my parents and my boyfriend Options

[kingdomhgirl]

My parents don't approve of me having a boyfriend. But I've already dated a guy behind their backs. (And he was a complete jerk. Anywaaays) Now I have a new boyfriend...But I don't want to go behind my parents back this time. (even though my friends are telling me to)I love them, but I also love my boyfriend just as much and I don't want to lose neither. I can totally imagine my mom and dad ignoring me if I told them if I got a boyfriend. They even gave me reasons on why I can't date.

THE REASONS

1.) I'm too young. (perhaps I am. I'm only 15.)
2.) Too stupid and crazy to know what's good for me. (That is just a typical stereotype for teenagers)
3.) My parents see a five year old version of me instead of a fifteen year old me.
4.) Guys who like me obviously only want my body.

I respect them for caring and looking after me, but I think their reasons are a little overboard. I'm obviously not throwing my body around like there's no tomorrow. I'm not THAT stupid and crazy (though I do have those moments) And, well, if I'm too young, then maybe I should have been installed with some program to not have emotions. (not that I'm a computer, mind you.)Hell, I was even sent off to a girl school. Now I can't communicate with guys properly. But I love my school still. lol.

Now a little about my boyfriend. We met on Myspace (yes, i know. but lets not go there.) We've been best of friends for two years, and we decided to meet up. He lived in Connecticut, while I lived in California. (quite a distance, eh?) But we met up in Disneyland and had the time of our lives. But my parents (especially my dad) disapproved of me hanging around with him. We became really close and he asked me out finally. I was soo SOOOOO happy. Haha...and then the day came when we had to leave. We were both crying, making promises that we'd see each other again one day. Well, we planned christmas. He can come down, except he's not over the age of 18 so he can't stay in a hotel by himself. (His dad doesn't want to come because he doesn't want to pay the airline ticket and food and hotel cost..etc etc) So he suggested my place. I know he wouldn't do anything, so I didn't see a problem with it. I suggested it to my mom who was okay with it while my dad blew up at me.

So two simple questions.
How the hell do I tell my parents about my boyfriend? (i've hinted. A LOT)
And how do I convice them to make him stay at my place for Christmas?

i know i may see a little greedy here. but, eh. it's not like i get to see the guy in person everyday. and christmas is the time where everyone gets off for vacation. (thanksgiving is too short, and summer is too long away from now.)

[*SinfullySweet*]

Why do your parents see you as a child? Do your actions reflect upon your image? I dont know. I say, you should reason with your parents. Tell them, you are old enough to know whats good and what bad. Tell them they can trust you with a boy. After all, they would trust you if you were a good girl in the first place I would do it simply like this if I were in your position

"Mom. Dad. there is something you should know. I'm not a child anymore. I have a boyfriend, and we are hornyand I thought you guys should know. And just to prove to you I can take care of myself, I've been with him for ___, and I'm still healthy and here. I'm old enough to know who and what is good and bad. I'm not a child anymore."

So yes. My parents would so go for that

[lostgrl16]

i was in that position before.. but i was too scared to ever just go up to my parents and let them know, of course they know about him now lol. so i totally understand where you are coming from. personally i would've loved having my mom know whats going on before, have her perspective on what i should do/dont do. try talkin to them, MAYBE it will feel better for both parties to talk about it instead of just laying down the rules as to why you cant. after years of datin without my mom knowin how i felt durin the times, can get hard =(

good luck to you -=]

[HeroesAndVillian...]

You know what. That one that you just smacked away as a stereo type, You're the one who actually met up with a guy you met up with on myspace. So yeah you are too stupid and crazy to make good decisions. But most of those reasons probably have some reasoning behind them. Talk to your parents about why they won't let you date. I've got a system set up with my mom at least and my dad will resist but he knows he can chase off the bad ones I pick...

I could have a bf at 13
mass group dating at 16
double dating at 17
and single dating at 18. I've hit the first one... haven't quite met up with the rest mostly cause I'm single now....

[omgomgKATHY]

Why do your parents see you as a child? Do your actions reflect upon your image? I dont know. I say, you should reason with your parents. Tell them, you are old enough to know whats good and what bad. Tell them they can trust you with a boy. After all, they would trust you if you were a good girl in the first place I would do it simply like this if I were in your position

"Mom. Dad. there is something you should know. I'm not a child anymore. I have a boyfriend, and we are hornyand I thought you guys should know. And just to prove to you I can take care of myself, I've been with him for ___, and I'm still healthy and here. I'm old enough to know who and what is good and bad. I'm not a child anymore."

So yes. My parents would so go for that

But if she says she's been with him for so and so amount of time, won't they get angry at the fact that she has gone behind their backs?

[voguelove]

wait..you love your boyfriend just as much as you love your parents?

how long have you been with him?

[Comptine]

if you really care that much about your boyfriend, you should tell your parents. if you love him enough, you'll be willing to come clean and be honest with your parents. if he's that important, you'll risk getting yelled at to be truthful.

anything less than that diminishes your relationship.

[*shotgunFUNERAL*]

funny that someone you've only met once, you're madly in love with AND trust them enough to stay at your house. it's people like you that get killed.

[kingdomhgirl]

Oh, thank you for your OOooooh so nice comments...and caring advice

@ respeldence: i think your comment works the bessst. many thanksss *bows*

@voguelove: haha sorry, once again, wrong choice of words. i care about my boyfriend just as much as i care about my parents. ><
i don't really proof read my posts....eh. but therefore, respeldence's advice makes most sense to me right now.

@ heroesandvillians: yeah, haha, myspace is stupid and crazy. i was stupid and crazy in 7th grade. and lets remember, people that have myspaces do have lives. they're just as real as me and you. yay. ugh, it's painful to hear the snide remarks I get when i tell i met him on myspace. heh. but that's what i got myself into and i'm staying with it. but anyhoo, i just really don't know how to approach my parents with this situation. they're going to find out pretty soon though. and i'm willing to suffer the consequence now =]

okay, shotgun, not "madly in love." sorry once again for choosing the wrong kind of words in sentences sometimes. but i do thank you for caring about how i'll get killed in my own house. but we haven't just met once ._. we like, knew each other for a week in real life and two years online >> *sighs*, excuses, excuses.

[*shotgunFUNERAL*]

i could "know" anyone online, but that doesn't make them who they say they are. what's your point?

[runa-hisoka]

haha, that kinda sounds like me, a little. See, ive been with my guy for two years and havent even seen him face to face ONCE yet. honestly im starting to not care if i ever do meet him or not.

people are right to worry, but also, not everyone is a serial killer, and really, some of these thigns are ridiculous. THink about it, if all they wanted to do was kill you, would they go to all that trouble to make you believe them? I mean to them you would be just a random stranger.

On that note...even if you parents freak out about him, so what? There comes a point where they cant do anything about it after all. If you trust him enough, then go for it. and youve met him before so you are safer than most but i woudl still say dont go alone when you go see him for the first time. Better safe than sorry after all.

[kingdomhgirl]

i could "know" anyone online, but that doesn't make them who they say they are. what's your point?

I believe that there's something called "trust". It's up to that person to take the chance (or not) to believe them