Boys, I have a few questions. Options

[*disco infiltrator*]

My boyfriend's in college and used to go to my school (he was a senior when I was a freshman and now he's 19) and he's told me that he doesn't want to go with me. While of course I would really love for him to come with me because I would have more fun with him than anyone, I completely understand why he doesn't want to come with me. It's weird to go back to your old high school for something. If it wasn't his old school, it would be different, but he would feel really awkward going. I'm pretty sure your boyfriend might have the same problem. Try to just imagine how that would be, even if he knows those people...it's weird to go back. That's like going to a middle school dance as a freshman in high school.

However, my boyfriend has given me full permission to go with anyone else since he trusts that I won't do anything out-of-bounds, so that might be something that you would want to discuss with your boyfriend rather than fixating on the fact that he won't go with you.

[*Uronacid*]

Well, from the sounds of it, it seems like his family is having a major influence on his decision to goto the prom. It sounds like they are making fun of him for even wanting to go. The whole thing about him not wanting to talk about it, maybe you should just take a break from him for a while, and allow him some time to loosen up.


I think you should go without him, and have a blast with your friends. I mean, c'mon, you can't go with your friends? I have been to 5 proms... all of them sucked except for two, and at those two proms I didn't have a designated prom date. I mean, I went with a girl, but I danced and hanged out with anyone I wanted to.

P.S. If he's threatening to break up with you because you're going to goto prom then he's just being controlling. Goto the prom anyways.

[*Monochrome.*]

Hes being really stupid.
Go to prom and dance with whoever you want.If he gives you the whole we are done for good bullshit.Tell him that he had the opertunity to go with you and make it clear that he isnt your father so he has not right to tell you who you cant dance with its your f**king senior prom.The f**k you mentality is the one you want to give him since he gave you the f**k you the moment he blew up at you.

And honestly if his desison was because his family got involved then really thats someone you dont want to deal with if every little problem mr.collegepants has he goes to his mummy.
And if your relationship ends because of the fact that you went to prom and danced with another guy.Then again hes not really the one you want to spend the rest of your life with if hes gonna try to have you on some sort of leash.Cause that just wont do either.You dont need that.

Little things like this.Can reflect your relationships future outcome.

[Blaqheartedstar]

i'm soo ruining it for people who want to go... cuz i sooo don't want to go to mines which is in may... but if yah was planning it for a while and he drops out of it then its on him... but if he really doesn't want to go and you keep pressing him then its on you...
i suggest going and having fun... he can't stop you from that

[*Kathleen*]

Aww, Melissa! Honestly, in my opinion, if he really loves you, he would suck it up and go because he knew how important it is for you. I realize that Ariel has a point, but at least in the example that he used, this isn't something that he's going to do by jeopardizing something else, you know? Blargh. Actually, I'm not a big advocate of prom -- I may not even go to mine -- but still, I realize (and he should, too) how important it is for plenty of other girls. I guess that's my two cents. Perhaps just use the "If you really loved me, you'd do this for me" line. I hope it works out.