Is it wrong for a 14 year old to have sex? Options

[myPESTICIDE]

I've only done it like 5 or 6 times, and we used condoms, and he says he truly loves me, although I don't believe him because he's 15 and yes I'll admit it we don't know what true love is...but is this wrong?

[Jinny]

I personally think it's too young. Nobody's going to guarantee that you guys are both going to go to the same college + get married. You might find somebody else when you're older.

I mean, if you know the risks and what might happen, I guess it's fine.

[*stephinika*]

Well you seem to know the risks and are using protection which is great on your parts, but it's really your choice. I do believe it is kind of young, but its your own decision and you just have to prepared to deal with any consequences that come out of it.

[rorhinna]

It's an opinion question.

I'm into abstinence, so I say it's wrong. A lot of change can happen between age fourteen and post-college, especially in your priorities. I'm fifteen and happily taken with my boyfriend who's a year older, but I've chosen not to have sex with him because I can't handle the possible consequences alone. Who knows, maybe he'll be one of the guys who actually do follow through with whatever happens, but I'm not taking that chance.

In high school, admittedly, he's one of my priorities, along with God and grades and perhaps a billion other things. I depend on him for a lot, but when we go to college, what we depend on changes. He's not going to have his dad there for him, and when I go to college I won't have my parents to pay for the possible consequences of premarital sex.

You could get an STD or pregnant or if you two break up, you'll lose your reputation as well.

I don't want to possibly screw over my life before I can support myself.

Just my compressed take on premarital sex in general.

I don't see why you're having sex with this guy if you don't think he loves you and if you don't know what love is.

I agree with what is said above. seriously, 14?!!
I don't know where you are with your relationship with
him or anything, but based on your post, it sounds like
you're unsure. you have to ask yourself these questions,
and if you can live with all that, well, its your life, not
mine:
why would you be unsure if its ok?
why are you unsure if you don't think its wrong?
what will people think of you if they knew (maybe they already
do)?
what kind of an impression will/do you have on
other guys?
what about your parents?

etc...

[Imlearning]

Well, I mean I'm fourteen too, & I would never consider having sex right now.

But if you think you might be in love with him.. i mean do what you want.


I know how it feels when people are like "You're to young to be in love"

But i personally think you cant put a age limit on love.


BUT I kinda do think fourteen is a little .. well alot young for sex.
But not for loving someone.

[fcukxl0ve]

i don`t think its wrong;; do you really love him?

[kimmytree]

Ummmm, yeah.
If you arent willing to face what could result from doing it, then dont do it. I mean, what if you get a disease, or get pregnant? I dont think that's something a fourteen year-old can usually handle. Personally, I think its wise to wait till you're finished with highschool.

[captjacksparrow]

yea i dun think they should if they dun want to...

[poetwritremokid]

I am 14 and just had it for the first time. Its better to really wait. It might turn in to a constant thing. And not to scare you, but think of the positibilities and the consiquences.


PM me if u wanna talk about it. I know how it feels

[elaboratedream]

sex is never wrong if both parties consent, they're well informed of the risks, and they're responsible about it.
I personally don't think you have to truely love each other... as long as you both want to do it, w/e.

[xannurrs]

14 is a horrible age to have sex. Wait until you're older when it means something.

Sex doesn't have to mean something.
I think it's a form of pleasure.

and if the condom breaks then take a pregnancy test
I don't think sex is a 'big deal'


btw. abortion isn't as scarey as it sounds.
i have loads of friends who've gotten abortions

just go enjoy yourself(:

[elaboratedream]

and if the condom breaks then take a pregnancy test

a pregnancy test won't do shit... if the condom breaks, take the morning after pill.

[Jinny]

Sex doesn't have to mean something.
I think it's a form of pleasure.

It might be a form of pleasure, but it won't be a pleasure anymore if you get AIDS.
But then again.. you might not get any diseases. Who knows?

I personally think it's wrong. But that's just my opinion.

[elaboratedream]

It might be a form of pleasure, but it won't be a pleasure anymore if you get AIDS.

If you use a condom and don't have sex with random strangers on the street, your chances of getting AIDS are very low.
Even more low if you have your sexual partners get tested first, and only have sex with them if they're clean

[KyleSchmidsGirl]

I think it is wrong for teenagers ages 13-17 to have sex, cause they are nothing but children themselves. They should wait until they are done with school. Seriously Sex is not a game and isn't to be taken lightly. Seriously get an education first and finish school and make something of yourself. I have had friends that in their teen years ended up pregnant. a majority of teenage girls/guys are stupid and don't know what love is. seriously you end up pregnant you messed up your life for good and won't be able to go to concerts, hangout with friends, go to movies, etc... So sex can wait. I waited til I was 23 and my sister waited til she was married.

[deplorable]

i think it is wrong to have sex at 14.... im for sex after marriage. I totally understand the temptations sometimes... but everyone has the willpower and strength to overcome these temptations. Youre 14: go outside and kick around a soccer ball or something, dont leave time open to fall into it...

[LennonLime]

er...yeah.

sorry, I'm for no sex until marriage.

but, if thats the choice you want to make, go ahead.
you just need to make sure your ready to deal with the possible outcomes.

[KyleSchmidsGirl]

you're young sex can wait! it's not all that.

[Hamnah]

Don't.
All these kids are growing up too fast.
I remember when i was 14 i was still having water fights.
You're never going to have a childhood again.

[xannurrs]

I still don't think it's a big deal.
But I guess it's what views you were
raised learning and what views
you think are right.

some people (like most of cB) take it very seriously
others (like myself) don't take it seriously at all

and I know many people who don't take it seriously.

[pinayprincess]

ahh.. 14? and 15..... just watch out... boys at this age dnt know what they want unless your one of the lucky ones who find a nice charming boy lol.... but really its nothing wrong, just hope your with the right guy!

[ji_cabinx]

i think it's way too early

[ReggieM]

yes it is slut,i wasnt talking to you tho

[x_curse_of_the_c...]

It depends on if your religious or not i am so im probably going to wait because it is a sin you know it would ruin it because i would feel so guilty and dirty. you know?