Huge Long Distace Relationship Problem Options

[HennaGaijin]

Thanks for your help!

[Smilessss]

hmmm wow... i kinda had the same problem as you cuz im also in long distance relationship...except it was him whos paranoid about me flirting with other guys...which i dont... but i think its right for you to feel worried, and just try to talk to him about it instead of fighting, try to tell him that, but if he still doesnt tell you, and fights with you instead, i would break up with him even though its hard to, i know, i had this problem also.. but if you dont wanna breakup then you dont have to, just follow what your hearts tell you to

woops didnt read the "breakups is not an option" so just ignored what i said about the breakup part so yeah... sorry about that ><

[*Intercourse.*]

Awe, well I've been in my long distance relationship for a year and half now. I love every minute of it but he lives a few states up though not across the united states. Their hard though.

Problems come and go and from the sounds of it you don't exactly have a lot trust in him it seems. Also I don't think its completely your fault, I think you do have a reason to be a little insecure since he hasn't been talking to you like he use to. Have you told him this? Try calling him up and telling him how you feel and tell him that you guys haven't really talked in a while like a really personal conversation. I know my boyfriend never really acts different in front of his friends and even lets me talk to them and usually they want to talk to me from time to time and usually when I say something along the lines of we haven't talked in a while he's usually right on top of it and changing his plans around or making time for us to talk.

Have you guys ever really had other problems beside these two?

I remember for a few months with in the first year me and Josh (boyfriend) went through this long period that was filled with arguments and long fights. It seems once you get out of it though you really don't fight anymore and any other fight after it you already know its going to end and nothing is going to go wrong.

But the best piece of advice that I can possibly give you is to just call him up and talk to him about how you feel and tell him that you feel like you guys haven't been able to talk lately. And tell him about how your insecure and how your feeling about him talking to all these other girls. If he truly loves and cares about you he'll take the time to listen and reassure you that everything is fine and theres nothing to worry about. Also you may want to work on your trust issues with him but I'm sure once you can talk to him and stuff and if everything goes smoothly you'll build up that trust again.


good luck

[HennaGaijin]

Thanks for the replies.

Things are getting better. I told him every single thought I had about everything and in the end, he cried and realized how much he has hurt me (not from the comments! there were other issues besides this).

Now he's know we BOTH have to work on fixing things. I know I'll begin to trust him like a used to once everything is back to normal.

[Mystic Eyes]

Glad things are looking up for both of you. Hope it works out for you both.

[tokyo-rose]

Definitely don't become a sneaky girlfriend. It seems like a good way to get back at him, but it just sets you up to be distrusted by him. If you try to confront him again about the girls he flirts with, he'll be able to say, "Well, you're not so trustworthy either! You flirt with other guys too."

I'm glad you guys are working through it.

[vietbabiiix3]

i guess communication is the most important thing in any relationship and also trust. if you feel like you're not able to fully trust him anymore, i think it won't work out sooner or later. but if you're still both crazy for each other, try to balance out the time with each other and the time he has with his friends, etc.