine about a month ago... now i'm starting to feel too attached when i shouldn't be.
the kiss turned into a heated "discussion" and it wasn't just once, it was maybe a few times.
we still act as friends, and now it seems that i care about her more than i should. i was about to pop the question to engage into a relationship, but i'm still suffering from my last relationship that i had.
i'm still debating whether this is going to work out, or will it be a failure like the other past relationships i had. i don't want to get into any more drama than i should, but at the same time this girl has something to her that keeps me interested.
i'm not sure if i should wait, remain the same, or if i should start giving hints to start a relationship.
also we playfully flirt like, "did you miss me?", "why didn't you call?"
granted friends could say that to each other too, but now it seems like we are talking a bit more and more than before.

you know if you wait to long...she will find a someone else...so limit your time...becuz thats wat girls do...lol if you really like her and know that you can trust her then go for it...but you might want to find out if she likes enyone...or yeah....ur problem is like mine...kinda ...in away

[yaamakoh]

i'd rather be friends then break up later on in the future. like i'd rather cherish a friendship that will last a few years or so then engage in a relationship that won't even last that long. man, she's on my mind way too much.
maybe i should... maybe i shouldn't

[Just_Dream]

I know we've talking about this before, but here's my two cents, despite the fact that I'm not experienced in this kind of situation.


Knowing the kind of person that you are and given what you've described her to be, it's obvious that you two have a lot in common. I know I've told you to "seize the opportunity", but you're right in the sense that you're risking a friendship. But at the same time she might be taken by someone else. You really have to consider how much she really means to you -- which is a great deal, considering what you did. Plus, you kissed her. Girls are trick. She acted like everything was normal -- that could mean two things: either she's interested since she reciprocated the kiss (or well, I assume so), or she didn't want to destroy the friendship and hoped that you would forget as well, since neither of you two acknowledged anything romantic going on.

Now here's the other tricky part - she says she misses you and a bunch of other stuff. Could this be hinting that she indeed DOES miss you, and hopes that you'll take the hint and ask her out? Or maybe she's just messing, since you two are pretty flirt.

But honestly, what with the amount of time you spent with her and what you've done for her (we talked about this earlier), I think she should realize just how much she means to you. And it would be unfortunate if she does end up with someone else.

However, I still stand by my idea that you should seize the opportunity only because you feel so comfortable around her and she treats you more sincerely compared to her other guy friends. Right? It seems like there's definitely a strong romantic connection between you two, beyond friendship. You could wait it out, but playing these kind of games/hinting with her might push you past your limit, if you know what I mean.

<EDIT> - And maybe you both might be pretty lonely, considering how much you two have dated other people, it's definitely a different feeling being alone. I don't know if what's being reciprocated between you two is being on the rebound, but considering how long you two have known each other, it's a little tricky. Sometimes there's just a strong connection that you can't push aside and say that because you feel like you're on the rebound, you feel that way...
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But you're a really sweet guy and she's missing out if she does turn you down. Wish you the best. I'll talk to you later about this. lol I took a nap and now I'm awake again, but you'll probably off to work now.

[micros]

I think if you're honest with her how you feel about her. And that you like her and liked the kiss it could turn into a sucessfull relationship. However you shouldn't rush things if you're not ready to go into another relationship. But, if you're ready to kiss her I think you're ready for some type of comitment.

[Stumbleine]

GO FOR THE GOLD!