Online Relationships Options

[Xia]

What do you guys think about online relationships? Do you think they can work? Or are the couple destined to break up. Every case is different, nothing is 100%. But let's make a nifty list of all the pros and cons.

(Also, it's because I'm sorta in one. Well, sorta. =P)

[Faith]

First of all, I have heard many success stories out of online relationships. So banish all the doubts you may have! I'll make several points, and you can determine if they're pro or con.

With online relationships...

• ...you lack the physical contact and communication between two people. A lot of people believe that physical presence isn't important to a relationship, but it's definitely something that makes two people who are attracted to each other more stronger, and more serious.
• ...you get to explore personalities, and nothing is based on outer appearances. But the problem with that is, there is a difference between a person's real personality and their online personality, most of the time.
• ...there are no transitional stages involved. You talk online everyday, exchange love, possibly do a phone call or two, but it doesn't move on from there. It will constantly and always be "an online relationship".
• ...trust is an issue. How do you know that this person is faithful or true to his or her word? You don't know him or her. You don't know his or her friends. It's taking a great leap of faith.

There's more, but I hope this helped a bit!

[Dr3aMeR]

Just go to your school and find a guy...kindof simple is it not?

[Xia]

I never said I wanted a guy. I just want to know what y'all think. I can deal with being single. Actually, I prefer it.

[COLDasICE]

I've gotta agree that all types of relationships has its pros and cons.. So it doesn't make any difference right?! Just as long as you take it step by step..

[xjjajeengx]

wel... i dont really think online relationships is a good idea, but i mean, its just my opinion. you can have one for fun i guess, but if ur looking into a real solid relationship, then i suggest not to do online dating. why? cause u cant see the person, you cant tell if their lying about their age, gender, etc.

[xDREAMxgirlx]

wel... i dont really think online relationships is a good idea, but i mean, its just my opinion. you can have one for fun i guess, but if ur looking into a real solid relationship, then i suggest not to do online dating. why? cause u cant see the person, you cant tell if their lying about their age, gender, etc.

Yeah, have to agree. I have a realy nice and strong relationship that's a real one and it's like, a lot of people can lie about themselves cuz u really can't see them (Unless of course it's like a webcam--but that's still not like being right there in front of them)

So i would say NO to online relationships -- sry to all that have them.

[conster]

i dont like online relationships. its like wuts the point wen all u do is talk online.. dont u do that wit ur friends? lol

[k00alah]

dang.. almost all of you guys are against online relationships.. i think its cool just as long as you take time to get to know the other person.. with an online relationship you see what the other person has to offer.. you see their inner self.. their true personality.. its not all about the looks and the package.. its whats inside that counts.. haha..

[ObliviousAsian12...]

i had one ONCE...eventually i broke it off since i noticed all he did was typing to his friends saying "I GOT A GIRL! HAHA SEE!" so then it wasn't real stuff... oh well...i would advise people not to get one though...it can hurt emotionally

[applecyder]

hmm.. I guess it depends on ppl.. I mean, yeah some ppl do succeed with online relationships. But personally, I'd prefer face-to-face relationship, which means no online relationships. I'd like to see the opponent by my own, not see online-only. You know? I know some ppl hide their identity and stuff.. (well, I'm not going any further cuz it just goes on and on)

anyways, yeah.. that's what I think. =P

[dzbemark]

u should just fing 1 at your school

[xjjajeengx]

yup. majority wins- NO TO ONLINE DATING!! x] seriously. find one at school

i might work for sum ppl
and might not work for sum ppl

[Alk3]

Excuse me, but for the people who said "just go to your school and find one".. that's not very simple. Especially for myself, since I go to an all-girls school. Unless there's a male student dressing up as a female student, I don't think it would be very easy for me to find a guy in school.

Anyway, I think online-dating can definitely work. There are many bad things about online relationships; such as the distance (if you plan on meeting each other) and of course the whole "not REALLY knowing who you're talking to" problem..

But aside from those things, I think it can work if both of the people are committed to the relationship.

I know a couple from Australia that met online. After a few months, they met offline. They've been together for four years & are currently engaged.

[shorty_oc]

I had a friend who was once in an online relationship. Thank goodness that guy wasn't a rapist/psycho/murderer. But, if you're wondering about it's destination? Well, it's not always destined to fail. But make sure you know the guy, before you commit yourself too much. And stay safe. (lol..that sounded corny)

[k00alah]

yeah its just common sense.. if the person you talking to online wants to meet you right away.. then that means he/she is a criminal.. haha it takes time so be patient..

[Baptismapyros]

Just don’t have online relationships. Why? Well let me tell you something. Love isn’t a feeling, it isn’t flowers, and it isn’t gifts. Love is a state of mind, where you’re willing to sacrifice for the betterment of another person. You really can’t sacrifice much for someone when he or she lives 50+ miles away. Realize that the vows you make at your wedding are promises to God that you will love and cherish this person until your time here upon this earth comes to an end. This also means, that if you had the choice between saving your child or spouse from death, you would sacrifice your own child to preserve the life of your kindred spirit. That is how deeply important the vows you make at your marriage are and that is true love.
Now answer me this. What evidence do you have that this person, who you have never met in person, will honor you and hold you above all, second only to God in their lives? You cannot gather any such evidence online. Eventually, for your relationship to move forward you will have to meet in person, but until you do your relationship does not grow and remains stagnant. Why be in a relationship that goes nowhere? Why waste your time with someone who you will never marry? Why give up your heart so freely to someone, whose reputation and integrity you cannot know?
I have seen enough heartache from friends who have been in these relationships. They are not healthy especially to the females who participate in them. These relationships provide a false sense of security, and when things end the heart hurts over a relationship that didn’t have a chance to begin with. I am disgusted by the boys who have online girlfriends and I won’t go into detail about it, because I must sleep. Let me clarify though, there’s a difference between a long distance relationship and online dating. A long distance relationship usually starts out normally, but then the couple is separated through some unavoidable reason. The online relationships I’m writing about are the one’s that are online with miles and miles of space in between, with that being all the relationship has ever been. I’ve got more beef with this subject, but I don’t have time to organize my thoughts. Take care everyone. This is just my two cents.

[Dr3aMeR]

For the girl who says you can't find one cause you go to an all girls school there is usually an ALL GUYS SCHOOL nearby.

[Alk3]

For the girl who says you can't find one cause you go to an all girls school there is usually an ALL GUYS SCHOOL nearby.

Actually, no. There is no all-boys school nearby. They usually aren't. Our "brother schools" are in the Bronx and Queens. My school is in Manhattan.

[Dr3aMeR]

?? It seems like you really want to give the online thing a try. Well be my guest because there are peoples AIM SNs here.

Yet, there gots to be people at your school who has bfs that are not online. Wonder how they did it? Maybe they went to the mall or there was a public high school right across the street from your school because there are guys at a "non-brother school". Maybe you can hit up central park or the walk up and down around time square.

[Alk3]

?? It seems like you really want to give the online thing a try. Well be my guest because there are peoples AIM SNs here.

Yet, there gots to be people at your school who has bfs that are not online. Wonder how they did it? Maybe they went to the mall or there was a public high school right across the street from your school because there are guys at a "non-brother school". Maybe you can hit up central park or the walk up and down around time square.

LOL.. No, I do not wish to have an internet relationship.. I was just saying that it isn't always easy for people to find boyfriends. I'm quite happy being single, thankyouverymuch.

[Dr3aMeR]

I am happy that you are happy that you are single. But i don't get the point of "thankyouverymuch" with no spaces. Was that a dis to say im not worth the time to press the space key 3 times?



FOr those people out there IM AT LEAST WORTH HITTING THE SPACE KEY 4 TIMES !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Alk3]

I am happy that you are happy that you are single. But i don't get the point of "thankyouverymuch" with no spaces. Was that a dis to say im not worth the time to press the space key 3 times?



FOr those people out there IM AT LEAST WORTH HITTING THE SPACE KEY 4 TIMES !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Okay.. "thank you very much" ..happy?

[*eunie03*]

Okay.. "thank you very much" ..happy?

OH-- are you gonna take that?

edit: where do you go, alk3?