help, relationship troubles Options

[bunnybabe120]

So I've been dating this guy for a little less then a year We really are into each other. I love him he loves me. Normally we see each other everyday at college but during the summer we get to see each other once or twice a week. Now wednesday night he tells me we should take a break. that we ae too touchy feely we need to work on the us. Apparently, i am too clingy. What i don't get is how come it is ok for him to clingy when he wants but not ok for me to be a little clingy? How is it ok for him to mention that he is spending the day that was his anniversary with his ex and not expect me get jealous? I mean i am always worried he will cheat on me with her because he did with his last girlfriend. Anyway i need to know what to do. I still love him. Should i dump him once and for all? Should i try to win him back? and if so how?

[*Michelle*]

If you want to stay with him, you should clear up with him what he means by "clingy." Ask him for examples of ways in which acts of "clinginess" can bother him and the ones he likes (sorry my sentence is so poorly written).

Also, a concern on cheating is very important to bring up. You should definitely tell him how you feel about that. And if he has cheated before, there are bigger chances that he will cheat again.

If he doesn't like clingy girls, play him hot and cold. :P

[*Steven*]

Hot and cold indeed. Yeah basically find out what he dictates as clingy, and then if you really care for him and you're willing to change that, then go ahead and change that :)

Also, what Michelle said about cheat once, easy to cheat again is true. Then again, if you're doubting him and think he may cheat on you, then maybe y'all either need to develop a stronger relationship or you need to develop more trust in him.

[sweetest-emotion]

too clingy? hmm if you're confused about what that exactly means i would get him to explain that to you. cuz it could mean a lot of things. it could mean that he's just saying that to end things. sucks but lots of times guys make stupid lies to end things that they're unsure of. if it's untrue, i'd say go for him again cuz he was prolly just scared and needed an excuse to think things through.
but if it's true that you were like crazy clingy and always asked where he was going, who he was with, just stuff to make you sound like his mom, then i can see his point.
now with him going out with a girl on your anniversary is really lame and he's a total jerk for that. i just say you need to talk to him about all this cuz it's obvious that there are some questions left unanswered and you deserve the right to know. but getting back together with him...i dunno. if you feel it in your heart it's worth it, and he does to (without forcing him, he needs to be totally willing to get back together), then go for it. good luck!

[*Sandraaa*]

As early stated, ask him exactly what he meant by clingy.

How is it ok for him to mention that he is spending the day that was his anniversary with his ex and not expect me get jealous?

I don't get this. Was it their anniversary or yours? If it was your anniversary and he spent it with his EX, then I don't understand why you're still with him.

[Rachel]

As early stated, ask him exactly what he meant by clingy.
I don't get this. Was it their anniversary or yours? If it was your anniversary and he spent it with his EX, then I don't understand why you're still with him.

I think she means it was their anniversary, which would also warrant the question of why are you still with. Michelle said it best; communication. You need to let him know whats up, especially since you are worried about cheating. That worry is probably why you are (unconsciously) clingy.