guys i need advice ?? ASAP ??PLZZ, confused ! |
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 May 14 2007, 12:47 PM
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hey guys ...
im very new to this site but found very interesting & helpful, as i can see from the posts. i want to discuss my personal stuffs to you guys.Im in love with a senior gurl in China.Im student & studying medicine.This is my last year but the thing is i cannot concentrate my mind, im very confused & hurt too. We are seeying eachother for 2 years and we both love eachother so much. Recently, she told her mom abt us but i know they won't agree about us , and they are arranging her engagement soon. Im junior than her so she is scared to tell her parents about me. She told me she loves me a lot and she will love me forever but she cannot do anything which will hurt her parents. They means everything to her. Im so much hurt & even i wan't i can't focus my mind on my studies just because of her. I love her so much & she does too but what should i do when she cannot do anything for me ??? guys i need you help .....i hope it's clear !! if it's long than u might get bored  thanks !! |
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| *pixiedust!* |
May 14 2007, 07:02 PM
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It's hopeless. Sorry, bud.
What her parents say > what you say. Her parents don't like you > she likes you. I'd think that someone who was studying medicine would type normally, but apparently not. |
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May 14 2007, 08:09 PM
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 hardxcore. Group: Member Posts: 1,223 Joined: Nov 2006 Member No: 479,494 |
QUOTE(pixiedust! @ May 14 2007, 8:02 PM)  It's hopeless. Sorry, bud. What her parents say > what you say. Her parents don't like you > she likes you. I'd think that someone who was studying medicine would type normally, but apparently not. agreed. 
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May 15 2007, 06:27 AM
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i hope it's clear now
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May 15 2007, 06:37 AM
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 Don't touch me you drink! Group: Member Posts: 310 Joined: Apr 2007 Member No: 518,707 |
I hate to reiterate what the others have said, but for a lot of people, their parent's word is law. It sounds like she's one of those people. If they don't like you, man , I honestly don't know what to tell you, unless you want to do something EXTREMELY drastic.
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May 15 2007, 07:29 AM
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 What a sick, masochistic lion. Group: Member Posts: 1,853 Joined: Sep 2006 Member No: 460,535 |
Aw gosh... I'm sorry.  If her parents and their consent means everything to her, there's not much you can do. If she is willing to disregard what her parents think, no matter the consequences, I suppose you guys could carry on, but it's entirely up to her and her parents. I think you should move on... |
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May 15 2007, 07:41 AM
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AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA.... China...
You can do nadda. |
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May 16 2007, 04:19 PM
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 Hi, Im Brook. Group: Member Posts: 1,774 Joined: Mar 2007 Member No: 508,383 |
QUOTE(pixiedust! @ May 14 2007, 8:02 PM) It's hopeless. Sorry, bud. What her parents say > what you say. Her parents don't like you > she likes you. I'd think that someone who was studying medicine would type normally, but apparently not. Agreed totally. I mean, if she cant confront her parents about you its not "true love" or "ment to last."
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May 16 2007, 05:44 PM
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You can't do anything if her parents say no. Best you could do is try to impress her parents and be everything they want her to have? If she really cares about you that much y'all can both try as hard as y'all can to try to get the parents acceptance, but if that doesn't work and she won't do anything contradictory to them, SOL man =\
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May 17 2007, 01:36 PM
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Hey MOZZA. I'm going to totally disagree with everyone else. Why? because it's not about what parents say. I'm sure deep down she would go against them but there's too much to lose.
If you truly love someone then you will stand by them. Thats true love. Anyways it seems like your girlfriend isn't happy about this engagement. So she should tell her parents about this and perhaps tell her parents about you. Hopefully if there understanding and genuine then they will be cool with you. Arranged marriages never truly work. And it's in those cases when you should go against parents when there not listening to their childs words. So, stay positive and keep trying. I hope things work out for you and her. |
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May 18 2007, 03:34 AM
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^Awww, Mystic is soo sweet
 MOZZA, I think I agree with Mystic. She is her own person, so she shouldn't expect to have her parents control her and tell her what's best for her. If she does tell her parents about you, then I really hope that they are the understanding sort, because it seems as if you both love eachother. Hopefully, things will work out between you two. I wish you luck!
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May 18 2007, 11:20 AM
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The kooks Group: Member Posts: 499 Joined: Apr 2007 Member No: 516,563 |
^ I'm soo sweet? wow, thank you puppy chan!
 If I was ever a parent and my son or daughter was in love with someone and they loved him/her back then I would be all for it. Also I would never let them have an arranged marriage. I only speak from what i've seen in my family and thats 99% of arrange marriages fail soo much. Neither people in the marriage are truly happy. |
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