Pathological liars, confrontation? Options

[*jeanna*]

I'm sure everyone has crossed paths with a pathological liar.
Have you ever had feelings for someone you find out is one?
Or maybe not fallen for them but ever confronted one?


I have and wow, it is confusing. I think they are this great person but then again it was probably all LIES, lol. This one guy lied about the strangest things. He must have been trying to impress me. He lied saying he personally knew one of my favorite bands and his grandfather had John Wilkes Booth's gun. Yeah...
The strangest and most detailed lie was that he "saved"/"protected" this girl and her mom from an abusive boyfriend. He grabbed a baseball bat and the mom's boyfriend took a knife out. The guy ran and "saved" the females by putting them in his car. I wasn't impressed more along the lines of that he was incredibly dumb. But then I felt like the dumbest person in the world for believing even one of his lies!

It was too weird so I contacted the girl and she said, "HAHAHA NO! THAT NEVER HAPPENED! he got in a fight with some guy because he was being called a f*g. he got beat up so bad. a cut on his hand and two black eyes." I was baffled since he said he was in some weird karate thing lol and tried to come off so tough when he was the same height as me (5'8''). Oh and plus 100 other lies.
I have this other friend, not really a friend but she im's me randomly to talk every other month or so. She has told people she almost died about 100 times if she would keep track of her lies. This girl has had cancer on basically every part of the body and swears she would never drink again because she has gotten poisoned countless times. Then posts tons of bulletins saying something else lol.

I don't know how pathological liars can live with themselves. I can't say one lie to someone's face without feeling guilty.
I confronted the guy I was talking about. He talked me months after I was done with him and he said, "Do you miss me?" I laughed and said, "To be honest, I don't. You are a pathological liar." He was in denial! I haven't confronted the other person because it is hilarious and helps with boredom at that time but I will one day.

[tokyo-rose]

Yeah, I've known one girl who's like that. After I found out her true nature, I basically stopped talking to her unless it was just small talk that she started up first. The best thing to do after confronting a pathological liar is to just drop the friendship since they'll never stop lying.

[*jeanna*]

Yeah, I've known one girl who's like that. After I found out her true nature, I basically stopped talking to her unless it was just small talk that she started up first. The best thing to do after confronting a pathological liar is to just drop the friendship since they'll never stop lying.

oh yeah. when i found out he lied to me i stopped talking to him. then months later he contacts me pretending it never happened.
it's so strange.

what i also don't get is that i stop talking to people FOR A REASON yet months later they message me or something, again like nothing happened. Most of the time I piss them off so they don't talk to me again! [i know, bad] yet they still talk. It's annoying

[LennonLime]

I'm pretty sure my brother is a pathological liar. He has all the signs. It's kind of sad, I can't trust him with anything

[tokyo-rose]

oh yeah. when i found out he lied to me i stopped talking to him. then months later he contacts me pretending it never happened.
it's so strange.

what i also don't get is that i stop talking to people FOR A REASON yet months later they message me or something, again like nothing happened. Most of the time I piss them off so they don't talk to me again! [i know, bad] yet they still talk. It's annoying

They don't realize that you purposely piss them off in order to make them not talk to you, so once they get over their anger at you, they figure it's okay to talk. You should just tell them straight out that you don't want to communicate anymore.

[*jeanna*]

They don't realize that you purposely piss them off in order to make them not talk to you, so once they get over their anger at you, they figure it's okay to talk. You should just tell them straight out that you don't want to communicate anymore.

Well i'm sure most of the people i don't talk to anymore aren't pathological liars. Like at the beginning of this year some guy who i told, "don't talk to me" messages me.

oh and then there are these creeps from a past site i was on still IM me lol. i swear i deleted my account 5 months ago yet when i clear my block list, BAM, they must have added me. i get an IM from them. even if i cuss them out, still. but then again they are creeps and desperate so that's probably why. it's so gross.

anyways, i guess i should be more blunt to people.

[tokyo-rose]

Well i'm sure most of the people i don't talk to anymore aren't pathological liars. Like at the beginning of this year some guy who i told, "don't talk to me" messages me.

oh and then there are these creeps from a past site i was on still IM me lol. i swear i deleted my account 5 months ago yet when i clear my block list, BAM, they must have added me. i get an IM from them. even if i cuss them out, still. but then again they are creeps and desperate so that's probably why. it's so gross.

anyways, i guess i should be more blunt to people.

The first one: Probably did it to spite you. Silly boys.
The second one: Put your buddy list on private, I guess? That's what I did a long time ago. No one I don't actually want to talk to can IM me.

[*jeanna*]

The first one: Probably did it to spite you. Silly boys.
The second one: Put your buddy list on private, I guess? That's what I did a long time ago. No one I don't actually want to talk to can IM me.

well he's the same age as me, 19. so i doubt it was out of being a jerk. maybe they are so deathly bored they look at the bottom of their thoughts on friends lol and i come up.

[tokyo-rose]

well he's the same age as me, 19. so i doubt it was out of being a jerk. maybe they are so deathly bored they look at the bottom of their thoughts on friends lol and i come up.

But you didn't want to talk to him anyway, so you shouldn't mind if that's the reason he talked to you... :T

[arcanum]

IMO, confronting a pathological liar is pointless. I knew one way back when I was like 14ish, tried confronting them. Definitely didn't work out.
But its good, cause he was insane anyway...

He even lied about his name. Basically everything.

[*jeanna*]

IMO, confronting a pathological liar is pointless. I knew one way back when I was like 14ish, tried confronting them. Definitely didn't work out.
But its good, cause he was insane anyway...

He even lied about his name. Basically everything.

yeah, i know it wouldnt do ANYTHING. but atleast i said i know and shut up. lol

they are all insane. i read about it earlier today. eek

[Smarmosaur]

i don't see how people do that kind of stuff...it just doesn't make sense.
i put up with TONS of people like that...it's just scary sometimes. >_<

[Uronacid]

I thought my friend Steve was a pathological liar. I got to know him, and I found out that he was just really talented. Figures. xD

[Sandraaa]

My ex boyfriend was a pathological liar!

He told me he was married, then told me it was a test to see if I'd leave him. Then he told me he had a kid and was married but later on, he told me it was a lie. Then he told me he was getting back with his ex girlfriend, but it was a lie. Then he told me he was going to stay at his ex girlfriend's house for a while, but of course it was a f**king lie.
He later told me that he was going to Russia for a week, but he never left Belgium. He told me he was in the military in Isreal but LIE.

There are SO SO SO SO many other lies I've forgotten. Haha.

[MissFits]

I was really close friends with this girl, everyone liked her and she was "so cool". She would do anything with you if you asked her nicely, and on long walks she had stories about when 'she lived in California'. She would say the craziest things about how she saw people get stabbed, how she was robbed, how her best friend got shot right in front her, how she beat up a gang of girls twice her age, how she was raped by some people (sometimes it's a girl, sometimes it's a guy), how she saw Satan himself. Everyone in our group of friends knew she was a liar, but she lied about harmless things so no one really said anything.
It eventually built up and she started lying about me and my fiance to the rest of our friends, and lying about them to us. It was ridiculous. That's why I think you should always confront them, because compulsive liar don't just stop lying, you can't trust them.

[Laughsalot]

i don't think it's as common as people think to meet a pathological liar. i've never met one but yea i think those people seriosly have something wrong with them. since they don't value honesty alot of times they don't value loyalty also so they might lie and say things about you to make you look bad from what i'm reading from your guys' posts.

[nosylilme]

I think my cousin might be a pathological liar. The things he says he's done is kind of unbelievable. Like how he beats up people twice his age, or how he was the leader of a gang and had gang wars, or how he dealed drugs. He's like 14. Actually, he did have a drug problem, but the rest of this.

[ersatz]

There's a girl in my school who everyone hates because she lies to every single person about everything, like even the littlest things that don't even matter. Every time there's a misunderstanding with anyone, it all points to her. I don't know why she doesn't understand that this is why people don't like her. She told this story about how she was supposedly date-raped but...I don't even know if I believe it, and it's like a serious subject, but I can't believe her cause she didn't give any details and she always lies. She's using it as an excuse for her sluttiness too so..it's tough to believe.

[wishforhelsinki]

I don't know how they could live with themselves.. I still feel ashamed for some of the lies I've come up with years ago to this day, though I would never admit what I've lied about.

It's possibly very common I think to run into one.

[toxicity584]

I confront liars right on the spot...Anybody that knows me, will tell you that I absolutely loathe liars.

[xhidethedetails]

I have a friend who I believe is a pathological liar.
He said he got a girl pregnant, has sex with all these people and other stuff.
It's hard for me to take anything he says personally and most of the time I end up getting mad at him.

[pandamonium]

OMG ! i know two ughh... um never had a relationship with them but yea.

they are the worst. but usually i think they think that they are okay with lying. and they most of the time can do it with a straight face.

[*jeanna*]

There's a girl in my school who everyone hates because she lies to every single person about everything, like even the littlest things that don't even matter. Every time there's a misunderstanding with anyone, it all points to her. I don't know why she doesn't understand that this is why people don't like her. She told this story about how she was supposedly date-raped but...I don't even know if I believe it, and it's like a serious subject, but I can't believe her cause she didn't give any details and she always lies. She's using it as an excuse for her sluttiness too so..it's tough to believe.

the date rape thing, same thing this girl i was talking about originally is using. oh and of course being drunk every night.
i mean she said she has gotten poisoned and almost choked on her vomited, blah blah. the next night she posts a bulletin saying she loves jack daniels and crap.

[icecreamisyummy]

one of my ex bf cheated on em with one of my friends. so then we brke up and he got with that girl... well a few months later she pretended she got raped in the boys bathroom at school. it was this huge thing in school. well turned out she htought she was pregnant and didnt wanna get in trouble. she got in soo much trouble because the CSI ppl were called in and everyethign there was a lot of money involved to figure out who did that to her.