Ignored Constantly, by best friend Options

[We Let It Burn]

Ok, so I'm not talking to a friend because it all started with her ignoring me when another girl, I'll call her Sally, would come over. They'd just go on talking and they wouldn't even look my way. It's only when Sally left that she actually acknowledged that I was there. I thought I was overeacting at first but then my other friend said the same thing was done to her.

So one day I get fed up with it and just completely stop talking to her. She didn't understand why so I told her and she said that she would try to stop. So I give her another chance. She does it 2-3 more times and on the last one I just stopped talking to her permanently. Except this time I think she sees it as it being my fault because she also got mad at me. Which, to me, makes no sense since she got closer and spends most her time with Sally once I was out of the way.

But the problem is she was my closest friend and really the only person I talked to about my problems.



So what I'm trying to say is, should I forgive her again and just be content with being ignored or should I stand by what I did and continue not being her friend? Now that I think about it she hasn't been that great and I really know I should find a better best friend but I'm not exactly the type to go up to some random person and start a conversation.

[Mystic Eyes]

The question right there is "should I forigve her again and just be content with being ignored".
My answer is, ask her if she has a problem with you, the whole ignoring thing is random especially because there seems to be no genuine cause for it.

You'll find much better friends who don't ignore you, it will just take time thats all.

[sharpieattack]

i have the same problem too. my "best friend" found someone else..and you should see his face when he's talking to me. he listens to music full blast and talks to me with a bored face....and when some girl comes up, his face brightens up like theres no tommorow. i'm jealous. i think i should let him go. i deserve better.

[We Let It Burn]

i have the same problem too. my "best friend" found someone else..and you should see his face when he's talking to me. he listens to music full blast and talks to me with a bored face....and when some girl comes up, his face brightens up like theres no tommorow. i'm jealous. i think i should let him go. i deserve better.

Exactly! I want to leave her 'cause I know I deserve someone who will appreciate me but I was really close to her. But I think I'll go talk to her and be really thorough about how she's really getting to me. Thanks for the answers.

[misoshiru]

Go find yourself new friends.

[Mystic Eyes]

Actually you know what. Tell her to get lost. You can do better then tramps like her. Why waste time and energy on those sorts of people.

[pedophile]

Ditch her. She ain't worth your time.

[wishforhelsinki]

Sounds like the situation I had before with my best friend.
I gave it time, basically. At least until I couldn't take it anymore. And then she came to my house one night and we talked things over.
Reach out to her. Tell her your needs.

[LennonLime]

to be perfectly honest, She's not worth it. I've dealt with people like that before, and it just goes to show you who your real friends are. Find some new, better friends. my best friend did that to me. and you know what? I found an even better one. no lie. There's someone out there who will truly appreciate you, so don't waste your time on one who wouldn't give you the time of day.

[USCavalry]

option one: keep puting up with the same old shit

option two: confront her

option three (my fav): lower yourself to her level

i just though of this. maybe you're talking at the wrong times or she doesn't know how to respond to what you're saying. whenever i get ignored i realize i said something a lil weird, at least by the standards of who i was talking to. otherwise they're busy thinking or texting or something.