HEAR ME OUT!!!, TAKE A GOOD LOOK, AND A GOOD LISTEN! Options

[jammylise]

Have yall ever been in an unhealthy relationship? But you felt so in love/lust with the guy and you did what you could just to give him your all?

Have you ever been in a relationship, where he abused you physically and mentally..?

Have you ever loved someone so much, no matter what they did to you, you still stayed with them hoping they'd change and they'd actually treat you better?

Have you ever been in a relationship where you knew it was wrong to stay but your heart took place of your brain?

I've been in one...and i've seen so many topics on here about relationships like "should i stay" "are we in a relationship" "does he love me" ect..

I've been in those kind of relationships bundled all up in one, I'm not going into details but in the long run i left him. It felt like a 700 pound man was lifted up off my shoulders. My ex made me insecure but i got over it, he made me depressed, but i got over that. He broke my heart, but it healed. He made me feel that i can never love someone again..but it wasn't love, and i have room to love someone again but at the same time being smart about it.

my advice to all you girls who post topics here about your relationships if you think your life is over because of what some guy did to you...it probably will be. It's mind over matter, if you think your life sucks, it probably does. But you can change all that by thinking positive in your life.

I know it's mad hard yo, but if you feel your life is over because of a guy...realistically it's not lol, it may feel like that for a few days/weeks..then you get bored, you still think of them and you get sad, but the world doesn't stop just for you it keeps going. You can't put your life on hold to cry for nothing, if someones gone or somethings gone let it be gone.

After being in a relationship don't get in another one for a while..like they told my mom when her sister died wait a year until making any important decisions..

If yall need advice i'm here, i'm mad nice.


anyways, i'm out.

Hope you guys read this and change your mind about anything that's upsetting you right now or something.


<3

[*Insurmountable*]

That was great Janibel <3
I've never been in one of these relationships but I have seen many go through it.

[cyb3r0ptik]

i was too.
at the end of the relationship, i mainly stayed with him because of the convenience factor.
without him, i had no place to live, no way to get to work, nothing. i was basically completely dependent on him, and that's the way he wanted it.

a friend of mine, who ... showed up out of the woodwork, out of nowhere convinced me to leave.

the only way i knew how... was to check myself into the psych ward at the local hospital.. and it wasn't until THEN that i learned and realized what kind of unhealthy situation i was living in.

i ruined a lot of things by staying with him, and then leaving the way i did, (like my stepmother's credit and finances) but i honestly believe i saved my life.

in the end, you have to think about YOU.

[jammylise]

Yeah!
I was with my ex since i was about 13years old until last year.
I'm 17 now and I wanted to leave him but i couldn't because he'd hit me and find me where i ran away too.

And then the next day be so sweet, but i finally was like what the hell am i doing? i was tired of everything i f**ked up in school and in life, so after some sessions with a phsyciatrist i got better some counseling really helped me get over it and they gave him counseling too me & him are "friends" i only hang out with him while were with other people because i still dont trust him

and he's cheated on me with over 10 girls
and had two babies with 1 of my "best friends" andone of my cousins.

theres more too it, but i'm not getting into that
it's just crazy i dont want anyone else being in that relationship i had or worse.

[*Michelle*]

Yes, I was in an unhealthy relationship. He hit me, and he took out his anger on me.

He even hit me in public. What an embarrassment to himself, what a shithole.

If you're in one, get the f**k out. There's nothing you can do. Not gonna read your post; too long.

[jammylise]

I know, i just kept writing.

but it's questions & then advice at the bottom.

[tokyo-rose]

my advice to all you girls who post topics here about your relationships if you think your life is over because of what some guy did to you...it probably will be. It's mind over matter, if you think your life sucks, it probably does. But you can change all that by thinking positive in your life.

I know it's mad hard yo, but if you feel your life is over because of a guy...realistically it's not

I've thought that to myself a lot of times. I agree with everything you said.

This was a really good post. :)

[jammylise]

Thank you.

[Kay-]

Wow, it's so true, i never thought about somthing like that.
Like you post kind of just slapped me in the face because right now im going through a rough patch with my boyfriend. Good job!

[y0urelectrikk]

haha I wish you would have posted this about a year ago.
oh well. sometimes it's good to learn things the hard way.. I know exactly what you mean in this post.

[jammylise]

Wow, it's so true, i never thought about somthing like that.
Like you post kind of just slapped me in the face because right now im going through a rough patch with my boyfriend. Good job!

I'm glad.


=D

Good Luck with that.

[TangyBang]

My wife beats me. Where do i get help with an abusive wife? She always comes home, drunk, and whips me. I'm scared to fight back. I need help.

[jammylise]

Are you serious?

or playing around?

[TangyBang]

Forget it. You guys just don't understand my problem.

[jammylise]

Nah, i want to know if you are serious?
because a lot of people here tend to kid
around like that

[TangyBang]

Look. All I want to know is if there is any place I can get help with an abusive wife? I just want to be in charge and be the man of the house.

[jammylise]

Ok, first you need to get away from her.
as far as possible.

check into a hotel/motel when she's sleeping or when she's not there.

you need to be safe, then

National Domestic Violence/Abuse Hotline
Call: (800) 799-SAFE


call them but not from your house.

call them from a cell, or phone in the motel.

get away from your wife.


if you want to stay with your wife, she'd need to over-come some counseling some serious conseling.

but you need to be careful.

[TangyBang]

Do I need my bible?

[jammylise]

I don't know? Maybe?

If you are serious, if your wife isn't home now.
I suggest you take a pair of clothes, some money
and get out of there.

[TangyBang]

What about my cars? I have two cars. Should I take both of them with me? Just in case she wakes up and drives to find me?

[*Michelle*]

TAKE ONE

[jammylise]

You really need to pray to God, you need God in your life.


Take 1 car, but take the keys to the other car.


If you have any kids, take them with you.
Take whatevers important and necessary.

Get out of there I don't know why you keep on being on the computer!

For your safety you need to leave, like now.

And inform us when you've done so, or are safe.

[TangyBang]

Ok. My wife is still sleeping. I don't know what to wear. Should I wear my favorite shirt? It's the shirt with pink polkadots. Or should I wear camoflauge? I think im going to run into the jungle.

[jammylise]

Jungle?
Um, no.
Wear whatever you'd like.
Just leave.
Take the car and leave.

[Kay-]

Wtf, tangbang.
Ok, obviously your not being serious. Please stop being an idiot.