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 Aug 2 2007, 07:42 PM
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 I <3 my dog  Group: Member Posts: 47 Joined: Mar 2007 Member No: 512,880  |
I personally think it's really pathetic when people say that stuff about themselves. My friends acknowledge their insecurities but they know that it's not that bad and we come up with plans to improve them.
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Aug 2 2007, 07:55 PM
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LOL I admire you guys.
My problem is I dunno when to stop. But I couldn't imagine being so harsh to one of my friends when they're so vurnerable like that. And hell yeah, Mean Girls HA. I love that movie. "Four for Glen Coco. You go Glen Coco. One for Cady Harrington. Annnd none for Gretchen Weiners!" One thing I'm getting tired of though, is the implication that my friends are pathetic or shallow. It's okay to say I'm handling this problem all wrong, but my friends are neither pathetic or shallow. If being able to come to me with their problems is pathetic, so be it. If being a normal teenager who can sometimes be a bit unreasonably overaware of her flaws is shallow, then thanks, but I don't really need that kind of input. I just wanted advice on how to handle the situation because I know I'm handling it wrong and I was wondering if anybody else does so. |
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Aug 6 2007, 05:27 AM
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^ Sorry about that. Don't get me wrong, I'm not calling your friends shallow, I'm taking all of these examples people have given to weigh my opinions with. Lack of a better word, I think. What I was trying to say is that my friends and I don't talk to each other about that kind of stuff. I'm not saying that we're better than you or your friends, in fact, I think it's a bit unhealthy to keep it bottled up like we do. =\
Anyway, instead of putting yourself down to make your friend feel better about yourself, try to enhance her own features. More positive reinforcement will help her, I think. Although I'm sure someone has already brought that up before... |
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Aug 6 2007, 05:43 AM
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 (′ ･ω･｀) Group: Official Designer Posts: 6,179 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 72,477 |
I try to tell them I'm fat too but it makes them feel even worse.
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Aug 6 2007, 10:25 AM
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Yes, those little white lies we tell >_>
Oh well. It's not terrible to put yourself down if you really don't feel that way, and it's for the benefit of someone else ^_^" |
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Aug 6 2007, 11:30 AM
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I just tell them the straight truth. "You look fine and you know it." Its not putting myself down and its giving them a confidence boost.
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Aug 6 2007, 12:34 PM
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 AKA RockIt Studios Group: Official Member Posts: 2,286 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 421,809 |
my friends are usually the ones talking about their insecurities. i never get into it, unless they say they're fat or something because they're all wayyy skinnier than me.
also, it's easy to tell if somebody is doing it for attention or if they just need to vent...usually the attention whores keep at it 24/7. :] |
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Aug 8 2007, 03:53 AM
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QUOTE(revoltaire @ Jul 30 2007, 12:36 AM)  i actually do have one friend who obsesses about herself being fat when she's really rather shrimpy. i have a friend like that, but shes not really attention seeking. she actually does have insecurities. i dont really put myself down because im bigger than her and im telling the truth. ive learned to love how i look like. |
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