Need a girl's advice, Awkward silences Options

[tokyoanime]

So...I need a girl's or a boy's advice.So I like this girl but then whenever I talk to her either it be phone,aim,real life there would always be awkward silences through the conversation.I try to end it by saying how was your day or what are you doing.But those 2 are basically all I have to end silences.Anyone have any ideas how to end these silences?Like any topics I could bring up to talk about etc. I'd appreciate the help

[SLACK3R]

Play 21 questions?

[S-Majere]

This is always something that happens; and it will get easier to talk to someone after a few weeks of general chitchat.

Remember to ask your girl more open ended questions, so instead of 'what time did you finish today?' ask her 'How did you find today?'.

Pay attention to anything that the both of you like and steer the conversation toward a mutual interest. Odds are, you'll both have plenty to say.

The same goes for when you inquire about her personal hobbies or interests; get her to talk to you about them and she'll open up more.

Good luck!

[tokyoanime]

Ok I guess I'll try some of your advices thanks still might need more advice though.

[livwho]

Well, if there are awkward silences, chances are she isn't interested...
But maybe I'm wrong. Probably.

Do NOT be forceful. It's really annoying when someone tries to butt in, especially if the girl is having a bad day.

Good luck to you!

[arcanum]

When people stop talking to me or if there are awkward silences, I just type random stuff (like noises, like bop bop, rawrr, etc), tell them random things about me or things that have happened to me, or play the question game!

idk if all that would work for you though, cause I'm just a weird person, who actually does that kind of stuff irl as well.

[omgomgKATHY]

I second 21 questions!

gahh thats why i hate the phone/aim/ or anything else thats not face to face.

[karmakiller]

Just say something random. That's what I do. But I am slightly weird and stuff.

Like the next time there's a silence just be like "Yup... those hippies..."

Hm, maybe that's why I'm not successful with people. lol.

[tokyoanime]

Haha.Well of course I'm random and you know I try not to be forceful with anything of course I take things easy.I talk to her in real life every once in awhile when we see each other as well.The silences just come on aim kind of stuff in real life we may just stop talking too lol.But yea I just want something to bring up that we can talk about and trying random stuff might work so I'll try that next time.Keep them coming if you guys have more.

[Joss-eh-lime]

it takes a while to become comfortable with silences, because they happen with everyone.
but, in the meanwhile when there is an awkward silence bring up things she likes. like her favorite shows, or sports, or classes.

i honestly love talking about things i love.
it makes sense.

[rorhinna]

oh man, I hate it when there's awkward silences.
especially when I try to keep up a conversation and
the guy gives like one or two word answers. its like
COME ON! I end every response with a question and its
like there's no effort.

k, so bring up topics that you've talked about before
and do like follow ups, like if you ask her bout her
day and she said she was worried bout a test
ask her how that's going or how it went. talk about
movies, music (usually is a long convo), sports,
or play like would you rather... like ask random
things that you would rather do that lead to more
converstaion. oh and girls like to talk, so let her
talk, BUT I like it when a guy talks to, cuz not
many keep up a good convo, ya know?

mmk, hope that helps

[rebeccalovely]

It's kind of hard to avoid the awkward silences with people you don't know so well. This definitely calls for some face-to-face quality time. Once you guys have experienced some things together and have more in common, you'll have more to talk about!

[tokyoanime]

Hm..I'm trying to communicate with her more in real life of course but I don't see her often sometimes at school is basically where I see her the most maybe when I see her at the movies I'll hang out with her and some friends because we all basically know each other well enough to hang together.Well keep it coming because a lot of this is really helping me out and it's not bad to have more information.

[arghrawr]

Ah, I kind of don't quite think before I speak, so I just point out the awkward silence and say something like, "Man, you're boring. Or maybe I'm boring. Which one is it?"
OR If you wanted to be slightly nicer
*awkward silence* "So then crickets started to chirp and it was then that they realized they should probably meet up at a movie or something so the silence would be less awkward."

But I'd go with 21 questions just to be safe. That second one really didn't work for me.

[Call911Quick]

When people stop talking to me or if there are awkward silences, I just type random stuff (like noises, like bop bop, rawrr, etc), tell them random things about me or things that have happened to me, or play the question game!

idk if all that would work for you though, cause I'm just a weird person, who actually does that kind of stuff irl as well.

IRL?

Them: How was your day?
You: Oh, it was fun. I did _____.
Them: Oh, really? Sounds like fun.

---awkward silence---

You: ...rwarr

[xFaith]

^ Hahaha xD That does not work in real life =P

Just ask what she's going to do that day or how her day was, en then just talk about your day.. and try to go into another subject like a hobby of yours :) Or talk about your friends or his friends(not mean stuff!) or what you have done together (like, Do you remember the weekend? It was fun wasn't it?)

If thats not working, just say ""Wow you're quiet!" xD If you think she wouldnt mind you saying that.

[shiruji]

Just say something random. That's what I do. But I am slightly weird and stuff.

Like the next time there's a silence just be like "Yup... those hippies..."

Ha ha:P
A friend of mine says "Huh, the Autumn came early" when it get silence.

I just write "jaja, nei nei... Neida saa..." which is something like "Yeah yeah, no no... alright then..." or "yeah yeah, no no... but, you see...".
'Neida saa' starts another conversation about something totally different most of the times. It's like "hey, let's talk about something else ;)" LOL!

Or I just say "Wow, this was awkward..."

[*jeanna*]

Play 21 questions?

I personally hate that. I was talking to my guy friend online and he sounded like a myspace survey, "where would you go if money wasn't a problem?"
I stopped talking to him since we are too different

[arcanum]

IRL?

Them: How was your day?
You: Oh, it was fun. I did _____.
Them: Oh, really? Sounds like fun.

---awkward silence---

You: ...rwarr

Nah, in a situation like that, I probably would've talked about something that happened.

But yeah, pretty much. Or I make that noise, that I guess the girl from the grudge does? hahahaha

[ihavenoname706]

So...I need a girl's or a boy's advice.So I like this girl but then whenever I talk to her either it be phone,aim,real life there would always be awkward silences through the conversation.I try to end it by saying how was your day or what are you doing.But those 2 are basically all I have to end silences.Anyone have any ideas how to end these silences?Like any topics I could bring up to talk about etc. I'd appreciate the help

well first u need 2 figure out wat she likes and u can talk about that and thing u like

[xBUTTMUNCHx]

i agree with just asking random questions.
anything you want to know about her.
she might be the kind of girl that likes to asked q's.
since that way it wouldn't appear like she's taking
the initiative first. if you are interested in her,
ask away!!! heheh help much?

[gr00vyswordsman]

Okay, to develop a real connection you must lead the conversation through Wide and Deep levels. Wide meaning you cover a wide range of topics. While Deep means you go deeply into each topic, beyond the superficial, and talk on a genuine emotional level. Think about it, thats how a lot of your best friendships have formed...anyways, Topics the girl like a lot: human nature, relationships, music, hobbies, travel, childhood, PETS, nightlife. AVOID boring logical topics like school, politics ect...sometimes talking about it will turn her off.
To make this easy, like S-Majere said start with a big open question. ask couple sub questions to find out more details.
Then, share a story. Its important to share a story early cuz otherwise youll just end up in interview mode which totally sucks.
You cant wait for her to open up with a story, so you do it first.
Also, make sure you say some personal things about yourself so you give her permission to reveal something about herself as well. She'll open up as much you allow her...which is generally as much you open up. After you go deeper into the topic for a bit, do not let the topic run dry. Instead change the topic saying [b]"anyway". [/b] So many times when i talk to someone, they change conversation before im even able to recognize the convo has changed and i get lost.

Again. solid conversation is about something that really connects with her... ya know? heres some good questions i like that

If you could wake up anywhere on the planet tomorrow morning, where would it be?

What did you dream of becoming when you were younger, and why?

Think back to the best Christmas morning you ever had.......what was it like?

Craziest/spontaneous thing you've ever done ("sexually"? she might ask and say "if that's what you consider to be the craziest thing you've ever done").

Sunrise or sunset?

What would your last meal be, Your allowed 3 courses...

If you could live at any time in history, like in books... or even fairy tales... who would you want to be, which character is your most exciting?

[shoryuken]

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[dustbunny]

Sunrise or sunset?

LOL I ALWAYS USE THAT! i actually really like awkward silences because they're fun to deal with; it allows me to be really random and ask random questions. I do the whole "versus" stuff with sunsets/sunrises and I ask random ass questions like what they're allergic to and if they like when their pillow/bedsheets come out of the dryer.