should i give up?, long distant relationship Options

[ashleybby]

so me and my bf have been going out for 6 months, almost 7
he moved to san diego last saturday
and since he has left he has only called me once
it seems like we dont talk as much as we used to
i thought that long distance relationships were supposed to be all about communication and such
so when i tell him we dont talk as much, he says we do, because we still text
but i dont think that texting and talking on the phone is the same
when i get sad about him being gone and not talking to me, he gets mad.
i dont know if i should try and work this out and maybe tell him that he needs to put an effort out to call me and such, or just give up
and there is no reason why he should have troubles calling me, but he does

any advise on how to keep this relationship going?
or should i just call it quits?

[*kryogenix*]

Throw some Ds on that bitch.

[RyanWasHere]

In my opinion even having to ask if you should call it quits is a sure fire foreshadowing of a relationship destined to fail.

I don't think you should call it quits yet, he just made a move, which is a big event in someone's life, give him time to get settled he's stressed out with a lot right now, give him space, let him breathe, go visit him within the next 2 weeks, maybe stay the night and spend a weekend together, it will mean a lot to him, and will help him be more at ease knowing someone familiar to him still wants to make an effort to come and see him even though he lives farther away now.

Good luck,

[ashleybby]

yeah...welli am not optimistic at all, so i always think of the bad things that might happen
maybe if i tryed to be more optimistic it would help, i dont know...
does anyone know some tips to make long distant relationships work??

[Mystic Eyes]

yeah...welli am not optimistic at all, so i always think of the bad things that might happen
maybe if i tryed to be more optimistic it would help, i dont know...
does anyone know some tips to make long distant relationships work??

It seems like you do want it to work.

1) Don't give up. The moment you do, it's more or less over.
2) Give him some time settle in (1-2weeks) But I don't see how this is effecting him calling you.
3)trust. Soo important.
4) Stay positive. You keep being sad and down, it will rub off on him and you both will be miserable.
5) Honesty.

Seriously long distant relationships are the same as any other type of relationship. As long as your committed then it will be more than fine.

Keep addressing your concerns to him. He's your boyfriend, he should listen and understand.

[manaway]

Throw some Ds on that bitch.

haha thats funny

no but what you have to do is give him time let him get situated its more about him right now when i went down to north carolina last summer i never called my girlfriend it didnt mean i was cheating on her its that i didnt have time when you first move to a new place its hard you have to make friend find things to do and all that if you love him and he loves you stay with it but if he continues to not call you like 4 days from now break up with him

long distance relationships dont work and neither do ones with restraining orders on a person HAHAHA but if everything works out it will be fine if it doesnt hey there are more people out there

[ashleybby]

yeahhh...i guess so...
but he doesnt seem like he needs to get situated because he is living with his aunt and everytime i text him or something he is either watching his cousins or watching a movie.
sooo yeah
idk
but i will give him time i guess
and maybe i should talk to him and tell him how i feel about everything.

[Rachel]

^Ya, that would probably help a bit dear. Communication is key in any relationship, especially a long distance one.


Side question: How old are you guys?

[ashleybby]

yeah, he finally called me, and i told him how i felt and he said he would try to make more of an effort.
also, i hung out with some friends, and it helped get my mind off of everything, so i feel more calm talking about all this. so it helps

i am 17 and he is about to turn 18

[Rachel]

^Well good. It's important that you live your life too. The more you focus on it, the harder it will be for you to be happy. It is really shitty trying make the distance work, but you gotta trust him and let him live a little too, especially since you are both young. Did he move out there for school?

[ashleybby]

^he moved up there to get a job that his uncle has, which he could possible earn alot of money
but he cant even get that job until he gets his license but thats not until june 13th
so i dont understand why he already left.