Would you just deal or leave them?, I'm sick of hearing this from him... Options

[Cujiine]

Ok well a LONG time ago like two years ago, One of my friends got with another one of my friends (two years difference) and everything was great until 8th grade when she decided to go "emo" so since she couldn't bring razors to school, she would bring tic tac boxes and then break then and scratch herself with the pieces. But she sit there with the piece over her wrist and stare at one of our other friends and wait for them to look back at her before she'd start scratching her. She also came up with this stupid story about being afraid of telephones. Which I know wasn't true because she'd always take our cell phones and call people with them and have no problem. She would also get annoyed at me or someone when they said they were in love with someone because "It's not real love it's just hormones" and then she'd turn right around and say she was in love with her boyfriend. She would just get on our nerves so much and I couldn't get why her boyfriend put up with it all. So would you put up with it or leave them? I still wanna be friends with her and we got past all of that but her boyfriend keeps asking me if he did the right thing by staying with her and ignoring it.

[MeanBastard]

If you don't want to be friends with her, then don't. If you don't think it's worth the trouble to reach out and talk to her, then don't. It's quite obvious to me that since you're posting about her, you don't really want to be her friend anyways.

[*steve330*]

that or she does in fact want to be her friend which is why she's so hesitant to let go

[MeanBastard]

I'm a pessimistic person.

[NgocQuyen]

she sounds fake to me. i wouldn't want to befriend her. :\

[freeflow]

I don't see why her boyfriend is asking you when you shouldn't be answering the question for him. The real question is why did he stay with her. If its because he truly really likes her then he did the right thing. If he did it because he's afraid to break up with her then uh he should just let her go.

As a friend though, I think she's just going through a phase and wil probably change in a few months..

[HelloSunshine]

She could be going through a phase, like Toya said.

Maybe the reason her boyfriend stayed with her was because he cares for her and everything. It's kind of odd how he asked your opinion, though. Maybe he's having second thoughts?

If I were in your situation, I don't think I'd want to be her friend. I'd put up with it, but I wouldn't consider her my "friend", really. That's just me though. I'm kind of impatient in that way.

[Cujiine]

ell know see I've known her for six+ years and she went through this two years ago and her boyfriend (who she broke up with then got back together with which is another thing that got me mad at her but that's different) is thinking about whether he would have saved himself some heart ache (she broke up with him on Valentines day)

[alysaphobia]

I would leave.

I don't know... she just doesn't seem like my type of friend. None of us can really answer this question for you, though- since we don't know her.

[EmoEyelinerx]

Seems to me like she just wants attention. I would just forget about her she seems like she doesnt really care about anything else. Shes saying lies like when she said "loves just your hormones" then she turns around and says "oh I love my bf." Doesent seem like the kind of friend I would want plus she seems really annoying.

[Cujiine]

I would leave.

I don't know... she just doesn't seem like my type of friend. None of us can really answer this question for you, though- since we don't know her.

Well some of you might still remember her. She used to use this. so yeah...

[dalenaadsiqnz]

I had a similar so-called 'friend'. She would do similar things for attention. I dropped her, maybe you should too. She sounds kind of fake, but that is just me. I can`t really answer for you, because I don`t know her, but you should do what you feel is right. If this phase doesn`t seem to end, drop her. But as a friend, you should keep an eye on her. o.o If this didn`t make sense, sorry.

[Jonazn1]

If I was her boyfriend, I would indeed leave her. From your perspective, this relationship is causing him stress. He is even questioning it.

Is this "boyfriend" a friend of yours? I'm not sure, but it is a possibility that he wants your "say-so" to leave her. He may want to leave her, but keep you as a friend. Perhaps he is afraid that if he were to dump her outright, he would lose you as a friend. (sorry if that is a little off topic)

In addition, I would suggest that you seek help for your friend. Self- mutilation is not healthy, she needs help but can't seem to get it for herself. She needs you, as a friend, to seek that for her. I know, she may dislike you for doing that, but it's for the best, and you should know that. After receiving help, and with time, she will come to appreciate what you did for her.

[Cujiine]

^Actually, When she did break up with him, he clung to me for support. That was actually pretty hard since my own relationship was on a downward spiral that wouldn't go back up until after we broke up... odd no?