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[andyisasian]

More than just recently, I've begun to ask myself what girls really want. Especially at this age, I simply don't think most girls you'll find are mature enough to actually know what they want, and even if you asked them and they told you, chances are what they want is more or less the last thing they're looking for, not the first.

So I looked through a few myspace profiles to start, and I found something that goes like this:
"And then there's that one really special, incredibly amazing guy who appreciates me - who cares about me more than life, despite my weaknesses, and despite his - in return for all the love in my heart. The ONE who would NEVER hurt me...he's the one...

"A guy out there was meant to be the love of your life, your best friend, your soul mate, the one you can tell your dreams to. He'll smile at you, but he'll never laugh at your heart. He'll brush the hair out of your eyes. He'll send you flowers when you least expect it. He'll stare at you during the movie, even though he just paid $8 to see it. He'll call to say goodnight or just because he is thinking of you. He'll look in your eyes and tell you, you're the most beautiful girl in the world, and for the first time in your life, you'll believe it.""

I think that might, more or less, describe what a lot of girls want. I don't even know the person from who's profile I took that, (and if she ever ends up reading this, I hope she realizes I'm not directing this toward her) but it pretty much summarizes what I've heard a hundred times over from too many other girls. Then again, I've got friends who would meet those "requirements" better than anyone else I know, yet they're single and not exactly by choice.

I look around, and I ask all you girls out there, what do you REALLY want? As far as I can tell, all those qualities you describe everywhere you get a chance to, are toward the bottom of the list, and at the way top is someone who looks hot, someone who is popular, someone who has "experience," someone who takes risks, someone who appears "adventurous", can express his sexuality openly, and of course, someone who can make you laugh. I don't know why, but I've gotten a very strong impression that what I just described is exactly what most (though not all) girls are looking for, and then you look around and wonder why our divorce statistics are what they are. With values like those, do you really wonder why marriages don't last?

Oh, and then of course, one day comes along a guy that isn't funny as hell, but he's got his inside sense of humor that the smarter people go "ah, I get it!" and wink instead of laughing out loud. He's got a sense of humor, can smile when the rains start pouring, and give a high five even if he's just lost a tennis game in the finals round. This guy would give his heart for you, and in return, all he wants is for you to love him forever. But yet, he's reserved enough to keep his sexuality to himself, knows life well enough to know which risks not to take, and above all, knows what matters most. This man will help you raise your kids in a way you'd be proud of them, with a heart of gold, and a spirit that will do anything for that family. This one man will drive 100 miles to pick you up when you're half drunk dancing with other guys, knowing full well he wouldn't like it. This one man will hold you close while it rains, give you his coat when the winds blow, open the car door for you, and will always be quicker than you in grabbing the check at the restaurant.

Yet...you really never would have known, if the first time you saw him, all you wanted was to be friends becuase he was too nice, too kind, and simply not the kind of guy you'd have fun dating.

You think I'm just looking in the mirror from my own life's experiences? You think I'm oblivious to what's really happening out there? You think I don't talk to people every day and see what really goes on? You think I haven't realized that at the age of 18 & 19 most girls still just want to have fun?

Mr. Right could walk right past you, ask you to dinner, and you'd never know it because he wasn't the hottest guy on the planet, didn't drive a sports car, or simply gave off the aire of one of those "good boys." Then again, since when did any girls go for the "good boys." All you ever hear of is a lot of girls talking about how all the good guys are gone.

When will some of you open your eyes and realize that what will make you happy for a year is not what will take to make you happy when you've worked a 40 hour week and Friday night, your baby wakes you up at 2 AM straight into his 6 months of existence. When the times get tough, he'll pull double time and get another job. When you're no longer the outer beauty you once were, you'll realize that his eyes were blind all along, and all he really saw you with was his heart.

What really matters most? In your mind you know what you want, but your heart won't let you have it, because you simply haven't realized what matters most. A few broken hearts later, you're 25 or 26 years old, and up to that point you were living proof that nice guys finish last.

Then there are those girls who weren't the hottest, most beautiful, most popular girls on campus. They didn't dress the way you did, and they didn't date the hottest guys. They realized what they were worth, and it actually meant something to them when a guy looked into their hearts to look for a beauty that might last forever.

I once kept a strong mentality that nice guys finish last, but then I realized...its not the nice guys that finish last, it's the girls that didn't give a shit about the nice guys that finish last.

Nice guys don't finish last. Nice guys are the last ones walking hand in hand with their wives when the autumn leaves of life begin to fall.


Source: http://www.testriffic.com/story/MRDRIZ/4737
-- Arjuna

This post has been edited by Arjuna Capulong: Apr 2 2007, 02:40 PM

[xlitoxb]

Wow. I'm at awe as to why no one's said anything here yet. I really like what you said and it's so true/thoughtful. =] Most people would never admit to that, but I agree with you.

[wishforhelsinki]

You're on a f**king (can i say that?) roll with your words.
What you say is true, absolutely.
But consider me that little percentage of girls you're not talking about in here.
Because I'm digging it and I'm happy someone's finally got what I've never been able to say.

[misoshiru]

About Girls, VERY IMPORTANT NOTE: this blog was not intended toward anyone

Just to point out, if you want to blog on cB, you can put it under cB diary.

Createblog is not a blog site.

[jEllyBeaNs]

WOW!! tht is really really deep...it was kinda like a damn research paper or somethin. But i absolutely agree with you on everything. It made me think and realize on how lucky i am with my relationship with my bf. :) ...you should write some more i loved reading what u had to say and it all made complete since.

[HelplessCry]

wow....just....wow....
yeah im so tired of this superficial shallowness.
honestly im not looking for love...i'll wait till it finds me i'll wait for it to catch me when im falling.

i believe that girls go for those guys so that they can be more popular or bring them up a level make them feel noticed like all eyes are on them. Of course most of us fall for the one who looks appealing on the outside when really we kno jackshit of who they really are that we dont care what happens if our hearts get hurt. ahhh so much to say but im having a brain fart.

other then that im still like woah to this speech haha

[misanthropist]

God, get over it, you whiny fag. Just because girls don't want to date you, doesn't mean you're the "nice" guy. Of course, it's always an excuse for anyone who's single to claim that they're nice and girls don't know what they want. It's about as trite as saying that girls don't aim for the nice guys, but the mean guys instead, am I right?

Just a rule of thumb, you don't search on MySpace to get a consensus about what girls want. Secondly, maybe you should open your eyes a bit instead of being a passive retard and do something.

[magicfann]

lol you must be gay

[andyisasian]

Wow. I'm at awe as to why no one's said anything here yet. I really like what you said and it's so true/thoughtful. =] Most people would never admit to that, but I agree with you.

Some people are afriad to open up, to express the feelings they have. Some people havent commented yet because of several reasons which idk of so idk. thanks for agreeing :)

You're on a f**king (can i say that?) roll with your words.
What you say is true, absolutely.
But consider me that little percentage of girls you're not talking about in here.
Because I'm digging it and I'm happy someone's finally got what I've never been able to say.

tyvm ^.^
idk if u can say tht or not lol
u gotta ask the moderaters
thank you :)
hmm im sorry i wasnt really aiming it at anyone
i wrote this after my 2yr realationship broke up so yea :/
hmm :)

Just to point out, if you want to blog on cB, you can put it under cB diary.

Createblog is not a blog site.

oh im verry sorry :/

WOW!! tht is really really deep...it was kinda like a damn research paper or somethin. But i absolutely agree with you on everything. It made me think and realize on how lucky i am with my relationship with my bf. :) ...you should write some more i loved reading what u had to say and it all made complete since.

wht i write so far, is just from experience, being the guy in the realtionship, an the guy helping a girl with her realtionship. my minds been really open to all of the oo an awe u know,
than sumthign happen to me so i wrote this :/, im happy that your realtionship has been made complete cuz u read this, i feel like ive accomplished sumtihng with my life <3 :))
i will write more in due time

wow....just....wow....
yeah im so tired of this superficial shallowness.
honestly im not looking for love...i'll wait till it finds me i'll wait for it to catch me when im falling.

i believe that girls go for those guys so that they can be more popular or bring them up a level make them feel noticed like all eyes are on them. Of course most of us fall for the one who looks appealing on the outside when really we kno jackshit of who they really are that we dont care what happens if our hearts get hurt. ahhh so much to say but im having a brain fart.

other then that im still like woah to this speech haha

cest la vie

God, get over it, you whiny fag. Just because girls don't want to date you, doesn't mean you're the "nice" guy. Of course, it's always an excuse for anyone who's single to claim that they're nice and girls don't know what they want. It's about as trite as saying that girls don't aim for the nice guys, but the mean guys instead, am I right?

Just a rule of thumb, you don't search on MySpace to get a consensus about what girls want. Secondly, maybe you should open your eyes a bit instead of being a passive retard and do something.

1st of all u dont know me, so dont be quick to judge, an second i dont have to be claimed anything, third im not single, 4th i dont have myspace so congrats

[ReggieM]

deep i like!

[niciDOOM]

what you typed made me cry alittle >__<

[lostgrl16]

wow your really... wow lol. thats like the 2nd long ass brainstorm you've had that ive read. i dont know what to say but that i agree. ive sat back and thought about this before but ive never put it down on paper, or cB in this case. i really think that yes, girls know what they want but at the same time they cant express it, in the very least i can not, ever. just wait for the right guy to come cause sometimes they really just hit you over the head and you'll never know. just live life and take whatever comes day by day.

ignore the idiots, they cant read lol. and i applaude you, just wow lol.

[krnxswat]

ignore the idiots, they cant read lol. and i applaude you, just wow lol.

Haha.
Ignore the "idiots?" Guess who's the idiot now. You.

By the way, I did some researching on the net can guess what I found?

http://www.testriffic.com/story/MRDRIZ/4737

You, my friend, are officially owned. Seriously.
I read your previous posts and looked at the way you typed, and figured out there was no way you could've written that. You dumb f uck. Where's the originality in this world these days? How old are you, 13?

This post has been edited by krnxswat: Apr 2 2007, 02:30 PM

[Simba]

Yeah, Seon Ho got you.
This is straight up plagiarism. Should have provided the sources.

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