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 May 28 2007, 01:36 PM
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 spooning leads to forking  Group: Member Posts: 14 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 528,839  |
ok. so i've met this guy. he's like 3 years older. he's sweet, and he knows how to make me fall over and over for him...but lately, i've been feeling very used. like whenever we talk its just about sex, or what ever we do, its related to sex. and when i try to change the subject he goes back to it. and i just want to talk to him like regularily. like just not that. i mean sometimes im in the mood but others times i feel like "is that all you think of me as?"
idk, im extremely confused, i want more from him but im too hesitant to say anything because its like long distance, and we met like about 3 months ago. is it too early to say anything? i feel like im wasting my time, and love on him.... 
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May 28 2007, 01:53 PM
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c[: Group: Member Posts: 2,302 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 2,876 |
maybe you should actually tell him that you don't appreciate him talking to you like that. perhaps it's too soon to give up and what not. when Thuan and i first started talking he was just a typical guy when approaching me...you know? he was always talking like all he wanted to do was have sex with me, and i felt like he was using me and what not too, but it wasn't like that at all. lol. after a while we started dating and now here we are...lol i couldn't be happier :) lol. soo just talk to him about it and what not, and then see how things go from there. does that make any kind of sense at all? lol. ;)
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May 28 2007, 02:06 PM
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 ;) Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 9,573 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 99,124 |
NO! It's definitely not to early to say anything. You two should be able to confront eachother about things, and this is a situation where you definitely should confront him about how you feel. If he doesn't understand or he gets angry with you about it then he's not worth being with if all he wants from you is sex, or all he talks about is sex. There's more to a relationship than sex. You need to talk it over with him.
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May 28 2007, 02:16 PM
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You guys are dumb. Group: Member Posts: 1,252 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,094 |
How come I don't meet girls that are willing to have sex so fast?
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May 28 2007, 02:19 PM
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 Tasty. Group: Member Posts: 471 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,784 |
well how old are you?? i remember hearing that a guy is at his sexual peak at 19...soooo...
it could be just his hormones raging, i mean he is a guy! plus you said that you saw him 3 months ago...thats a LONG ASS time for no sexual activity for a guy (hell for me too! lol), if you guys did anything. but hey it's totally natural for a guy to talk about sex a lot; me and my (now ex) boyfriend talked about it a lot because we were both naturally sexual people. if it makes you uncomfortable, let him know!! say that you like him a lot but you just want to talk about something other than sex all the time. or if he continues, you try changing the subject maybe. but be careful because there IS more to a relationship than just sex, and if it seems like that's all he wants, i would steer clear of him. he's a hound dog and he may try to compromise your feelings and your body for what he wants. |
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May 28 2007, 02:57 PM
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QUOTE(th5418 @ May 28 2007, 11:16 AM)  How come I don't meet girls that are willing to have sex so fast? ^cause you cant have sex with your own mom |
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May 28 2007, 03:04 PM
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You guys are dumb. Group: Member Posts: 1,252 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,094 |
QUOTE(manaway @ May 28 2007, 02:57 PM) ^cause you cant have sex with your own mom Huh? |
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May 28 2007, 05:27 PM
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spooning leads to forking Group: Member Posts: 14 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 528,839 |
ok. im 15. and he's going to turn 18. and yeah, i do wanna talk to him about it. i mean i do want to have sex with him but like, i just need to know that he's here for me and not my sex?...
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May 28 2007, 05:42 PM
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 RyanIsCoolerThanYou<3 Group: Member Posts: 514 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 525,502 |
QUOTE(shellz_the_hun @ May 28 2007, 05:27 PM) ok. im 15. and he's going to turn 18. and yeah, i do wanna talk to him about it. i mean i do want to have sex with him but like, i just need to know that he's here for me and not my sex?... Ya, im sorry for being so crude about this but you were an easy piece of ass, that's like me being 16, hooking a 13 year old middle school girl, not hard at all, you were easy, thats all there is to it, and like many young girls before you, you fell right into it, good job...what would make you think an 18 year old wants to be with a 15 year old in a relationship lmao? just think about it, common sense says your a dumbass and he's an a-hole. How do I know his mindset, I used to do the same thing, and kind of still do, but now it's with girls who only about a year younger, play that whole I love you angle and you can get ass every time. 
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May 28 2007, 05:50 PM
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RyanIsCoolerThanYou<3 Group: Member Posts: 514 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 525,502 |
If you want to talk about it, get me on AIM
**woops double post lol** |
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May 28 2007, 06:15 PM
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^Harsh but true. It could be different though, I mean I don't know either of y'all. I'm 18 and sure I think about sex allll the time. Somewhere I forget but there was some statistic saying that the average guy thinks about sex like every 10 seconds or something like that.
Talk to em, if he listens to you and agrees to not push for anything sex related for a long time, then he probably genuinely likes you. If he blows you off when you tell him you don't want to have sex he was using you. |
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May 28 2007, 06:34 PM
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t-t-t-toyaaa Group: Official Member Posts: 19,821 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,270 |
Yea, pretty much you have to talk to the guy. And as a side note its never to "early" to talk to someone about something. There is an agre difference between you guys and like stated already he could easily just be using you. I hate to say it , but its reality. You need to just talk to the guy, if he blows you off. Use this as a lesson. Don't have sex with guys so early and try figuring them out and talking to them first. Don't be afraid to talk to him either. Don't let a guy that could possibly be using you continue to do so.
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May 28 2007, 07:30 PM
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You guys are dumb. Group: Member Posts: 1,252 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,094 |
So if I aim for someone younger than me... I can get an easy piece of ass?
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May 28 2007, 07:48 PM
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 Hi, Im Brook. Group: Member Posts: 1,774 Joined: Mar 2007 Member No: 508,383 |
QUOTE(Maestro @ May 28 2007, 03:06 PM) NO! It's definitely not to early to say anything. You two should be able to confront eachother about things, and this is a situation where you definitely should confront him about how you feel. If he doesn't understand or he gets angry with you about it then he's not worth being with if all he wants from you is sex, or all he talks about is sex. There's more to a relationship than sex. You need to talk it over with him. Agreed. |
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May 28 2007, 10:36 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,220 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 81,808 |
hes 3 years older... that explains a lot.
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Jun 4 2007, 09:54 AM
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te quiero Group: Banned Posts: 472 Joined: Sep 2006 Member No: 467,840 |
QUOTE(th5418 @ May 28 2007, 07:30 PM) So if I aim for someone younger than me... I can get an easy piece of ass? yes. younger girls are weaker, physically and emotionally. anyway. the whole older guy idea is extremely appealing at 15 and most guys know that and use it to their advantage. have you guys HAD sex already? try holding out on him. if he's still with you in a month, then he's either getting some on the side or he really likes you. |
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Jun 4 2007, 10:05 AM
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 hardxcore. Group: Member Posts: 1,223 Joined: Nov 2006 Member No: 479,494 |
sounds like it.
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Jun 4 2007, 05:46 PM
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spooning leads to forking Group: Member Posts: 14 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 528,839 |
we didn't have sex
but we did talk about it...but im still not convinced that he wants me for me... |
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