Kissing, What if You..... Options

[babygirl321]

So my boy friend and i have been going out for about 10 months. We havent kissed yet. When my friends would ask...of course i said no. then they say that we are crazy and that we are weird...stuff like that. I dont think that there is anything wrong with it. The questions I really need answered are: You can still have a relationship with out kissing right? Are we weird because we havent? and anything else you wanna add...THANKS!!!

[chasingvictory]

kissing, holding hands, etc. doesn't define a relationship in my opinion. So based on that, no, you guys aren't weird. It's the fact that you guys "like " (or love) each other, right? So yea.

[courtn3y]

I wouldn't be able to not kiss my boyfriend for more then a month. So a congratulations are in order for you two, strong willed hehe Second, that's not weird, it's different but in a good way I think

[babygirl321]

kissing, holding hands, etc. doesn't define a relationship in my opinion. So based on that, no, you guys aren't weird. It's the fact that you guys "like " (or love) each other, right? So yea.

Well I am glad that i'm not the only one that doesnt think its weird

[*digitalfragrance*]

It isn't weird at all! I applaud you for waiting that long!
I waited a while too with my boyfriend, but it was 6 months. You are my hero, and you should cherish the direction that your relationship is going without the need for that kind of physical affection.

[popoberry]

i think others would think it`s unusual to not have kissed after .....10 damn months but yeah if you wanna take it that slow go for it !

[Castaway]

ohh wow 10 months. i guess if one of you guys really wanted to it would've happened already right? well. how old are you two? just wondering because younger teens are probably more shy about that stuff.

well it doesn't matter at all. if you two are happy with eachother then good for the both of you. it just tells you that your relationship isn't based on lust.

[illriginal]

So my boy friend and i have been going out for about 10 months. We havent kissed yet. When my friends would ask...of course i said no. then they say that we are crazy and that we are weird...stuff like that. I dont think that there is anything wrong with it. The questions I really need answered are: You can still have a relationship with out kissing right? Are we weird because we havent? and anything else you wanna add...THANKS!!!

There's nothing weird about it =\

It's good to have an innocent and morally pure relationship. You should ask your mom... she would know better than a forum board full of horndogs and sex addicts, trust me. Your mom is your best friend and will always have great pointers.

And trust me, it's better to keep your relationship healthy the way you have it right now. I will admit though, kissing isn't so bad, but it can easily lead to things you might regret later. So if you decide to kiss... keep it innocent and cute

It isn't weird at all! I applaud you for waiting that long!
I waited a while too with my boyfriend, but it was 6 months. You are my hero, and you should cherish the direction that your relationship is going without the need for that kind of physical affection.

Damn we need a reputation system with points... I would have given you points for this post.

[Rachel]

^Wait so because I enjoy sex, that makes me an addict and a horndog?

[AngelinaTaylor]

^Wait so because I enjoy sex, that makes me an addict and a horndog?

AHAHAHAH I guess I fall in that category too. Mr. Tamawhatevercracker, have you ever had any? With a person you love, or maybe something casual, a fling? It's a great invention, you know.

Anyways, to the original poster: a relationship isn't defined by kissing or sex. However, if you both have feelings for each other, I'm a little curious as to why you haven't kissed. Are you attracted to each other? Or maybe you're too shy? (just plain curiousity)

Otherwise, congrats on the 10 months! I certainly wouldn't be able to do such a thing.

[illriginal]

^Wait so because I enjoy sex, that makes me an addict and a horndog?

I made no such claim.

AHAHAHAH I guess I fall in that category too. Mr. Tamawhatevercracker, have you ever had any? With a person you love, or maybe something casual, a fling? It's a great invention, you know.

ROFLMAO You gonna ask me such a question? Mamita, I'm Dominican/Italian and a Scorpio with a bangin ass body (strong egotism/arrogance, yes please). I can make any girl... especially una gringita melt in the palm of my hand and make her my lil sex slave.

I've been through so many girls (safely) in highschool that I discovered how sadistic and mentally sick women can be with their fantasies.

So to answer your question Ms. AngelinawhateverIdolist, yes I'm very very experienced. And to be quite honest, I regret havin most of the relationships I had (one night stands, lust, booty calls etc...) And no way do I ever want to go back to that life style again.

[illriginal]

Delete this post =\

[*MyMichelle*]

I don't think it's necessary to make a relationship. Especially if you're younger.

[towntown2]

kissing, holding hands, etc. doesn't define a relationship in my opinion. So based on that, no, you guys aren't weird. It's the fact that you guys "like " (or love) each other, right? So yea.

^^ Exactly.
If you two still aren't ready to kiss each other or have any other physical connections, then just take your time.

[AngelinaTaylor]

I made no such claim.
ROFLMAO You gonna ask me such a question? Mamita, I'm Dominican/Italian and a Scorpio with a bangin ass body (strong egotism/arrogance, yes please). I can make any girl... especially una gringita melt in the palm of my hand and make her my lil sex slave.

I've been through so many girls (safely) in highschool that I discovered how sadistic and mentally sick women can be with their fantasies.

So to answer your question Ms. AngelinawhateverIdolist, yes I'm very very experienced. And to be quite honest, I regret havin most of the relationships I had (one night stands, lust, booty calls etc...) And no way do I ever want to go back to that life style again.

Good for you, you sex-maniac! Btw, in my experience I've found more guys than girls with "sick" fantasies.

[illriginal]

Good for you, you sex-maniac! Btw, in my experience I've found more guys than girls with "sick" fantasies.

We all have different experiences

[Detective]

Well, Great things happen when you wait. And for kissing, I think it's fine that your not into that. And what your friends say shouldn't bother you.

[*steve330*]

Not necessary by any means, I don't think I personally could do that though haha :)

[Kontroll]

I've met people who have been dating for a couple years and haven't even kissed yet.

One option is that he's either scared, or he see's you more as a friend. I don't know. I had a relationship like that. Is he timid and shy, or no?

If so, just kiss him. Let him know you're interested.

[loveneko]

So my boy friend and i have been going out for about 10 months. We havent kissed yet. When my friends would ask...of course i said no. then they say that we are crazy and that we are weird...stuff like that. I dont think that there is anything wrong with it. The questions I really need answered are: You can still have a relationship with out kissing right? Are we weird because we havent? and anything else you wanna add...THANKS!!!

I suppose you can have a reason without kissing. Because eventually in a relationship you're gonna stop kissing.
But never kissed, it reminds me of a brother sister creepy kind of thing. It does have a plus though, if you don't kiss it lowers your chances of getting pregnant by a bit. (^_^)

[Spirited Away]

Your relationship is your own, not anyone else's. Do what you want, after all, it worked for 10 months already right? Kiss when you're ready to kiss. Hold hands when you're ready to hold hands.

Trust me when I tell you this. There are plenty of people who kiss on the first date or have sex on the first date and have not lasted as long as you have with this guy.

When your friends ask you the next time, just smile and say "I don't kiss and tell". Better yet, tell them the truth and remind them that it's worked fine for you so far.

Good luck!

[hojax]

i'm not going to lie...i do think that's strange.

i know that personally, if i was dating someone...and they didnt feel physically attracted to me..then i'd think we should call ourselves friends...not boyfriend and girlfriend. i know i know...its not all about the physical aspect...but something as basic as kissing i would assume would happen at least once during a 10 month span

[EmoEyelinerx]

Yes you can still have a great relationship without kissing. I think it would make your relationship stonger seeing that you two havent had anything sexual yet (kissing/touching etc.) and no, you are not weird.

I do think its a little strange though because alot of people kiss when they are dating.

[*Sandraaa*]

WTF? I think this is absurd. How is that possible? Aren't you guys attracted to eachother? How is he your boyfriend then? What do you guys do when you're alone?

WTF?

[arghrawr]

^LOL Don't say that.
I dunno. For me, it'd be weird because I'm very affectionate. Even with guy friends. But I guess for other people it's not weird at all. Everybody is different.