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[*Monochrome.*]

That sounds like a really neat idea Diana, in my opinion. I do agree that even though everyone says to go to PM's for problems or to clear things out with certain people it just doesn't ever work. And to have a third party in it as well I think that the whole peer mediators sounds like a neat idea. Although if it were in a forum how exactly would it work if some people don't want their problems with others open to everyone in cB?

Maybe just open up a AIM chat since most people have AIM.
Or if one of the partys dosnt have AIM i know a couple of sites that offer a private chat room.

it would be just person A person B and the mediator.And the rule would be that any disputes that involve a mediators friend would have to be taken to someone else.
if that makes sense an example would be
If person A gets into a dispute with person B but person A knows the mediator handling their issue as a friend.The mediator couldent work out that dispute for the risk of side taking.

But im sure if we did go through with this that the mediators would use their jugdement wisely.

[*Duchess of Dork*]

My tired mind is reading this (your post Diana) and it just sounds like a title (or titles) for someone who is just willing to listen and help people out.

While that is really a nice thought, it takes away from really getting things out, especially if there are "rules."

What folks need to do to is be direct. As Kurd Jam said, having direct involvment is always the best, preferred way of communicating.

Having said all that, if you guys would like to start something up, by all means go for it. I just don't see it being in any officiated capacity. Just something friendly that people know exist, if that makes any sense. :)

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Having said all that, if you guys would like to start something up, by all means go for it. I just don't see it being in any officiated capacity. Just something friendly that people know exist, if that makes any sense. :)

I didn't have a mediator group in mind when I posted, but rather I was trying to raise the point that each individual has the key to solve any personal problems with other CB members (in case there are any, as it seems there are).

That being said, I don't particularly mind having a middle ground where people can discuss openly about solutions for whatever issue is worrying them at the time. Both systems of "problem-solving" should be compatible.

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i havent really been active for the past year or so, and dont have a thorough understanding of whats going on. so i think ill just say this right nwo, from an outsider's perspective who deeply cares about this community.

as josh mentioned, empathy. i think we lack this as a community, and is the cause behind most of the bickerings, personal attacks, the accusing and defending. and all for nothing too, as more harm than good comes out of it, all because no one's willing to listen and empathize.

if only more people were willing to listen first, and talk later, issues would be resolved a lot quicker. lets not forget that the staff members have done a tremendous job keeping this site going. but lets also remember that this site, being a community driven site, is made entirely possible by its members.

and if you feel youre not going anywhere with someone, please, instead of duking it out with one another across the forums, try having an uninvolved third party help resolve the dispute. im available, and im sure many others are as well.

it takes courage to admit a mistake. and it takes understanding to accept one. please, be more courageous! be more understanding!

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as for the topic starter, unfortunately its not possible to have an individual thread where staff members cant see the ips.

I guess now we know 13 days is not enough time for things like this to happen.