staying together for the kid(s)..., is it worth it? Options

[faydedprimadonna]

so i'm having a dilemma... my boyfriend and i have a 6 month old baby girl and i'm having a really hard time with this... i love being a mom (even if it is really frustrating) but my boyfriend and i have lost our relationship completely... we barely talk to each other, we fight alot when we do talk, we haven't even touched in months... it's really frustrating because i need to be in a relationship where i feel loved, wanted, appreciated, and happy, but i'm not getting that anymore... he's suggested that we go to couple's counseling, but he's also suggested that i go to a shrink and get meds... i don't think that he's willing to change, and basically just expects me to do all the compromising... is it worth the personal struggle to keep my daughter away from having a broke home? or is it worse for her in the long run?

[kimmytree]

I think you should try counseling before you try to end things. I hope everything works out.

[faydedprimadonna]

thanks... i think i'm gonna try the counseling... it can't hurt right?

[*ersatz*]

There's obviously faults on both ends, so if you go to counseling, the counselor will tell your boyfriend what his problems are and what he needs to do to make it work and you won't have the responsibility of letting him know.

[faydedprimadonna]

that's wat i'm hoping for... however, i can kinda see it ending up in a situation where he won't handle that and quit, or find another counselor... i just don't want to waste time, energy, and money on something that may not be worth it in the beginning

[towntown2]

I think you should definitely take couple's counseling.
Try your best to work out any differences you both have.
If you guys are really tired of each other, then you should break it off.
Your child will be able to sense if their parents are unhappy with each other.

If you do break it off, then work out a kind of agreement for quality time with your child.

[*Insurmountable*]

I think you should definitely take couple's counseling.
Try your best to work out any differences you both have.
If you guys are really tired of each other, then you should break it off.
Your child will be able to sense if their parents are unhappy with each other.

If you do break it off, then work out a kind of agreement for quality time with your child.

Exactly what I was going to suggest

[weed]

Sometimes it worsens things severly.
If you want in you want in because YOU love him and you want to be with him. Kids only suffer from having parents fight.

Plus shes really young so you have about 3 years before her memory is wipped.

So if your going to fix things do it now before she can actually remember what goes on.

[omgomgKATHY]

I think you should definitely take couple's counseling.
Try your best to work out any differences you both have.
If you guys are really tired of each other, then you should break it off.
Your child will be able to sense if their parents are unhappy with each other.

If you do break it off, then work out a kind of agreement for quality time with your child.

I think this is the best advice, try to work things out the best way that you can. If things Improve then I say you give your relationship another try. But if you feel that things aren't getting any better, just break it off.

However I think you should try to still have some sort of a relationship with him (friendship maybe) for the childs sake.

[faydedprimadonna]

thanks guys! somtimes i think about stuff sooo much that it all becomes a tangled mess in my head... and i'm never sure what to make of it, much less what to do your advice is wonderful and we're gonna give the counseling a try! what's the worst that could happen, right?

[EmoEyelinerx]

I think you should definitely take couple's counseling.
Try your best to work out any differences you both have.
If you guys are really tired of each other, then you should break it off.
Your child will be able to sense if their parents are unhappy with each other.

If you do break it off, then work out a kind of agreement for quality time with your child.

Thats what I was thinking.

[RAWRstephishere]

Try to work things out first.

But no kid wants fighting parents. Trust me, I know.

[Jennifer]

Definitely go to couples counselling.. as you said, it can't hurt.
If things don't improve after that.. you may want to consider breaking it off.

It'll be hard, but much better than staying with him and fighting.

[faydedprimadonna]

thanks ofr all the good advice guys i looked up a few therapists in my area so we're gonna give it a go! you guys are great!