Meeting People Options

[jouralto]

OK, I'm stuck in a pretty bad dilema here. I'm 17 years old, and I just went into college last fall. I have about 3 close friends that I keep in touch with, but I still feel like I'm missing a whole lot of socialism and interaction in my life.

I've tried joining the clubs at my college, but they all think I'll be to 'immature' to keep up with their conversations, or that I don't have 'enough' interest in the club to 'bother returning for subsequent meetings.'

I just want to get to know some people around town that I can talk to and have fun with. It's tricky to do in the town that has the number one (violent) crime rating in America. Any suggestions?

[demolished]

when there's a will, there's a way.

keep trying. If they dont like you, they arent your friends in the first place.

Find good friends is no miracle. It's a matter of what kind of person they are.

[KayleighKins]

At least you don't live in the town with the meanest people!

Lol, and it's socialization, not socialism.

[*Moderator*]

Parties are always a great way to socialize and connect with people. Just be yourself, good friends will come along.

[YaGurlSukedMe2SL...]

Lol, and it's socialization, not socialism.

rolrolforlfrolfr, omfg..... COMMIE!!


jkjk

[*MyMichelle*]

If you're living in a dorm, try to reach out to people there?

Maybe you should try joining a club where they don't question your maturity, haha. That sucks, though. :T

[jouralto]

Lol, and it's socialization, not socialism.

First of all, thanks for the correction. I hadn't slept in over 39 hours when I wrote this, so I was pretty out of it.

It's really hard to find parties here, I have no one to tell me when or where any kind of event will be held. If you have any way to find out where some parties are, I'd gladly look into it.

I still live with my mom in this crappy apartament complex, and it's only a community college, so the whole dorm thing is kinda thrown out the window there.

I dunno where to go from here. Maybe I should turn in that application for Subway I've been holding off for a few... weeks.

[ReggieM]

sports is always a good thing to do, start hanging out with random people. Less you stay home more chance you have at meeting people.Meet people that you dont even like just to help to meet thier friends so you will have a networking thing.

[dannyordinary]

1. move
2. parties parties (even if your not invited, crash them)
3. be loud, but not obnoxious, get noticed

=]

[jouralto]

@ ojairus:
Nice suggestion, but sports really aren't my thing. I'm... well... physically challenged? Other than that, networking friends sounds like a good plan.

@ LonelyObsession:
I want to move, but I have to get my AA Degree from my college before I an do that. It's a complicated thing.

I've never crashed a party before, matter of fact, I've never even been to a party other than for my friend's birthdays.

As for being loud... I'm not really good at doing that, unless you count straight up yelling... but that wouldn't be a good idea.


Thanks for all your help, I think I just need to get out more though. Here's hoping I find a party.

[ReggieM]

well if your profile is true, then theres has been your problem all along.Go to the gym while getting toned you can meet new people possibly and help better your social life.Not to be mean but that is proably one of the major disadvantages 1.not even getting a chance to meet people2.looking like you dont want to.The gym can be fun start going find a buddy and hit it off.

[jouralto]

People keep telling me to find a gym, but most gyms cost money, which is the major resource I am lacking. As far as I know, there are no FREE gyms in my area. So maybe I'm just not looking hard enough, but that would be kinda hard to accomplish.

[*steve330*]

Get a job @ a gym. They'll likely give you a membership too. You're 17, it's not a huge deal if you haven't found a group to hang out with all the time yet. I didn't start hanging out a lot with friends til the end of my Junior year, simply because I didn't have a car, and I hadn't found a fun group to hang out with that didn't get boring quick. Just give it more time and try to find some groups that don't judge maturity and commitment via age.

[PINKLollyPOP]

you know, i have noticed this problem as well. after high school things change. and it's hard to find friends. i just stay social and try meeting new people. I know eventually i will come across a good friend. but who knows when that will be. good friends are hard to come by so it takes time.

[*ersatz*]

Just go to like, coffee houses, or restaurants, or bookstores, or shows (as in places that bands play). Anywhere where there is people.