Has anyone else ever felt this way? Options

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^Ello

Being "people staff" doesn't mean you have to be everyone's best friend, damn it.

yea, I'm well aware of that. But if they don't have to abide by the rules then I don't see why members do or why the moderators have to have their own set of rules too if they can just sit back and break them.

[Spirited Away]

^Ello
yea, I'm well aware of that. But if they don't have to abide by the rules then I don't see why members do or why the moderators have to have their own set of rules too if they can just sit back and break them.

That's very true, but such a problem can be solve so easily.

Rules are meant to be broken, and they will be broken faster than you can sneeze when those rules are shoved down everyone's throats. I'm not condoning that cB should forgo rules/guidelines, no, I am saying that everyone is smart enough (or should be smart enough) to use his/her discretion. When this is realized but a member or a moderator is still being a jerk, then demote him/her or warning, whatever.

What rules were being violated here? Member bashing or spam (iono)? For the sake of reminding me the guidelines, will someone define for me what member bashing is to cB?

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it says something but I do remember name calling as one thing. And its like yea its really easy Spirited Away (Name please? ) but its like I don't really think the staff has it to really fire someone its never really happen.

I think that should happen though, and its sounds like a simple solution and better then PMing the admins.

[Spirited Away]

Hi, my name's Christy. (Yes, I said it people...=) inside joke)... a/k/a Fae, a/k/a Fae Fae, a/k/a uninspiredfae.

From what I understand, cB had fired staff before and not to mention it has "forced" a number of staff out of their positions. If those with the power to make decisions do not make decisions as their job requires, then how are they in the position to do so? This is a general, even hypothetical question, if you want, that's not directed towards anyone. How are violations being judged anyway? If a moderator is being mean according to a couple of people personally don't like him/her, that isn't fair punishment. This is where discretion comes in.

I forgot what my poin was or what the topic is... sorry for going off tangent folks.

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Nice to meet you Christy

Well then what should they do if discretion comes in?

[Spirited Away]

Hi there.

What is the question? As in, what should who do in what situation that requires discretion?

I will try to use my discretion to present a solution. Decisions based on discretions are not paved in cement so... to each his own.

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^haha no I just meant like should situations like that where the person doesn't like the other person and goes as far as breaking the rules should they still get punished for the rules they break even if its some personal issue?

[Spirited Away]

Oh, good question.

If this were two members, I suppose it makes sense that mods encourage them to work out their personal issues outside of cB or in private, but not force them either, because moderators are not meant to be tyrants unless the situation is that dire.

If the situation is still personal, and one is a moderator and one is a member, then why is a mod is the one being scrutenized when the other member is equally guilty? Shouldn't other moderators still use the same discretion mentioned prior to be fair? Just because one's a mod shouldn't mean he/she's a paragon of virtue.


Hell, if that's the case then no one should be a mod... haha. (i'm trying to entertain myself here... ignore this and the previous sentence).

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No since in apologizing, everyone needs a good laugh once in a while

Yea I agree with what your saying. The staff did come to a point where people needed to work out their problems but I guess it never really worked out. It worked out some things but not all of the things. People pick and choose who they dislike around here which is kind of weird.

But hmm I don't know what else to say anymore, I think that sleep is starting to take over me.



[Oh I don't know if you noticed but I'm the create yourself too, this account was banned so I had to get it unbanned.]

[Spirited Away]

Oh... haha. okay... i wondered where that person went. gotcha.

sleep is the last thing i want to do, but the first thing i need to do.. i have a long work day tomorrow. thanks for reminding me.

I completely understand that there are personal issues involved here. Some problems are just not meant to be worked out. These problems are good for cB though, because a "community driven site" shouldn't be one without problems and with everyone happy all the time (that's just creepy). Problems make people appreciate each other more, and if not each other, then the people around them. Only when it goes too far should moderators get involved though.

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^Completely agree.

Sorry for reminding you of your day tomorrow Hope you make it the best possible.

[Spirited Away]

Haha we all must face reality some time, mine is now. Thanks.

Goodnight.

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I agree that mods should be held to the same standards as members.

However, nothing I said was anything I would have given a verbal warning for. Especially in that context.

The issue isn't to do with whether or not I'm a mod. That's a pointless example. It's whether or not those two comments would have been warn worthy at all. Which they weren't.

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It's not like James hasn't talked like that since the beginning, how many years ago? Shouldn't something like this be brought up in Mod Performance anyways?

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Uh well I talked to another mod about it and they said it was good enough to just make a topic.

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well i think they were wrong because it wasn't warranted for its own topic, nor is it anything that is that big of a deal. so he called you a name. if josh did this, like he did to others when he was here, you'd be standing beside him saying it's not a big deal. move on. whether you hate james because of what he said or not, move on. you shouldn't get mad over things that the boyfriend you defend so much used to do.

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uhm actually I really never defended Josh.
What Josh did on here was his problem not mine.

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i guess i saw things differently