Scared to death of being pregnant, 15 years old. Options

[Beautiful Disast...]

Earlier this month, I had sex for the first time. I'm only 15...
I understand a lot of you now may think lower of me, and I don't blame you.
I vowed never to be the person that lost her virginity at such a tender age.
But I was honestly pressured. But I gave in, and I take full responsibilty for my mistakes.
I'm in love with my boyfriend, I really am, and some of you may say "Well you're too young to even begin to know what love really is." But shall you have it, I am.

The point is, we used protection, but I'm scared that even though it stayed on, I may have somehow gotten semen in me. I'm disappointed with my actions and I plan on telling my boyfriend that I no longer want to continue in these activites until I am older and more mature. I have decided I will not have sex again until I am married. It just seems like a smarter decision.

My periods are irregular. I had sex on the 2nd of this month (March). Lately, my periods have been coming around 20-24 days. Not the usual 28 day cycle. And I still haven't gotten it. I'm scared beyond belief... I can't even begin to tell you how worried I am.

How effective as condoms? What are the chances I am pregnant?
..........And what about the symtoms of pregnancy?

I would glady get a pregnancy test but I wouldn't want my mother to find out I was sexually active. It would hurt her. =/
And again, I take the consequences to my actions.

THANK YOU!!

[tokyo-rose]

Wait till the end of this month or the beginning of April to see if you get your period then. Periods don't always come exactly every 28 (or whatever number) days.

Also, the condom didn't break so I don't think you should worry about pregnancy. They are 97%-98% effective.

[AngelinaTaylor]

Don't have sex anymore and you won't be facing these problems. =)

[*My Cinderella.*]

I don't think you should sweat it. Condoms are around 90% effective. Stress is the leading reason for mistakened pregnancy. Just give it a little time for your period to come, after all it is still irregular.

[lostgrl16]

stress can also affect your period, a friend of mine had so much stress piled on her, her period stopped for 3 months. if you used protection, i wouldnt be too worried.

[letsgoxdisco]

Have him use a condom and pull out before he comes. That way no pre-cum will enter you and there's no chance of the actual semen entering you either. If he does it right and the condom doesnt break.

or you could just not have sex. pulling out isn't effective.

[*WHIMSICAL 0NE*]

Condoms are almost 100% effective. With user error around 88% effective.
Since you used a condom, and really haven't "missed" your period yet I don't think you should be too worried. If you don't get you next period then you can start to worry. If you miss your next period you can go a pregnancy test at a drug store for a relatively cheap price.. and you mother won't have to know (drive a town over).

I'm glad that you're mature enough to look back on your actions and decide that you didn't make a good choice. For that I commend you.

[alysaphobia]

since your boyfriend used a condom, unless it broke, i highly doubt you're pregnant. your period may be irregular since you're stressing about it so much; stress can delay your periods.
but because you asked, though, here are symptoms of pregnancy that can begin within the first few weeks of conception:

Tender, swollen breasts
Your breasts may provide one of the first symptoms of pregnancy. As early as two weeks after conception, hormonal changes may make your breasts tender, tingly or sore. Or your breasts may feel fuller and heavier.

Fatigue
Fatigue also ranks high among early symptoms of pregnancy. During early pregnancy, levels of the hormone progesterone soar. In high enough doses, progesterone can put you to sleep. At the same time, lower blood sugar levels, lower blood pressure and increased blood production may team up to sap your energy.

Slight bleeding or cramping
For some women, a small amount of spotting or vaginal bleeding is one of the first symptoms of pregnancy. Known as implantation bleeding, it happens when the fertilized egg attaches to the lining of the uterus — about 10 to 14 days after fertilization. This type of bleeding is usually a bit earlier, spottier and lighter in color than a normal period and doesn't last as long.

Some women also experience abdominal cramping early in pregnancy. These cramps are similar to menstrual cramps.

Nausea with or without vomiting
Morning sickness, which can strike at any time of the day or night, is one of the classic symptoms of pregnancy. For some women, the queasiness begins as early as two weeks after conception.

Nausea seems to stem at least in part from rapidly rising levels of estrogen, which causes the stomach to empty more slowly. Pregnant women also have a heightened sense of smell, so various odors — such as foods cooking, perfume or cigarette smoke — may cause waves of nausea in early pregnancy.

Food aversions or cravings
When you're pregnant, you might find yourself turning up your nose at certain foods, such as coffee or fried foods. Food cravings are common, too. Like most other symptoms of pregnancy, these food preferences can be chalked up to hormonal changes — especially in the first trimester, when hormone changes are the most dramatic.

Headaches
Early in pregnancy, increased blood circulation caused by hormonal changes may trigger frequent, mild headaches.

Constipation
Constipation is another common early symptom of pregnancy. An increase in progesterone causes food to pass more slowly through the intestines — which can lead to constipation.

Mood swings
The flood of hormones in your body in early pregnancy can make you unusually emotional and weepy. Mood swings are also common, especially in the first trimester.

Faintness and dizziness
As your blood vessels dilate and your blood pressure drops, you may feel lightheaded or dizzy. Early in pregnancy, faintness may also be triggered by low blood sugar.

Raised basal body temperature
Your basal body temperature is your oral temperature when you first wake up in the morning. This temperature increases slightly soon after ovulation and remains at that level until your next period. If you've been charting your basal body temperature to determine when you ovulate, its continued elevation for more than two weeks may mean you're pregnant.

Are you really pregnant?
Unfortunately, these symptoms aren't unique to pregnancy. Some can indicate that you're getting sick or that your period is about to start. Likewise, you can be pregnant without experiencing any of these symptoms.

Still, if you miss a period or notice any of the tip-offs on this list, you might want to take a home pregnancy test — especially if you're not keeping track of your menstrual cycle or if it varies widely from one month to the next. If your home pregnancy test is positive, make an appointment with your doctor, nurse practitioner or midwife. The sooner your pregnancy is confirmed, the sooner you can begin prenatal care.

and i agree with whimsical 0ne...it's cool you're making a decision to stop engaging in sex and taking responsibility for your actions.

[Beautiful Disast...]

I got a big relief from this, but I'm still not out of the clear yet...
And thank you for commending me. It means a lot!

I haven't gotten my period yet.
But I have another question.........
If you are actually pregnant, do you still get discharge?
Because I have discharge.

And I was wondering what that may mean?

[*xcaitlinx*]

^ discharge could mean that you're getting your period.


my advice is to try not to stress out. ive been in this situation before, and my period was late for over a week. because i was constantly talking about it and asking my boyfriend whether or not he thinks anything could've possibly got in, it delayed it even more. im 99% sure that you aren't pregnant, and that the stress is just delaying it.

[RAWRstephishere]

DUDE>

its called DONT HAVE SEX.

my god.

you cant get pregnant without a penis.

[me1issaaaa]

Honey, if you used protection, it's a reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeally slim chance that anything happened. And the reason why you haven't gotten your period yet is more than likely because you're stressing. Try and stay as calm as you can.

If you're this worried about it, then you probably should stop having sex. You seem like a smart girl... don't be pressured. Use your brain, you're a big girl now. But, if you insist on having sex, use protection everytime. For best and pretty much guarenteed results, have him pull out while STILL using protection.

Be safe [:

[shortnsweet88]

DUDE>

its called DONT HAVE SEX.

my god.

you cant get pregnant without a penis.

Ok, not that I dont COMPLETELY 100% agree with you...

but COME ON...this girl ALREADY had sex...

there is no magical time machine that she can use to take your advice and change what she did...

[cupcakex]

Like everyone's said, it's very unlikely that you're pregnant.
Stressing will push your period back, further and further.
And, you can still be pregnant and have your period.

The best thing for you to do, is get a pregnancy test.
If you really don't want your Mother to find out, take it at a friends house, or make sure you dispose of it properly, so she won't see it.

[*xcaitlinx*]

Did the people who keep saying "duh you shouldn't have had sex in the first place!!!!" even READ her post?

"I'm disappointed with my actions and I plan on telling my boyfriend that I no longer want to continue in these activites until I am older and more mature. I have decided I will not have sex again until I am married. It just seems like a smarter decision."


...it was a mistake, she realizes that, and telling her that she shouldn't have done it is a waste of time and energy. i think she's already figured that out.

[mouse_3k]

stop cryin if the condom stayed on. u have a 99% chance of NOT bein pregnant unless ur lil boyfriend dont know how to put it on properly.

[shaixe]

Beautiful Disaster x, forgive my French, but don't listen to what the @$$holes are saying. Comments like "its called DONT HAVE SEX" are entirely inappropriate. For one thing, it's your life. You may be fifteen, but you realize that what did was a mistake. And the morality behind having sex so young is completely a matter of opinion.

For another thing, you mention getting looked down on for it. I have to admit, when I read the subject of this topic I was thinking "oh no, what has this girl done?" but you display an amazing amount of intelligence 1) in realizing and admitting your belief it was a mistake and 2) by vowing not to do it again until you're ready/married.

Like numerous others, I don't believe you're pregnant. It may be stress, it may be anxiety, it may be any number of things. Don't sweat it. If you wait a few weeks and you still haven't had your period, just stay calm and have a friend drive you down to the drugstore. Or, I would recommend talking to one of your teachers about it. I don't know how you feel about them, but there was always one teacher I could talk to. They're experienced with these kinds of things, trust me. And I'm sure they would know how responsible and smart you are, so you needn't worry about being reprimanded or lectured about it if you admit it was a mistake.

I hope everything works out for you, and I really respect you for the maturity you've shown.

[*xcaitlinx*]

^ which is why she doesn't need people on her back telling her that she's stupid for having sex in the first place.

[demolished]

DUDE>

its called DONT HAVE SEX.

my god.

you cant get pregnant without a penis.

Quiet. She already knows better. People learn their lesson right after they did something meaning she had encountered an experience.

[misoshiru]

well, wait it out. and in the process, maybe you should go on birth control too...just in case you decide to have sex again.

[hii_there]

don't worry, a lot of people do the same thing, its your decision with what you want to do, but i'm proud of you for telling your boyfriend that your not gonna anymore, that sometimes takes a lot of guts for girls to actually say that =] i doubt your pregnent, it just seems like your stressed with things, but my sister had the issue with being athletic, it completely stopped her period, so maybe if you do a lot of sports that could also be something?

[pinacoolada]

I would glady get a pregnancy test but I wouldn't want my mother to find out I was sexually active. It would hurt her. =/

You can get it at your local drug store without your mom.