Would U date a Fat person? Options

[jeSs1cA]

i don't think that i could date someone overweight. i chose "i dunno.." though, only because i'm not entirely sure.

i don't think i could, only because we wouldn't have any common interests. i'm into sports & staying in shape. i hope to go to college for either sports med. or nutrition. i want to stay in shape when i'm older. i don't want to be overweight or obese. it really stops you from doing a lot of things that you might want to do. for example, say if you wanted to go hiking or something on the lines of that, you wouldn't be able to if you are stopping every second trying to catch your breath.


then again, it would all depend on the person i guess. it is what is on the inside that counts, BUT you also need to be physically attracted to someone.

[lkajsfklajskds]

certainly, but no obese. just...fat.

[bat19]

This sounds bad but no, I would not date a girl who is bigger than me or do anything with a girl who is bigger than I am or close to what I am. The reason I say this sounds bad is because Im heavy myself. Not morbidly obese, but I'm 211 5'10 and could stand to lose a few. haha. It's not something I'm happy about, I just really don't find fat woman attractive at all and I understand why thin girls dont find me attractive. Im not one of those blind to the world fat guys who tries going for tens every time(though I wouldnt mind trying and still sometimes do). I get turned down almost every time and I just let it roll over me, I'm a rock in a stream and the current is steadily gathering strength and speed. The idea I'm trying to paint for you loyal readers is that I dont obsess over every girl who turns me down, I either move on and shut them out(usually Im not the one doing the shutting) or I remain friends and talk with them regularly. I don't know, maybe I'm just not an emotional person or maybe I've just grown so used to it that it doesn't really phase me anymore. This year alone I've had two girls turn me down. One I was drunk and told her I liked her, but really I just wanted to sleep with her. The other I did genuinely like and wanted an actual relationship with, and was again turned down. The first shut me out and the latter is doing the same, only she's taking longer to do it than the other one. Oh well. If you're thin and attractive, you have the right to not find fat guys or girls attractive and definitely should not pretend to because you think they're nice. Tell them they need to lose weight or tell them you're not interested. I've been told by one or two that they weren't interested in me and though it sort of hurt at first, it doesnt help to keep thinking about what could have been or what you wanted it to be. And no, it's not either one or the other. Human behavior cannot be dictated by two absolutes, thats why it's human behavior. There are people who really dont care about looks and there are those who are not attracted to ugly people. Physical attraction has a lot to do with relationships and it doesnt mean your superficial or shallow(unless of course that is the case). There is a girl at my job who is as nice as can be and very open to everyone, one of the genuinely nicest people Ive ever met, but she is very overweight and has diabetes and other health problems because of it. Though I like her as a person, I dont find her attractive at all and I will never have a relationship with her thats more than what it is now. This doesnt make me shallow, it makes me human. So to hell with insinuations and judgements, dont be afraid to voice your true honest opinion, it doesnt help anyone to lie to them.

[*steve330*]

Nah I'm shallow

[fathomlessdame]

probably not. as shallow as that is..

[jeSs1cA]

This sounds bad but no, I would not date a girl who is bigger than me or do anything with a girl who is bigger than I am or close to what I am. The reason I say this sounds bad is because Im heavy myself. Not morbidly obese, but I'm 211 5'10 and could stand to lose a few. haha. It's not something I'm happy about, I just really don't find fat woman attractive at all and I understand why thin girls dont find me attractive. Im not one of those blind to the world fat guys who tries going for tens every time(though I wouldnt mind trying and still sometimes do). I get turned down almost every time and I just let it roll over me, I'm a rock in a stream and the current is steadily gathering strength and speed. The idea I'm trying to paint for you loyal readers is that I dont obsess over every girl who turns me down, I either move on and shut them out(usually Im not the one doing the shutting) or I remain friends and talk with them regularly. I don't know, maybe I'm just not an emotional person or maybe I've just grown so used to it that it doesn't really phase me anymore. This year alone I've had two girls turn me down. One I was drunk and told her I liked her, but really I just wanted to sleep with her. The other I did genuinely like and wanted an actual relationship with, and was again turned down. The first shut me out and the latter is doing the same, only she's taking longer to do it than the other one. Oh well. If you're thin and attractive, you have the right to not find fat guys or girls attractive and definitely should not pretend to because you think they're nice. Tell them they need to lose weight or tell them you're not interested. I've been told by one or two that they weren't interested in me and though it sort of hurt at first, it doesnt help to keep thinking about what could have been or what you wanted it to be. And no, it's not either one or the other. Human behavior cannot be dictated by two absolutes, thats why it's human behavior. There are people who really dont care about looks and there are those who are not attracted to ugly people. Physical attraction has a lot to do with relationships and it doesnt mean your superficial or shallow(unless of course that is the case). There is a girl at my job who is as nice as can be and very open to everyone, one of the genuinely nicest people Ive ever met, but she is very overweight and has diabetes and other health problems because of it. Though I like her as a person, I dont find her attractive at all and I will never have a relationship with her thats more than what it is now. This doesnt make me shallow, it makes me human. So to hell with insinuations and judgements, dont be afraid to voice your true honest opinion, it doesnt help anyone to lie to them.

^very well said. i agree with you completely, physical attraction definately does have a lot to do with relationships. you have to be somewhat physically attracted to them. i agree with you 110%.

[bat19]

I honestly dont get why this is giving some
of you people such a complex. Theres no grey
area. "I dunno"

You're either stuck up and want nothing more
than some hard body, or you're a genuine person
that looks a little further than a problem area.

As for me, I'm in love with a big guy.
He hasn't got a beer gut, he's far from
disgusting; he's just really husky and
has an all over layer of baby fat.

He's fit, he runs, and eats healthy, he
just wasn't made to run a Hollister add.
[barf]

Stop being so shallow.

Btw, he gives amazing hugs and makes me feel
small, and I'm not petite. Some of us more
athletic women really need a big man to make
us feel small. not damsel in distress, just
kinda protected. Anyhow, I like ranting.
Shallow fools.

Hmm, I dont think you have any idea what you're talking about. I'm more than happy for you that you found someone that makes you happy but I'm not gonna give you a reward just because he's bigger than anorexic fakes on a television ad. How does not being attracted to a fat person make you shallow? So you were able to look deeper within your boyfriend, oohh. How about we add another 300 pounds and a glass eye with lots of acne, yellow teeth, and balding. Same personality though. Lets see how long you stay with him Ms. Holier than though. Don't dare believe you have the right to call people shallow just because you date someone who you even said yourself is not fat, just naturally husky.
Read what I wrote above and you'll understand what I'm saying, I don't mean to attack you alone, but that seems to be a very ignorant thing to say. It's never one or the other.
This next part goes to all the overweight people who hate skinny people for "judging" them. Get the f**k over it. I'm fat, I get past it. My best friends are all skinny and a few of them are damn attractive, the lucky bastards. But thats the hand they were dealt, Im not gonna hate them because they look better than I do. Thats retarded. Instead I do the best with what I got and if thats not good enough for some people than oh well, Im not gonna cry over it and say they're assholes(unless the person is intentionally trying to be hurtful about it. Mostly these people are higher class white girls who spend their daddys money on cars and clothes, but their opinion doesnt exactly matter anyway, their only job in life is to give a decent blow job to their future unfaithful husbands, only a step above prostitutes). God, I hate those kinds of girls, stuck up Paris Hilton wannabe bitches. I had one of these things try to insult me by asking if I tan between my breasts. Being that I'm a guy and she was saying it in a condescending manner, this was obviously an insult. I laughed at her and told her she was an obnoxious bitch who everyone mocked behind her back about how slutty she was. She didnt seem to like that too much. Anyways, I've said my piece and am now tired as f**k after a long day of work. Good night peoples.

[bamababy89]

Hmm, I dont think you have any idea what you're talking about. I'm more than happy for you that you found someone that makes you happy but I'm not gonna give you a reward just because he's bigger than anorexic fakes on a television ad. How does not being attracted to a fat person make you shallow? So you were able to look deeper within your boyfriend, oohh. How about we add another 300 pounds and a glass eye with lots of acne, yellow teeth, and balding. Same personality though. Lets see how long you stay with him Ms. Holier than though. Don't dare believe you have the right to call people shallow just because you date someone who you even said yourself is not fat, just naturally husky.
Read what I wrote above and you'll understand what I'm saying, I don't mean to attack you alone, but that seems to be a very ignorant thing to say. It's never one or the other.
This next part goes to all the overweight people who hate skinny people for "judging" them. Get the f**k over it. I'm fat, I get past it. My best friends are all skinny and a few of them are damn attractive, the lucky bastards. But thats the hand they were dealt, Im not gonna hate them because they look better than I do. Thats retarded. Instead I do the best with what I got and if thats not good enough for some people than oh well, Im not gonna cry over it and say they're assholes(unless the person is intentionally trying to be hurtful about it. Mostly these people are higher class white girls who spend their daddys money on cars and clothes, but their opinion doesnt exactly matter anyway, their only job in life is to give a decent blow job to their future unfaithful husbands, only a step above prostitutes). God, I hate those kinds of girls, stuck up Paris Hilton wannabe bitches. I had one of these things try to insult me by asking if I tan between my breasts. Being that I'm a guy and she was saying it in a condescending manner, this was obviously an insult. I laughed at her and told her she was an obnoxious bitch who everyone mocked behind her back about how slutty she was. She didnt seem to like that too much. Anyways, I've said my piece and am now tired as f**k after a long day of work. Good night peoples.

I think you misunderstood me.
Most of the people limit attractive people
to someone with no fat at all. Thats hardly fair.
I'm sorry if you can't be attracted to someone who
hasn't got the body you want, but theres just too much
more to it. There is no gray area if you're looking at
in my perspective: Most people will date someone simply
because they find them attractive. If they don't (don't
find them to look like a model) they don't give their
personality a shot.

I find my love for him to be a balance between the 2,
simply because I do find him be attractive, and equally
if not more so his personality.

I was honest. Yes, he's large, but he's not disgusting.
I would never date someone I found disgusting. My idea of
physical attractiveness is just broader than most.
I AM human. The people who have openly admitted to being
shallow have opened the door for me to call them on it.
I don't know them, but they put their judgement of themselves
out there, and told their answers. Far be it from me
to argue with them.

Alot of people are complete asses.
Alot of large guys are complete asses.
Some of the time, I myself am an ass.
We're all human, just some people need to
open their minds to someone who isn't
textbook perfect. Its not all about that.

That being said, I'm sorry a shallow girl, who
you were clearly offended by
made a rude comment on your chest size. I would never
do that. I partly fit the stereotype of the girl who did,
but I have alot of moral integrity, and would never purposely
hurt someone, especially when they didn't bring it on themselves.

I'm not here to argue. Just maybe break a stereotype.
I think everyone is beautiful, and I'm not asking for
your damn points. I'll always see people the way I do.

[HelloSunshine]

I think I answered this because it says I've already voted, but..if he were like chubby, then sure! Even a little more than chubby I don't mind. My friends joke that I have a "fat white boy fetich"' just because my ex is a little heavy. He's lost weight though compared to..two years ago! I'm the only one who has seemed to noticed, though.

[bat19]

I think you misunderstood me.
Most of the people limit attractive people
to someone with no fat at all. Thats hardly fair.
I'm sorry if you can't be attracted to someone who
hasn't got the body you want, but theres just too much
more to it. There is no gray area if you're looking at
in my perspective: Most people will date someone simply
because they find them attractive. If they don't (don't
find them to look like a model) they don't give their
personality a shot.

I find my love for him to be a balance between the 2,
simply because I do find him be attractive, and equally
if not more so his personality.

I was honest. Yes, he's large, but he's not disgusting.
I would never date someone I found disgusting. My idea of
physical attractiveness is just broader than most.
I AM human. The people who have openly admitted to being
shallow have opened the door for me to call them on it.
I don't know them, but they put their judgement of themselves
out there, and told their answers. Far be it from me
to argue with them.

Alot of people are complete asses.
Alot of large guys are complete asses.
Some of the time, I myself am an ass.
We're all human, just some people need to
open their minds to someone who isn't
textbook perfect. Its not all about that.

That being said, I'm sorry a shallow girl, who
you were clearly offended by
made a rude comment on your chest size. I would never
do that. I partly fit the stereotype of the girl who did,
but I have alot of moral integrity, and would never purposely
hurt someone, especially when they didn't bring it on themselves.

I'm not here to argue. Just maybe break a stereotype.
I think everyone is beautiful, and I'm not asking for
your damn points. I'll always see people the way I do.

I never said I go for "models" as you say, in fact I don't like those types of people. Not I don't "like" them like I have a problem, I don't find perfect girls attractive. I think natural beauty is more important than all these girls and guys who go tanning religiously year round or buy clothes from American Eagle and A&F just because everyone else does. If anything, I find hippie girls most attractive and many of them are far from "models." It's just a different kind of beauty, but thats only skin deep like the expression goes. Attraction and personality go hand in hand in a relationship. I know tons of people in empty relationships because either they're with them because the person is attractive but empty, or full of personality but very unattractive, at least to them. Different people have different standards, it doesnt mean that everyone who cant be attracted to an ugly person is shalllow, it just means they have a different standard. I found this girl Rachael to be very attractive, beautiful in fact, yet all my friends looked at me like I was crazy because they didnt. It's just that my taste in people is different from theres. Im sure there are many people you look over and know you would never have a relationship with them(this is a hypothetical if you were single) and it doesnt have to be that theyre ugly, they just dont fit in your standard of attraction. So stop judging people, you're not the god-member of society, you're just like everyone else even if you dont want to admit it. We're all the same, our levels are different.

[bamababy89]

I never said I go for "models" as you say, in fact I don't like those types of people. Not I don't "like" them like I have a problem, I don't find perfect girls attractive. I think natural beauty is more important than all these girls and guys who go tanning religiously year round or buy clothes from American Eagle and A&F just because everyone else does. If anything, I find hippie girls most attractive and many of them are far from "models." It's just a different kind of beauty, but thats only skin deep like the expression goes. Attraction and personality go hand in hand in a relationship. I know tons of people in empty relationships because either they're with them because the person is attractive but empty, or full of personality but very unattractive, at least to them. Different people have different standards, it doesnt mean that everyone who cant be attracted to an ugly person is shalllow, it just means they have a different standard. I found this girl Rachael to be very attractive, beautiful in fact, yet all my friends looked at me like I was crazy because they didnt. It's just that my taste in people is different from theres. Im sure there are many people you look over and know you would never have a relationship with them(this is a hypothetical if you were single) and it doesnt have to be that theyre ugly, they just dont fit in your standard of attraction. So stop judging people, you're not the god-member of society, you're just like everyone else even if you dont want to admit it. We're all the same, our levels are different.

We're on the same page then.
I didn't judge anyone, just as I haven't judged you.
I have no right.
They called themselves shallow; I agreed.

I'm happy with who I am, and lucky to have who I do.
But it's not feasible to say I'm like everyone else.
I'm no better than anyone else. I don't look at things
the way most people do; I just don't. That doesn't mean
I bash everything I don't agree with. It's difficult
to let anyone agree with you if you're bashing someone else.

And if I were single, and looking for someone,
and I looked past every flaw, inside and out, I'd
basically like everyone. That's silly. And it hardly
makes anyone feel special if you like them as much
as the next guy. You're allowed to be picky with people.
I'm not sure everyone has a type, but you've got to
narrow it down to something, right? It doesn't make you
shallow, you're not supposed to love everyone.

And I find it fantastic that you're attracted to something
other than the cookie cutter girl. You'll find way more
girls who don't fit the stereotype who can make you happy.

[Castaway]

to be honest.
if she's over 200lbs or something probably not.
i don't know, it really depends on the girl's characteristics both physically (looks/hair/eyes/lips/etc) and mentally.

[*karmakiller*]

call me shallow, but no. i can deal with chubby (they're cute) but I just find layers of stretched skin and fat (and beer bellies!)revolting.

I kind of agree. I mean, if they're happy and big and such it's not a big deal. But there's a point. If they're way overweight and breathe heavy when they walk... um... ew. I try to be healthy, so it'd be nice to have someone who has that same kind of lifestyle y'know.

[1angel3]

I don't know if i would, when it comes to sex they might squish you. I prob would

[chibichi15]

As long as they're not too overweight, I could really care less. Besides, it's mainly the personality that I look into more.

[mysticalazxn]

it's just weird when it come to sex it just turn me down. FAT is a big no. A sign of WEAK, FAILURE, LAZY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[chibichi15]

^ aww! not necessarily...failure

[*Moderator*]

More cushion for the pushing. Definately not if they're obese. But I like chubby boys.

[xhidethedetails]

This may be shallow but probably not.
I know its the inside that counts but the outside also counts.

[*IVIike*]

it depends, but probably not

[illriginal]

im just curious

Honestly? No.

I'm a health freak. The only times I do cheat in my diet is when I buy a cheap chicken sandwich from Burger King, or when I drink a Iced Latte from Dunkin Donuts. Which is only 1 cheat meal out of 56 meals in a week (I eat 8 meals a day)

The way I see it is, if I have to bust my ass to stay in shape and stay in maximum health (haven't been sick in over 2 years, dead honest), then I think the lady I'm with has to at least stay in shape as well.

Luckily my lady is into Capoeira, Kickboxing, and cardio. So she's uh.. deliciously fit :D


Now if you are overweight, male or female... I would like to recommend you a website that you should have no shame to check out and learn something. You can still eat the same things (assuming it's not fast food 24/7) and still lose weight. Just drinkin 1 to 2 gallons of water a day can drop your weight. Eating 5+ meals alone can drop your weight, as long as they're healthy and you keep your metabolism running hard (eating every 2-3 hours)

www.bodybuilding.com/forum

[*SinfullySweet*]

Yeah right. Forevery one that said it depends on their personality and "whatss insideee" Its a bunch of bs. You all know dead straight if you were to have sex you'd be like "omg "

[DominicanaMel]

Why the f**k not? I like a man with a little meat on his bones.

[Trinie]

yes i would :)

[*steve330*]

Well if they're fat then they have something wrong on the inside :) be it digestion, metabolism, anti-anorexia, etc etc.