Is a Ring too serious for a Birthday present? Options

[xafghandragon45x]

So me and my girlfriend have been together for about 5 months, but have been liking each other for over a year and a half now. I've already gotten her a necklace and a bracelet for valentine's day and our 3 month anniversary, so I was thinking maybe i should get her a ring. I asked a couple of my friends about this, and a few of them thought that giving her a ring would be a little too serious of a present. She and I have talked about marriage, (not getting married, but what it would be like if we did, etc), just in normal conversations. Do you guys think that giving a ring as a birthday present might seem too serious?


Any opinions/advice would be appreciated. Girls, please chime in?

btw. I already bought the ring...but i don't want her to think that im getting to serious about our relationship..

[xafghandragon45x]

So me and my girlfriend have been together for about 5 months, but have been liking each other for over a year and a half now. I've already gotten her a necklace and a bracelet for valentine's day and our 3 month anniversary, so I was thinking maybe i should get her a ring. I asked a couple of my friends about this, and a few of them thought that giving her a ring would be a little too serious of a present. She and I have talked about marriage, (not getting married, but what it would be like if we did, etc), just in normal conversations. Do you guys think that giving a ring as a birthday present might seem too serious?


Any opinions/advice would be appreciated. Girls, please chime in?

btw. I already bought the ring...but i don't want her to think that im getting to serious about our relationship..

[BrokenDream]

I don't think a ring is too serious in my opinion.

[Kaytay]

not really. I think it would be sweet and remind her of you. I would do it

[Cujiine]

Well it all depends on the type of ring. If it's got like an actual stone in it not like a rhinestone or anything then yeah it might be a bit too serious but something simple like a silver or gold band with her name it wouldn't be so bad.

[xafghandragon45x]

no, i dont think its got real stones. heres the story behind the ring:

Okay well in my culture, whenever a bride gets married, everyone gives her gold as presents...well..gold or money. but yeah.

so in America, gold is generally low quality, 18kt, 14kt, etc, and its pretty expensive. so last year when my family visited Pakistan, my mom bought a bunch of gold rings and other jewelry to give as presents when people get married, because its all 22kt and its a lot cheaper than it is here anyway. While we were there, I bought one as well just in case i ever wanted to give it as a present to anyone. So the ring is really pretty, but it doesn't have any real jewels, just like. small pretty looking ones i guess.

[Cujiine]

Well I'd start off by not telling her the whole gold as a wedding present part but yeah. you should ask her if it would be too much.

[xafghandragon45x]

hahaha.


yeah. i figured i wouldnt tell her that part.


but hey when i got it i was thinking about giving to her..it just took me a while.

[Cujiine]

Well I hope she likes it. Good luck with that.

[cori-catastrophe]

it's not that serious. it's sweet and a great idea. go for it.

[breakingdawn]

that's a cute idea

[*Insurmountable*]

Like a promise ring?

I think it would be cute, but I think it really matters on how your relationship is and what level it is on. How serious you two are and stuff. I mean if you think its right then follow your heart and do what it tells you to do.

Oh and by your first post it doesn't seem like your to serious about this relationship so with that said then yea I think she may take it to mean that. Maybe you should talk to her about the idea and see what happens. -shrugs-

[lojay]

I think it would be fine... but maybe if you are worried about it being to serious, try not to give it to her in a formal way or anything. Like.. maybe find a creative way to give it to her that won't seem so serious or something.

[freeflow]

^ Agreed. Giving her a ring isn't that serious and it doesn't have to mean marriage because you give a girl a ring either. So I think you should get one. :)

[xafghandragon45x]

Yeah, I kind of thought about that too.

a few weeks ago, she was wearing a ring and we were holding hands..and I took it off of her finger playfully and put it in my pocket..so I kinda stole it from her (I told her I lost it) so I could use it to make sure I found the right size (I didn't want to get her a ring that was too small and make her feel fat, lol). anyways.


I was thinking about putting it in a box and giving it back, and then surprising her with the one that i got her.


good idea or no?

[fathomlessdame]

personally i would love to get a ring from my bf on my bday. that would be so cute!

[NgocQuyen]

hmmm i guess it depends on how you feel really? i have a ring from my bf:) hehe i wear it on my left ring finger too. lol. we've been together for 5 months as well. hehe. i personally don't think it's that serious. it's not like you're asking her to marry you or anything. :)

[trulyandnever]

Aww that'd be cute I reckon its a sweet idea.

If it helps, my BF and I are in a distanced relationship and he asked me what ring size I was (which is a bit of uhh.. obvious way to give it away) but we cant really help our situation. So the way you did it was way cute (& smart... jesus, I'd never have been able to think of that on my own). If you dont want her to think of it too seriously or something, tell her its a "promise ring" or something cheesy along them lines. At least then she wont get freaked, assuming shes the type that would get freaked.

[Cujiine]

Why did you post the same thing in two forums?

[RAWRstephishere]

I ring would be nice and sweet.

But 3 things?
Thats kinda much to give at once.

[*stephinika*]

I like your idea of how you'd give it to her, I think it'd be cute, but as for whether its too much at your point in the relationship - I personally don't think so, but it really depends on her like Suzzette said.

[KayleighKins]

Naw, a ring would be awesome. But face it, if she's the kind of girl who doesn't wear alot of jewelry, then she's going to think the ring is extra special.

I dunno, seems to me that maybe you should be a little bit more creative :D

And same here brownsugar, I think if I got a bracelet and a ring and all that jazz one after another I'd start to think, "Why is he giving me all these gifts that don't require any thought?"

[PuppyChan]

Well I think it's a really nice idea, and I'm sure she'd love it. Give her the bloody ring!

[helloxtine]

agreed with them. i think it's cute :)
it's like a promise ring and a silver ring with her name on it would be cute ;D

[transcendentalis...]

And same here brownsugar, I think if I got a bracelet and a ring and all that jazz one after another I'd start to think, "Why is he giving me all these gifts that don't require any thought?"

Amen, amen.
It's just kind of like. Come up with something on your damn own, please, not some manufactured bogus from a commercial.