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 Jun 10 2004, 09:26 PM
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 Im bouncin off the walls again  Group: Member Posts: 60 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,995  |
well...im 16 and my guy is gunna be 18 in july.
our whole relationship is a secret from his rents cuz hes mennonite and im not...even tho he wears the whole shady line clothing thinger...and his parents think i am young and vulnerable. i dont know what to do...they are suspicios now, and he said his dad wont even talk to him anymore. i dont want to be selfish, but i love him so much and he loves me back, and i jus dont think that it is right for his parents to be doing this if he is almost 18. they are so strict that he hadnt even held a girls hand or kissed someone...till me. plz help me...i dont know what to do... 
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Jun 10 2004, 10:24 PM
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 Miss Alice Group: Member Posts: 1,257 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,454 |
 wow this is HARRRD. well have you done anything to gain his parent's respect??? obviously dating their son behind their back, isnt rilli gonna help in that department
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Jun 10 2004, 11:53 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,989 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 10,691 |
Yeah you will to earn their respect and trust.
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Jun 11 2004, 12:18 AM
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 Serious As A Heart Attack. Group: Member Posts: 2,292 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,344 |
agreed..you either need to stop dating until his parents approve or flat out tell them..they're not gonna like you any better if they find out some other way that you guys are secretly dating..
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Jun 11 2004, 01:16 AM
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 Prez of Student Council 04/05 Group: Member Posts: 2,888 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 851 |
yeah that would make the situation between you two WORST if they find out some other way besides u two telling them... prove to them u guys are good for each other or something..
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Jun 11 2004, 06:19 AM
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Im bouncin off the walls again Group: Member Posts: 60 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,995 |
yeah...the thing is ive tried to meet them but they wouldnt let me come over and they dont even want us to be friends
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Jun 11 2004, 08:51 AM
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 he`z gOt my heart*<3`o2.18.o1` Group: Member Posts: 1,662 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,338 |
wow .. that's a very hard situation .. nonetheless you should both do what you feel is best for yourselves .. if you care for each other that much then stay together .. it isn't right for the parents to be so strict and be angry for your boyfriend seeking happiness with someone .. sooner or later the parents will have to learn to accept that ..
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Jun 11 2004, 06:43 PM
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 SoMehOw iT sEeMs CoLdeR nOw.. Group: Member Posts: 77 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,718 |
i've heard of closed minded parents.. but this is beyond being closed minded. you might want to be careful.. since he's gonna be 18.. technically it'll be illegal since your still a minor. but if he's gonna be 18 in july it should be ok.. especially if he moves out on his own. if not.. then idk what to tell ya =/
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Jun 11 2004, 06:48 PM
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 Alisha Group: Member Posts: 2,341 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 9,880 |
u need to "earn" their trust an respect..but then agian thats not fair cause. u have to prove yourself to them! ughh i dunno..but if you really love him then ur gonna have to suck up ur pride and kiss a$$ i guess..
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Jun 11 2004, 08:36 PM
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 unify and defeat... divide and crumble Group: Member Posts: 2,759 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,379 |
dating behind their backs will only make things worse, suck it up, and earn their respect... emphasis on the word EARN
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Jun 11 2004, 08:44 PM
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Im bouncin off the walls again Group: Member Posts: 60 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,995 |
QUOTE(mai_z @ Jun 11 2004, 8:36 PM) dating behind their backs will only make things worse, suck it up, and earn their respect... emphasis on the word EARN yeah uhm...that could be a problem seeing as they dont even want to meet me. |
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Jun 12 2004, 01:00 AM
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 <3~Tara~<3 Group: Member Posts: 345 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 2,491 |
eventually his parents will get over it juzz stick around pretend to be his best frn
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Jun 12 2004, 10:03 AM
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 Kermit the frog = <3 Group: Member Posts: 2,315 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 15,215 |
how do you know that you really love this guy?
when you grow older you'll realize how much you LOATHE this guy. He could be full of b.s.. you'll never know. |
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Jun 19 2004, 04:08 PM
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Im bouncin off the walls again Group: Member Posts: 60 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,995 |
QUOTE(x3_kelly @ Jun 12 2004, 10:03 AM) how do you know that you really love this guy? when you grow older you'll realize how much you LOATHE this guy. He could be full of b.s.. you'll never know. wtf?? this is the nicest kid i know...if he was full of crap he wouldnt have been going thru all this trouble to see me when hes not supposed to 
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Jun 19 2004, 05:01 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 54 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,234 |
follow your heart, and pray about it!
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Jun 19 2004, 08:54 PM
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 </3 hEaRtS aRe MaDe 2 bE bRoKn Group: Member Posts: 224 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 10,131 |
QUOTE(x3_kelly @ Jun 12 2004, 10:03 AM) how do you know that you really love this guy? when you grow older you'll realize how much you LOATHE this guy. He could be full of b.s.. you'll never know. er.. if she says she loves him then she must.. and how can he be full of bs when hes going behind his parentals backs to see//be with her.. no offence.. but i know u and your bf like broke up just a lil while ago.. and maybe thats how u feel about him so thats wut u think it will be like for everyone[since tht was your 1st bf right?] iunno.. sorry if im wrong.. its jus wut came to mind but anyways i think if you love him and he loves you then.. just stay together.. and if the parentals find out.. well.. iunno.. lol.. but i mean.. hes gonna date eventually so they will have to deal i guess? lol |
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