Uh oh Options

[Ashley_Brook]

I've been talking to this new guy, Dayne for a few weeks. I met him through my sister and we have mostly just been flirting online. Meanwhile, I've going through a breakup with my now ex, Evan. I've told Dayne's friends that I was breaking up with him, assuming they would tell Dayne.

Well last Thursday I was hanging out with Dayne and we had a great time. Nothing has been official yet between us. I guess you could say we are 'talking.' Anyways, I went home later that day after hanging out with Dayne, and then a few hours later, Evan came by to talk some things out. I was in a rush and had to do laundry so I had Evan come with me to the laundry mat. We live in a small town and coincidentally, Dayne spots me and Evan together doing laundry. I knew immediately then that it would look bad, but I wasn't too worried about it and I didn't think that it would be a big deal. I assumed he would be a bit concerned and say something to me about it and I would offer my explanation.

Well since then, Dayne hasn't responded to any of my messages online or phone calls. I haven't gotten to talk to him at all since that Thursday him and I hung out. I've called him every night for the passed 3 days and nothing. I went on his myspace and his mood is set to gloomy so I'm guessing he's upset about seeing me with Evan. I'm now trying to get a hold of him to explain why I was with him but the waiting for him to contact me back is killing me. He doesn't get on myspace very often and so I'm kind of waiting for him to confront me about this. I feel like calling him again or just going over to his house and talk to him directly but I don't want to look like a persistent freak.

What should I do?

[towntown2]

Uh oh.
Well, since it's a small town, you're bound to run into him again, right?
Maybe you should give him some space to sort out his feelings.
Don't pressure him to talk to you because then he might say something he'll regret later.

You should resolve matters with Evan, too.
Are you two officially broken up, now?

[Ashley_Brook]

Yeah we're broken up now. I just hate not knowing what Dayne is thinking right now. He probably has the totally wrong idea about what he saw.

[mytangerine]

march up to his house & explain yoself. [: haha

[shiftieeyedpnoi]

march up to his house & explain yoself. [: haha

^ Make sure to bring flowers. Guys like flowers too, you know. But make sure they're those really cool ones that eat bugs and lizards. And, if you have extra money, bring the damn flower food too.

[Jennifer]

The best thing to do is to go to his house and explain yourself.

You'll only look like a persistent freak if you make it that way.
Just stay calm, don't rush through it. ^ And yes, take flowers :)

Just tell him you're sorry if it came across wrong, and hopefully he'll understand

Good luck

[Ashley_Brook]

Now I'm kind of confused. I messaged him on myspace the other day saying, "I have been trying to call you, where have you been?" thinking he would reply telling me about him seeing me with my ex. But he replied back just saying, "I don't know, I'm usually here. I'll try to come and talk to you later. xo Dayne"

When I tried to call him those times, it's his parents house phone and someone kept answering saying he wasn't there, and he doesn't have a cell so I don't know what's going on.

[mytangerine]

Now I'm kind of confused. I messaged him on myspace the other day saying, "I have been trying to call you, where have you been?" thinking he would reply telling me about him seeing me with my ex. But he replied back just saying, "I don't know, I'm usually here. I'll try to come and talk to you later. xo Dayne"

When I tried to call him those times, it's his parents house phone and someone kept answering saying he wasn't there, and he doesn't have a cell so I don't know what's going on.

at least he said that he'll come & talk to you while adding a cutesy little XO at the end. be optimistic, he'll come around.

[Ashley_Brook]

^ Yeah you're right. I'm probably just digging way too deep into this and freaking out. Thanks!

[*Steven*]

Going to his house wouldn't be a bad thing. If he liked you, he would be happy to see you, and you could explain yourself and well, if he doesn't understand or is too childish to accept that, then why bother

[EmoEyelinerx]

Wait a few days to let him think. Then after a few days go over to his house and confront him about what happened.