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 Jun 18 2005, 11:13 PM
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Senior Member  Group: Member Posts: 213 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 12,800  |
what do you all think about "breaks" in a relationship.
do you think its for the good = time apart, then getting back together trying to make it work one more time? or it makes things worse = leading to the official breakup? 
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Jun 19 2005, 12:05 AM
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Hydro Azn Group: Member Posts: 81 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 155,718 |
"If you love something let it go. If it comes back, thats how you know." I dunno, I remember hearing this from somewhere heh.
I think breaks just shows how strong the relationship is. If a person is faithful or is determined to be with that person, the break will result in the person still being with his/her lover. |
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Jun 19 2005, 12:08 AM
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 biglamchops Group: Member Posts: 262 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 149,977 |
Some ppl don't believe in them. They say that it only leads to the end of the relationship. I beleive that sometimes 2 ppl just need their own space to find themselves and realize what they want. If its meant to be then it'll work out. If not..then let go.
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| *mzkandi* |
Jun 19 2005, 01:21 AM
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Taking a break in a relationship may work depending on the relationship. During a break some people realize they are better off without that person, while figure out they cant live withou that person.
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Jun 19 2005, 01:29 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 2,087 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 36,491 |
i personally dont believe in them.
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Jun 19 2005, 02:40 AM
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 Yawn Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 9,530 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,772 |
Hmm, it really matters what situation ur in. But i never believed in "lets go on a break". In a way it can make things more complicated. But i dunno i never experience a "lets go on a break" before. The ones i've seen my friends go through have always led to breakups. only in very special circumstances did they actually get back together afterwards lol.
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Jun 19 2005, 02:45 AM
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Breaks work. Trust me. Its all in how you approach one, though.
Don't say to your significant other, "I think we should take a break," just so you can hook up with someone you've been lusting for. If thats the case, you two shouldn't be together. A break is necessary when there is no intention of infidelity and your feeling about your significant other haven't changed. |
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Jun 19 2005, 02:45 AM
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QUOTE(MrDolphin @ Jun 18 2005, 11:05 PM) "If you love something let it go. If it comes back, thats how you know." I dunno, I remember hearing this from somewhere heh.  yeah i have heard this so many times. i tell people that when they have a break and they just go back to the person because they can not be away from the person for so long |
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Jun 19 2005, 06:58 AM
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 tk prt yr hd Group: Member Posts: 184 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 125,330 |
I personally think it shows a weak relationship when breaks happen.
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Jun 19 2005, 08:07 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 3,077 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,904 |
I think breaks are good sometimes. Everyone needs some alone time to think about their relationship. I've had some breaks with my current boyfriend. When we get back together, it feels great and we treasure each other more.
This relationship has lasted 2 years so I'm guessing the breaks are good. |
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Jun 19 2005, 08:23 AM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
it really depends on that person, some may think it's good and that they can't live without them, while others may think that it's better to not have someone holding them down and wants to break up
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Jun 19 2005, 08:43 AM
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well it depends on the status of the relationship..taking a break can result in two ways..one, is realizing that you don't care about someone as much as you thought you did...two, is realizing that you cared more about that someone and you can't live without him/her
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Jun 19 2005, 09:30 AM
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 naïvety Group: Human Posts: 1,303 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 488 |
QUOTE(MrDolphin @ Jun 19 2005, 1:05 PM) "If you love something let it go. If it comes back, thats how you know." I dunno, I remember hearing this from somewhere heh. Wow, deep.. QUOTE(Se7eN_x @ Jun 19 2005, 9:43 PM) taking a break can result in two ways..one, is realizing that you don't care about someone as much as you thought you did...two, is realizing that you cared more about that someone and you can't live without him/her Wooow, even deeper.... |
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Jun 19 2005, 01:26 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
QUOTE(mzkandi @ Jun 19 2005, 2:21 AM) Taking a break in a relationship may work depending on the relationship. During a break some people realize they are better off without that person, while figure out they cant live withou that person. I agree, some people end up having a stronger relationship because of a break, where others just end up breaking up with each other. |
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| *stephinika* |
Jun 19 2005, 05:26 PM
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yeah i really think it depends on the relationship and its strength because yeah, the results just depend on the two people. like others have said it'll either benefit, or not benefit the couple resulting in either a stronger relationship or a breakup.
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Jun 19 2005, 07:31 PM
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 The Texan Group: Member Posts: 430 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 136,431 |
Good: It gives eachother alone time that might be needed.
Bad: If it's needed, your probably not in th ebest relation ship. Breaks just foreshadow total break ups/ bad relationships. Red flags go up when someone says "I need a break" it usually means they can't handle this relationship but something is nagging at them to stay in it so they'll take a "break". The problem is that this isn't a good long term sign. Of course if your just that way and want a short term person that's just kind of there and stuff. By all means, take breaks as much as you want. |
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Jun 19 2005, 07:37 PM
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 Blasian, Asian, INVASION! Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 |
Breaks usually lead to Breakups NE wayz...A break is a breakup
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Jun 19 2005, 07:55 PM
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 whaaaaaaat? Group: Member Posts: 2,293 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,660 |
in my mind, breaks = delaying the inevitable. i think they're somewhat pointless and it just drags out everything. if ur not happy with each other, break up. don't just say, "lets take a break and wait until we're both attracted to each other again." that's basically what's happening. u lose interest, u regain interest, and repeat. BLAH.
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Jun 19 2005, 08:58 PM
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tk prt yr hd Group: Member Posts: 184 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 125,330 |
Ha, a break for me is when she goes home or spends the day at a friends house =P
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Jun 20 2005, 09:39 AM
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 i need an sn change. Group: Member Posts: 1,915 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 27,746 |
i dont personnaly like breaks.
cuz i still feel somewhat attached to the person while they go on and flirt nonstop. |
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Jun 20 2005, 02:15 PM
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 im addicted to my car<3 Group: Member Posts: 635 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 92,236 |
to me, they mess up a realationship. it seems like it just goes down form there
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Jun 20 2005, 02:42 PM
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 i've never wanted anything rationale. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,449 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 19,045 |
breaks are for couples who want to break up but neither of them have the balls to do it.
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| *AngelicEyz00* |
Jun 20 2005, 02:48 PM
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They basically are break ups.
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Mar 21 2007, 05:33 PM
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I'm on a "break". I don't call it a break, but he does. We're not seeing other people, we're still together, we still hang out and talk on a regular basis, still say we love each other, still do everything like before. I think it's stupid, but whatever.
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Mar 21 2007, 05:42 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 2,746 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 17,125 |
Breaks are a way of saying "I don't want to be with you, but just in case I don't find something better, I'm going to use you as a backup plan."
Breaks = break-ups. They don't lead to break-ups, to me, they are break-ups. I've never been on one. If someone wanted to go on a break, I'd make them pick between staying with me or leaving me. Breaks are for the weak-minded. |
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