i cant wait till school starts, cuz maybe then i'll see him... Options

[fathomlessdame]

okay. i havnt seen my bf is almost five weeks not since the last day of school when i had a ton of fun with him for acouple hours afterwards we didnt go all the way..but we went pretty close..

thing is, i've only talked to him online these past weeks...he doesnt seem to kno how to call me (when he promised he would) and this week hes at his moms so we have (had)the chance to hang out...but the only day i can get a ride from my mom (neither of us can drive yet) is tomorrow...and before i was able to tell him he went and made plans with his friend clayton tomorrow. he doesnt seem like hes willing to change them either..but then we didnt talk long cuz i got off to go to my room and settle myself down so i didnt say anything stupid but as soon as i got back he got off (could have just been cuz he had to eat dinner or something....)...hasnt been online since. so i havnt had achance to talk to him

but these 5 weeks i havnt seen him during, have been hell. i've missed him so freaking much! and i've let him know that...and now with this..i keep on thinkin that he doesnt give a shit about me, that he doesnt love me... but then all of his friends tell me, that he DOES love me and that he DOES care about me....



but yeah...plz dont reply with a 'hes not worth it, break up with him' cuz that really doesnt help matters cuz i will not break up with him, i love him too much

[sweetest-emotion]

hmm seems like he's wanting to enjoy his time of freedom and fun during summer for now. but 5 weeks??? are you guys really far apart? and i know it's none of my business but going almost all the way when you're like 15?? and he's doing this to you? better think some things over before you do go all the way...

you gotta talk to him and tell him how you're feeling. sure he won't call, suck it up and call him! with my ex, i got mad when he didn't call and he said "well you didn't call me either"...makes sense right? look just talk to the guy! say that you would appreciate it if he would show some effort and try to get together. and i know the last thing you want to do is break up, but if he doesn't have the same feelings for you as you have for him, you're just living a lie when you could be with someone who would make time to see you and love you. trust me. i know. it's better that way (if thats the case!) talk to him!

[Rachel]

Hey, I am in a long distance relationship right now, I am in Arizona and he is in Cape Cod, and I haven't seen him in almost a month so at least you two are in the same state. That being said, ya'll are in the same state! That is pretty pathetic if he can't cancel on his friend to see you on the one day you can get a ride. You need to talk to him, NOT ONLINE, pref. in person but that seems to be an issue so the phone will suffice. Let him know that you aren't happy with your situation, and that you'd appreciate at least a phone call during the week. I know it's hard, especially when neither of you can drive (Hell my ex and I dated for 5 months when neither of us could but we still managed to see each other a lot). It just takes patience and compromise on both ends.

[Beunique]

i cant wait till school sstarts either.

all i know is that guys are completely different from girlss and their feelings (expressing them) now i cant give youu any advice cause ive only been in one relationship and right now my relationships f**ked up. if u've read my posts.. all i know is this.. when you are in a relationship sometimes you feel closterphobic.. i know i did. so maybe he feels this way? idk but if u ever go single i would reccomend it for a year.. its not bad.. but then you start to want something more (me.. almost 2 years single) so its not the end of the world if you break up..trust me. i think i cried for one day. and then the nextday the worst was way over. o and by the way i broke up throught text messaging... lol nothing is worse than that!!!!

and i have no idea what that has anything to you... but anyway.. goodluck

[EmoEyelinerx]

I think that you did the right thing by breaking up with him. To me it sounds that he was just using you seeing that he almost went "all the way" with you but yet he never calls you, or he cant ever just put one day aside to hang out with you the only day you can hang out.

[fanny562]

i can't wait till scool starts either but yea hes not worth it if hes doing that to you yup yup

[*shotgunFUNERAL*]

frankly, he doesn't like you.

[Beunique]

I think that you did the right thing by breaking up with him. To me it sounds that he was just using you seeing that he almost went "all the way" with you but yet he never calls you, or he cant ever just put one day aside to hang out with you the only day you can hang out.

i dont think she broke up with him.. i thin k she wants to tell him how she feels about what he did

[fathomlessdame]

hmm seems like he's wanting to enjoy his time of freedom and fun during summer for now. but 5 weeks??? are you guys really far apart? and i know it's none of my business but going almost all the way when you're like 15?? and he's doing this to you? better think some things over before you do go all the way...

you gotta talk to him and tell him how you're feeling. sure he won't call, suck it up and call him! with my ex, i got mad when he didn't call and he said "well you didn't call me either"...makes sense right? look just talk to the guy! say that you would appreciate it if he would show some effort and try to get together. and i know the last thing you want to do is break up, but if he doesn't have the same feelings for you as you have for him, you're just living a lie when you could be with someone who would make time to see you and love you. trust me. i know. it's better that way (if thats the case!) talk to him!

i'm 16 btw. and idk how he feels..i mean he tells me and all of his friends keep on telling me that he loves me and cares about me and wants to see me. but he doesnt show it =/ and i tell myself hes just being immature..and needs more time to grow up before i expect so much from him..

next time i do talk to him, i'm gonna try and get him to call me..i dont want to call him at his moms (i'd prefer not to have her yelling at me like she had at my friend for calling) and i dont have his number at his dads =/ .....

You guys can't arrange plans during the summer? =\

i'm trying to....

I think that you did the right thing by breaking up with him. To me it sounds that he was just using you seeing that he almost went "all the way" with you but yet he never calls you, or he cant ever just put one day aside to hang out with you the only day you can hang out.

i didnt break up with him

frankly, he doesn't like you.

then why would he be telling me he loves me? and all of his friends telling me that he loves me?

[*shotgunFUNERAL*]

then why would he be telling me he loves me? and all of his friends telling me that he loves me?

him telling you he loves you means jack shit, especially if he doesn't take the effort to talk to you, see you, or even care about you.

'i love you' is thrown around so easily, and to be honest, most girls are stupid enough to actually believe it most of the time.