Is it normal to be jealous about this?!, Boyfriend watches a lot of porn, drives me crazy. Options

[e-q-b-03]

So, my boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 years, active for 3.5 and I am still jealous when he watches porn... I know I shouldn't be, but he always says, "Hey, I saw this in a video, lets try this.."

I feel like I have to bend, sound, or act like these girls in these videos.. Is this normal!? Or how can I overcome this jealousy of nasty girls who sell themselves.??

[SarahxJoy]

Well, have you talked to your boyfriend about how you feel?
And yeah, I'd say it's pretty normal for a girl to feel jealous in this situation.

[*karmakiller*]

You shouldn't have to feel that way. There's nothing wrong with him watching porn on occasion, but when he brings it into the relationship and it's not making you comfortable then it's time that something be said. It's one thing if he wants to try new things in the sex life, but another to make you feel "compared" to these girls. Let him know that you're not comfortable with it, sometimes being blunt is best (sometimes men communicate differently than women, lol).

[xburnoutx00]

watch it with him. it will make him happy.
srsly.

it's okay to be jealous - but it's just a movie... and if you think about it, he's only doing it to benefit you two. hahaha.

[*Moderator*]

Its normal to feel jealous. But I've read somewhere that watching porn together will make a stronger bond between the two of you. It is just a movie, but if you feel uncomfortable about it, talk to him about it.

[alligator]

I feel kind of jealous when my boyfreind watches it.
I'm always afraid he's going to start compairing what I can to to what he sees, or that I'm not good enough and he has to watch it to feel satisfied. But practically every guy i know watches porn so I don't feel that bad.

[tooeffingcrazy]

Maybe he needs the porn because you can't get his dick up anymore.

[pinayprincess]

think about it like this;

he will never meet these girls in his life...

i used to think of it as cheating in some ways since it was 'him and his hand' practically doing it to a girl.. anywho i let it go b/c its literally a boys life style... a fantasy really

[xprobablecausex]

I'd be worried if my boyfriend at the time didn't watch porn. >.>;

Porn makes the world go 'round. From what you've said, he uses it as a tool to accentuate your sex life.

Quite beneficial, aye? And if he's still having sex with you, he obviously likes what you do. :P

[HeroesAndVillian...]

Talk to him about it. He probably doesn't know you are bothered by it. If I were you, I'd get really pissed if he started watching it while you two were having sex.

[jesusisthebestth...]

he probably doesn't feel that there's anything wrong with it and he probably doesn't realize that it bothers you. if you've been together for over 3 years, you should've already addressed this concern instead of letting it go this far, now he will wonder why you didn't say anything sooner.

it is normal for men/women to watch porn, but it shouldn't become excessive.

but you should never feel that you have to imitate the women he watches in pornos.

[xxlipglossxx]

That would be annoying.

When I was little, I wouldn't stop sucking on my pacifiers. My mom took them when I was sleeping and told me the rats ate them.


There's an idea. aha.