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When is it over?
lilnae
post Feb 25 2007, 05:44 PM
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So ive been with this guy for two years on and off. Everytime we break it off its always me that does it, he is so good to me, good with my family all that perfect, i know that i love him and want to be with him and that he is what im looking for, i jus cant seem to be with him, its like i mean im 16 and i dont wanna be tied down cuz with him its like we're married im still a teen ya know i mean i wanna be with him in the futre like hes perfect marriage amterial but im not palnning on getting married anytime soon and it like if Im scared if i dont be with him now he wont wann be with me later....so i mean does it mean i should move on and forget him and he should od the same or what Help please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
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post Feb 25 2007, 05:49 PM
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i know what u mean... but you shouldn't hurt him like that, because if you constantly put his hopes up only to shoot them down when you dump him, you might lose him for good. voice your thoughts to him and tell him what you really think.

if you really love him then worrying about being tied down shouldn't be a problem if your happy with him get what i mean?
 
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post Feb 25 2007, 07:06 PM
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^^ Agreed. I mean if he loves you the same way you love him then he'll understand and you two can work things out. I wish ya'll the best!! thumbsup.gif
 
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post Feb 25 2007, 08:15 PM
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It's over when the fat lady sings.
 
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post Feb 26 2007, 05:45 AM
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simple. growup and stop being immature and saying you "dont want to be married" HE ISNT PROPOSING!

sit down and make a decision. either stay with him and be a trustworth gf, or dump him and move on. stop flip-flopping
 
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post Feb 26 2007, 05:54 AM
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I think you're just taking advantage of him. There aren't a whole lot of fish in the sea that are like that. Just think it over. ... not about marrage though. Don't worry. You don't HAVE to have a boyfriend. Especially in school. You've work and a whole lot of other things to focus on. Try talking to him about waiting?
 
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post Feb 26 2007, 07:01 AM
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QUOTE(lilnae @ Feb 25 2007, 5:44 PM) *
So ive been with this guy for two years on and off. Everytime we break it off its always me that does it, he is so good to me, good with my family all that perfect, i know that i love him and want to be with him and that he is what im looking for, i jus cant seem to be with him, its like i mean im 16 and i dont wanna be tied down cuz with him its like we're married im still a teen ya know i mean i wanna be with him in the futre like hes perfect marriage amterial but im not palnning on getting married anytime soon and it like if Im scared if i dont be with him now he wont wann be with me later....so i mean does it mean i should move on and forget him and he should od the same or what Help please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


First of all, if you keep breaking it off then you obviously don't love him more than a friend. You said you don't want to be tied down, even though you claim it's with some one you love, therefore you're being selfish. And love only yourself in this relationship.

To say that you don't want to be in a relationship only because you're a teenager is blind. I'm not going to give you sympathy because it is a big misconception that people want sympathy when they ask for advice. Love doesn't know an age, at least it didn't any other time in history. So, why does it now?

I really think you need to think about this one by yourself. We can't tell you what to do, but I do enjoy yelling at people.
 
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post Feb 27 2007, 01:38 AM
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How about this... COMMUNICATE! It doesn't sound like you have told him what you have told us...
 
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post Mar 2 2007, 02:53 AM
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How about this... COMMUNICATE! It doesn't sound like you have told him what you have told us...


f**king SERIOUSLY!!!! I'm sick of you f**king ladies doing this shit to us. I loved this girl so much and she kept doing this exact same shit to me. It killed me, she was trying to keep me on hold or some shit. Don't mean to be mean, but you're being mean to this nice poor fella.....meany!
 
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post Mar 2 2007, 05:44 AM
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QUOTE(Uronacid @ Feb 27 2007, 1:38 AM) *
How about this... COMMUNICATE! It doesn't sound like you have told him what you have told us...


It seems that's your answer for everything Josh. You should run for president.

I did not have communicational relations with that woman.

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Dude, I barely communicate and it gets me farther than I think it will.
 
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post Mar 2 2007, 06:55 PM
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im 16 and i dont wanna be tied down cuz with him its like we're married im still a teen


Uhh is the situation like this:
  • You guys spend ALL of your free time together either in person on phone/IM/email & you have no time whatsoever to be your own person
  • He tells you who you can(mainly can't) talk to
  • Tells you how you should act like/what you should be
  • Tells you that he wants to get married asap(when you reach legal age) & force you to put aside what you wanna do(career wise. Maybe even college) to be a young housewife
  • Tries to convince you that everyone is against you guys & you 2 are better off yourselves(ex. Stop talking to friends & just talk to only him 24/7)
  • Calls you at least 60+ times a day & if you miss calls he won't stop til you answer
  • Overprotective & thinks you can't do anything yourself
  • Expects you to always bail him out when hes in trouble(most likely financially but it could be other things)
  • You're not allowed to do things without him knowing while he can come & go as he please
If thats what you mean by feeling 'tied down" then just cut him loose. You don't wanna have to put up with that. I went through that for over a year. I felt like if I didn't do what he told me I would be wortheless which actually made me empty cuz I felt my life's purpose was suppose to serve him & make him happy no what the cause. Even if it was at the cost of my own happiness. But now I'm free _smile.gif

But if hes not a controlling freak like what I mentioned above then its all on you. Nothing wrong with him if thats the case.

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f**king SERIOUSLY!!!! I'm sick of you f**king ladies doing this shit to us. I loved this girl so much and she kept doing this exact same shit to me. It killed me, she was trying to keep me on hold or some shit. Don't mean to be mean, but you're being mean to this nice poor fella.....meany!


^^ agreed. So really...think about it. & for goodness sakes talk to the guy!

[Edit] If he does find someone else, I wouldn't blame him
 
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