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 Jul 8 2007, 11:41 PM
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what do you when the guy you're absolutely in love with gets a girlfriend.. and now all you can do is think about them two together.. and you're so in love with him that before he got with his girlfriend no matter what song you heard you could always make it relate to him... what do you do when all you can do is cry because he's not with you? I love this guy sooo much and before he got with his girlfriend it seemed like he really liked me... he gave me hugs almost everyday... especially when I waited on him... he even held my hand once at school... he gave me his number in my yearbook... what should I do? I cry myself to sleep everynight.. last night I didn't go to bed until 5:00 in the morning because I was trying to keep my mind off of him and her...
Please help... I'm soo sad I can barely think... It would make me the happiest girl in the world to be his girlfriend.. What should I do?? |
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| *MyMichelle* |
Jul 8 2007, 11:49 PM
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I think you should just try to take your mind off of him. As impossible as that may seem, trust me, it is possible to let go.
If you have any hobbies, (especially artistic, haha) now would be a great time to develop them more deeply considering you are in such an emotional state. But remember this - if you're only a teenager, this feeling won't last for a long time. It will be quite short, actually. Just pull through this heartbreak, and you'll find that it's easier to be stronger during your future ones (there will be more heartbreaks down the road, whether they are with boys OR friends). Just try very hard to keep your mind busy with other things. At night, maybe try to read or listen to music that is NOT lovey-dovey. Paint or go out and play a sport. Hang out with your girl friends. Eat ice-cream and watch a movie. |
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Jul 9 2007, 12:04 AM
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 AttacKATTack! Group: Member Posts: 697 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 536,660 |
Wow, I went through the same exact thing as you're going through now. I'd cry myself to sleep and cry myself awake and spend nights just lying there thinking "Why does he like her and not me?" We were best friends in the world, inseperable really, but when he started going out with my best friend whom he didn't even know that well, it threw me into a rage/depression.
How did I get through it? 1. Time 2. Meeting new guys 3. Never EVER bringing up the subject of them dating and resuming my life as it was before Think about it. There's so much out there for you to do. I'm sure you're awesome and beautiful and there's tons of guys out there to meet that'd be ecstatic to be your friend (or more). Letting one guy destroy you will be the worst mistake of your life. |
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Jul 9 2007, 12:15 AM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 3 Joined: Jul 2007 Member No: 540,698 |
awww. thanks girls.. there's is one thing that makes me laugh about this whole him having a girlfriend thing... she lives in kansas (or at least that's what it says on her myspace..) and it says she went to school in kansas... alabama too... sooo... that's kinda funny.. because if they're dating and she's all the way in kansas then how are they gonna ever see each other face to face.. all they can do basically is talk over myspace, unless his dad pays for long distance phone calls, or her mom does... oh yeah, we live in georgia...
well anyway, I'm gonna try what ya'll suggested... hopefully that will help... :) |
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Jul 9 2007, 12:36 AM
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 sleep now, moon Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,540 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 526,212 |
QUOTE(xKatt @ Jul 9 2007, 12:04 AM)  Letting one guy destroy you will be the worst mistake of your life. too true. i did that after my long-term boyfriend dumped me for another girl. then i decided i was f**king sick of crying and guys who do that shit are totally not worth my time. i blocked everything out. if a song came up on the radio that i even listened to once with him, i changed it; if any song that remotely reminded me of how happy i was with him came up, i changed it. then i got a job and new friends and got back in the habit of flirting with people. my new friends are extremely reliable, extremely experienced, and extremely understanding, and i couldn't be happier with them. i WAS happy with him, but no matter how he ever made you feel... or how much he ever managed to convince you there was a possibility - it's behind you now, and you're never going to look forward to anything again until you're facing forwards. i still love my ex, but i've managed to accept that what's best for him isn't being with me... and that's enough. all i want is to be his friend and someone he can talk to when he feels like there's nothing else. a lot of the time, relationships aren't all they're cracked up to be. there's so many complications, and even though you think you can brave 'em all (and maybe you can), you really think you're going to be happy facing them all the time? during it, you're just going to be thinking... "god, it's worth it. i swear it is; he's worth it." and then when something happens and the two of you aren't together anymore, you're just going to feel like you wasted a hell lot of time. good luck. |
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Jul 9 2007, 02:08 PM
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 Hi, Im Brook. Group: Member Posts: 1,774 Joined: Mar 2007 Member No: 508,383 |
I agree with all them^.
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Jul 9 2007, 11:37 PM
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 Tasty. Group: Member Posts: 471 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,784 |
held your hand once?? wow, thats love...*cough*. wake up! i'm sorry but i went waaaay further with my ex and there was no love there. you just gotta find someone new! look, we're young, and i've grown to think that trying to find love at this age is ridiculous! yes, i believe it can happen and i have friends who are madly, truly in love. but stop trying to fall in love. and stop dwelling over this guy! it's obvious that he's over you and living his life, why not you? know a guy at school or someone that you think is cute? chat him up! i've found out that the best way to get over someone is to find someone new and exciting, someone totally different than your ex. someone who will give a damn about you. but of course after you have that double date with ben and jerry
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Jul 10 2007, 08:28 AM
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 daughter of sin Group: Member Posts: 1,653 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 386,134 |
Love? Oh come ON. Wake up, mate. Sooner or later, you'll forget about him regardless of what you want. But if you wanna do it quicker, just occupy yourself with things and spend time with people who make you laugh - it's really the best way. What's the use of sulking and moping all day? LIVE.
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Jul 10 2007, 01:35 PM
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As time goes on, you will feel really stupid about how much you wasted all your time on him. This happened to me before, it hurt a LOT. but just let things go, and be happy that he's happy =) That's what I did when my crush got a gf. I was happy whenever he was happy with her. I know it's hard, and it may seem like an impossibility, but let time pass. Soon you will find out that there are many other things in your life that is truly more important and so many other people around you. And you will soon meet another guy that will be even better than the guy now. There are so many guys in the world, don't waste your time on that one guy. MOVE ON =)
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Jul 13 2007, 08:26 AM
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right nw..im tryin 2 get over a guy i never even dated!!
love is tough...but we have 2 move on... wut u shud do is keep ur mind busy...go out with ur friends and meet up wid guys...try 2 even make him jelous  im tryin tht loolim gna shutup cuz i really shudnt be givin u advice..but im sure u'll be alright 
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Jul 13 2007, 08:35 AM
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Exactly the same thing happened to me!
And it didn't last either. And guess what? Six months later I met my current boyfriend. |
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Jul 14 2007, 10:34 AM
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 i'll fvck you til you luv me fagget Group: Official Member Posts: 2,152 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 428,884 |
QUOTE he even held my hand once at school... he gave me his number in my yearbook OH. MY. GOD. He held your hand once? Dude, that's, like, true love, man. And he gave you his numberrr? No. WAY! Just keep loving him, man. Keep loving him. |
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| *exhilaration* |
Jul 14 2007, 08:39 PM
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Kill yourself.
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Jul 15 2007, 12:02 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 295 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 521,658 |
QUOTE(exhilaration @ Jul 14 2007, 08:39 PM) Kill yourself. best advice yet |
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| *SinfullySweet* |
Jul 15 2007, 01:59 AM
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Have hope dear. In time, he will come to you.
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Jul 15 2007, 10:21 AM
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QUOTE(BLAZINASIAN @ Jul 14 2007, 11:34 AM) OH. MY. GOD. He held your hand once? Dude, that's, like, true love, man. And he gave you his numberrr? No. WAY! Just keep loving him, man. Keep loving him. 
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| *Mercy* |
Jul 15 2007, 04:56 PM
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QUOTE(exhilaration @ Jul 15 2007, 01:39 AM) Kill yourself. Come on..Do i have to say anything about whats wrong with that statement? 
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Jul 15 2007, 05:08 PM
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 Quand j'étais jeune... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 6,826 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,272 |
The problem: you're too emotionally attached to the guy too soon. You can't help it and that's fine, but don't think that you're going to be stuck with this feeling for the rest of your life. Katt says time is one of three things that will allow you to move on. I think time is the most important of the three.
Also, if you truly want to get over himand you're ready to do so, don't allow yourself to have hope for the two of you. Even the slightest thought that he'll change his mind will screw you over. |
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Jul 15 2007, 05:16 PM
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QUOTE Wow, I went through the same exact thing as you're going through now. I'd cry myself to sleep and cry myself awake and spend nights just lying there thinking "Why does he like her and not me?" We were best friends in the world, inseperable really, but when he started going out with my best friend whom he didn't even know that well, it threw me into a rage/depression. How did I get through it? 1. Time 2. Meeting new guys 3. Never EVER bringing up the subject of them dating and resuming my life as it was before Think about it. There's so much out there for you to do. I'm sure you're awesome and beautiful and there's tons of guys out there to meet that'd be ecstatic to be your friend (or more). Letting one guy destroy you will be the worst mistake of your life. Best advice given. |
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Jul 15 2007, 05:21 PM
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 people are wrong. women ARE objects. Group: Member Posts: 189 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 540,281 |
He doesn't want you.
Make him want you, suck his dick good. |
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Jul 15 2007, 07:41 PM
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QUOTE(tr1pp1n @ Jul 15 2007, 05:21 PM) He doesn't want you. Make him want you, suck his dick good. 
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Jul 15 2007, 10:22 PM
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i'll fvck you til you luv me fagget Group: Official Member Posts: 2,152 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 428,884 |
QUOTE(kryogenix @ Jul 15 2007, 09:21 AM) Oh, my God. I think I just made kryo laugh. I'm feeling pretty prideful now. And tr1pp1n, great advice. |
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Jul 15 2007, 11:26 PM
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sleep now, moon Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,540 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 526,212 |
QUOTE(SinfullySweet @ Jul 15 2007, 01:59 AM) Have hope dear. In time, he will come to you. are you joking? this isn't a fairytale. |
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Jul 16 2007, 12:34 AM
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QUOTE(BLAZINASIAN @ Jul 15 2007, 11:22 PM) Oh, my God. I think I just made kryo laugh. I'm feeling pretty prideful now. And tr1pp1n, great advice. Oh no. 14 year old girls are the enemy. What have I done. |
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Jul 16 2007, 08:22 AM
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QUOTE(kryogenix @ Jul 16 2007, 12:34 AM) Oh no. 14 year old girls are the enemy. What have I done.  Great going, hope you're happy. |
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