what sort of parent do you think you'll become? Options

[dustbunny]

pretty much what the title's about. what type/sort of parent do you think you'll become in the future if you aren't one now? even if you won't have children, imagine how you would probably raise your children.

ex:
do you think your methods will be completely different from your parents'? or will you raise your children similarly?

will you be a lenient parent or will you give them an amish-like lifestyle?

make them do a bunch of extra curriculars and whatnot, or let them run free!

what will your disciplinary style be..if you're going to have one?



dang that was long, guess i got carried away. well to answer my own question, i think i'm going to be raising my kids similarly to the way i was raised. i didn't turn out a disaster! well, i hope not? i'm going to be one of those parents promoting a social life with my kids...i don't want them to be social outcasts..

[*SinfullySweet*]

Wow, I think, I would raise my children completely different than my parents raised me. My dad, cares to much about my grades, my mother, is really over protective.

I dont think my methods would be completely different, because like most parents, they just want you to get good grades, have a social life, and basically be a good kid.

I wouldnt pressure them to go out of their way to do extra curricular activites. Maybe some sports would be nice

And, I think the way if would discpline my kids depends on how I am right now. Right now, I would yell if a child mis-behaves

Wow, I rambled on also

[iGio]

Hmm.Well a lot of parents always said to me that they wanna give their child what they didnt have.I want the same.I don't wanna have my child feel like stabbin me in the throat because I won't stop bugging them about stupid little things.

I'll raise them un-similar to how my mom raised me.I'll raise my kid like my dad would.I'll be a parent that my kid could go out and say "thats the coolest dad ever".I'll give them anything they want even if I had to die to see my child smile I would do anything.I'll raise them to voice their opinions and to speak their mind how ever they want.And as far as discipline - - If they think they a bigger beeyotch than me and try to play that little attitude - - slamming doors - - rolling eyes - - calling me a b-tch under their breath.They shall get the ONLY back hand slap - - one so hard they will never want to be hit ever again - - like my dad did to me.Basically I wanna follow how raised me a little until he left - - but thats one mistake I wont do - - is leave my kid.Never :o

And if they don't wanna participate in any extra curricular activities.So what.They just ain't gonna be obese laying on the sofa,thats for sure.

[y0urelectrikk]

ha, I'll be pretty darn strict.. considering what I get away with that my parents don't know about.

plus I have snakebites.. no way in hell would I let my kid get piercings on their face ha. Hypocritical? maybe.

[queen]

i think i'll be combo of traditional-strict and lenient. i mean, yes, i'd expect them to behave appropriately (in the traditional asian sense of the word), but i'll still try to understand them during their rebel teenage angst years.

[*steve330*]

I'll probably turn out similar to my parents with emphasis on grades and good habits/manners. Also, if they get into any video game (like WoW), I'll immediately cut it off rofl. Those kinds of games were too detrimental to me. I'd encourage socializing/sports as well, so long as their studies/homework are done. Don't want them becoming a social recluse like my brother -.-

[chibichi15]

I think I'll have a good bond with my kids. I mean; I pretty much act like a kid myself sometimes! But, I will have some limits. I won't be as strict as my parents, but I won't let my kids get out of hand. I want to be able to relate with them and still be a good mom.

[PINKLollyPOP]

I think that I will be a push-over for one. And I think that I will probably spoil my kids because that was how I was raised!

[*steve330*]

Everyone says they won't be like their parents, but I'm betting a majority of y'all end up like y'alls parents.

[demolished]

overprotected, annoying, advising, and dangerous at the same time.

i wouldnt mind leaving my children off to the street with their phones. it's going to teach them survival and punishment. It's going to teach them the real world.

I wont be a gentle parent.

[fathomlessdame]

i hope i'll be a good one....idk..

[*MyMichelle*]

I think I'll be a more relaxed parent than my parents are right now. :] Mostly b/c I grew up in a different society than they did.



make them do a bunch of extra curriculars and whatnot, or let them run free!
- I WILL make them try everything to see what they like, and definitely help them in whichever they feel is their natural talent.

what will your disciplinary style be..if you're going to have one?
- Probably more grounding. And yelling, b/c I tend to do that.

[dustbunny]

yeah i won't be an abusive parent, but i know if things get out of hand my kid's probably gonna get a smack across the face. of course that will only happen if they are young, like REALLY young. i advocate communication, so if they did something that i can explain to them with words on why it was bad, i will talk to them about it. the smack across the face is for when they won't be able to understand even if i talk to them about it.

[illriginal]

pretty much what the title's about. what type/sort of parent do you think you'll become in the future if you aren't one now? even if you won't have children, imagine how you would probably raise your children.

ex:
do you think your methods will be completely different from your parents'? or will you raise your children similarly?

will you be a lenient parent or will you give them an amish-like lifestyle?

make them do a bunch of extra curriculars and whatnot, or let them run free!

what will your disciplinary style be..if you're going to have one?
dang that was long, guess i got carried away. well to answer my own question, i think i'm going to be raising my kids similarly to the way i was raised. i didn't turn out a disaster! well, i hope not? i'm going to be one of those parents promoting a social life with my kids...i don't want them to be social outcasts..

Since I come from a strict heritage with a lot of morals, I'll be a strict parent. Make my kids do chores by the age of 10. My wife will make sure to teach her daughter how to clean the house, do the laundry, and wash the dishes, while I make sure my son gets into sports, martial arts, and weight training. And will throw out the garbage, cut the grass/rake leaves, and wash the cars.

My kids will NOT curse, or they'll be punished, they will not curse inside of our house, EVER.. I will approve of my daughter's clothing and will always have my wife check on her clothes till the day my daughter moves out of our home. Any skanky clothes will automatically be thrown out, and my daughter will be punished accordingly.

I will install spyware on their PC(s), and monitor everything they do online, they will NOT join group websites like forums and myspace nor blogs until they're in highschool, which will be monitored as well. I'll make sure to install a key logger so I can get all their passwords and access everything they access.

If they disobey me, I will cut off the internet from their room. Until I setup the proxy server correctly so that they may not be able to access the page ever again. The 2nd time they disobey me and join another sort of blog/forum/myspace-like website, I'll simply take their PC away from them.

As long as they follow and not break the rules, respect their elders, neighbors, and each other, as well as bring home nothing below a B (unless given a good reason, such as sick for too many days) I will spoil them, treat them good, and give them whatever else they need from me/us.

By the way, spanking isn't abusive... after 2 years old that is. That's how my family rolls, and that's how we keep control of our children till the point they grow up mature, healthy, and wise, with no lack of respect to anyone other than those who do not respect them.

[*steve330*]

Since I come from a strict heritage with a lot of morals, I'll be a strict parent. Make my kids do chores by the age of 10. My wife will make sure to teach her daughter how to clean the house, do the laundry, and wash the dishes, while I make sure my son gets into sports, martial arts, and weight training. And will throw out the garbage, cut the grass/rake leaves, and wash the cars.

My kids will NOT curse, or they'll be punished, they will not curse inside of our house, EVER.. I will approve of my daughter's clothing and will always have my wife check on her clothes till the day my daughter moves out of our home. Any skanky clothes will automatically be thrown out, and my daughter will be punished accordingly.

I will install spyware on their PC(s), and monitor everything they do online, they will NOT join group websites like forums and myspace nor blogs until they're in highschool, which will be monitored as well. I'll make sure to install a key logger so I can get all their passwords and access everything they access.

If they disobey me, I will cut off the internet from their room. Until I setup the proxy server correctly so that they may not be able to access the page ever again. The 2nd time they disobey me and join another sort of blog/forum/myspace-like website, I'll simply take their PC away from them.

As long as they follow and not break the rules, respect their elders, neighbors, and each other, as well as bring home nothing below a B (unless given a good reason, such as sick for too many days) I will spoil them, treat them good, and give them whatever else they need from me/us.

And when they get so fed up with that and they decide to rebel or do stuff behind your back, what will you do? How will you punish them? Whats to stop them from getting on blogs/forums from other places? You can't shelter them.

[illriginal]

And when they get so fed up with that and they decide to rebel or do stuff behind your back, what will you do? How will you punish them? Whats to stop them from getting on blogs/forums from other places? You can't shelter them.

Easy, off to Dominican Republic. Where not even half the island has electricity. They'll study there, luckily the education in Dominican Republic happens to be transferable, at least highschool and "some" college education. They will grow up properly the way the rest of my family has and become successful.

We come from two different families pal... my family spank and yell, we don't feel bad and give toys and mcdonalds to teach our children right from wrong.

If you can't deal with this, stay away from full breed Italians and Hispanics (yes there's such thing). We do things differently.

[*steve330*]

Lol. Stay away? My godfather was born in Sicily, best friend of my parents, has a huge family, very close to mine. I know Italian families aren't mainstream, but they're not nearly strict to the extent you claim that you'll be.

[illriginal]

Lol. Stay away? My godfather was born in Sicily, best friend of my parents, has a huge family, very close to mine. I know Italian families aren't mainstream, but they're not nearly strict to the extent you claim that you'll be.

Hey whatever you say pal, we're two different people from two different worlds (not literally). We're old fashion, non-Americanized.

[transcendentalis...]

i'll definitely make them try everything imaginable until they find something to be passionate about. i'm also going to teach them like crazy until they're at least seven... reading stuff and math and science and history and philosophy. no algebra stuff until they're at least 10 though...

discipline? hell, i don't know.

[Becks539]

I think as much as a lot of teenagers say they don't want to parent like their parents do and they're going to be a "cool, lienent" parent, it's going to completly change. Once you're handed your baby for the first time you'll realize you'll do anything to keep them safe.

I think I will raise my kids similar to my parents. They're not overprotective, they let me have a lot of privacy, yet they care and I respect them a whole lot. I've never done anything really all that bad. I've never smoked or done drugs or had sex is what I mean. They've had me learn lessons from experience.

When my kids are young I'm going to see what they're interested in and get them involved in sports or whatever they seem to be interested in. I won't force them to do extracricculars as a teenager, that's their choice.

As punishment, I'm not so sure. I don't like the whole grounding method. I've never been grounded. I don't think it would help if I was. I think it depends what they did and then I would find a fit punishment. I would make sure the punishment made sense and make sure they understood the punishment and why it's being used. It would teach them a lesson, not just make them mad at me.

I'm sorry for rambling. I've actually been thinking about this a lot lately.

[Beunique]

i woudl be the worst parent ever!!! my parental instincts wouldnt kick in soon enough to save the child from leading s horrible mentally damaged life. i mean i woudl try to be the best parent but with my siblings i guessi just dont haave patience for them.

[illriginal]

I've actually been thinking about this a lot lately.

But you're only 15...

[*steve330*]

But you're only 15...

Planning for the future? Philosophizing?

[Becks539]

Yes, I'm only 15.

I didn't say I'm thinking about having kids...

I've just thought about what kind of parent I think I'll be...

My mom and I were discussing it one day.

Sorry for thinking..

[illriginal]

Yes, I'm only 15.

I didn't say I'm thinking about having kids...

I've just thought about what kind of parent I think I'll be...

My mom and I were discussing it one day.

Sorry for thinking..

Oh... I thought you were planning on early parent-hood, I was like, "daaaaaaaaaaayum... shorty didn't even graduate highschool yet"

Oh you're excused